Where does your partner cum?

[Longsight2019]

After a conversation with a friend about where her husband likes to ‘finish’ it made me wonder what is the most likely place guys like to leave their ‘deposit’.

In my experience a creampie is their ultimate and for obvious reasons, but on the whole does that happen most of the time, or do people use condoms, simply pull out, or do the porn facial thing?

Depending on time of month we alternate between cum inside and withdrawal, just to offer our method as a starting point.

[jessstan2]

Parker - :-) :-) :-)

[Parkerwhereareyou]

@jessstan2

Parker - :-) :-) :-)

:D

[CallMeCleo]

May I ask, please, why it is that everyone on this thread who has mentioned it, uses the word "ass" instead of "arse"?

Are you all Americans?

[jessstan2]

People have donkeys, maybe?

[everywhichway]

Supposing we are all Americans - would that be a problem?

[sammylady37]

@Parkerwhereareyou

- a majority of men want to finish on our faces and most women don’t want them to

??? Ok, I promise, I am not being deliberately provocative here (for once). But:

What is the problem with cum on your face?

I honestly really do not understand why it would be a problem. It's funny, it's cool, it's a great moment, it's a turn on when it just does was it does, and if it goes on your cheeks/mouth/nose/forehead/chin/eyebrows ... really what is the problem?

I don't get it. I genuinely don't get why anyone would not like that, or find it a hardship.

If you fancy and love your partner, don't you love his cum? How could you reject that? It's lovely stuff. It's him. How could you possibly not adore it???

This is a genuine question. I'm puzzled. And I think that when women are like 'omg I hate it - so messy' then that means either they're v uptight and unempathetic or they're with the wrong guy.

... just saying : )

Crikey. You post about how you ‘genuinely don’t get’ how others don’t like a particular sex act that you do, and then go on to say they must be unempathetic. They’re not the unempathetic ones in this scenario, you are, for seemingly being unable to comprehend that others simply don’t like the same things sexually that you do. It’s not rocket science, is it?

I love cum and what it represents and will happily and enthusiastically take it anywhere on or in my body except my face. I. Just. Don’t. Like. That. I perceive it to be degrading. Others may perceive it to be tremendously arousing, as is their perogative. I’ve no doubt that some of what turns me on would be perceived as degrading by others, but that doesn’t matter to me, and I certainly wouldn’t call them uptight and unempathetic, or say they’re with the wrong guy just because they have different sexual preferences to me. I mean, are you really that arrogant, to think everyone must share your sexual preferences and they’re the right ones? Are you really that ignorant, to not be able to ‘get’ that there’s a whole world and range of sex acts and preferences and that not every person likes every thing? Are you small-minded enough to think that your sphere of sexual enjoyment is the only way? Your ‘just saying’ at the end of your posts suggests you think you’re doing it right and anyone who disagrees is wrong, an attitude which is amongst other things, truly pathetic.

[Parkerwhereareyou]

@sammylady37

I think that anyone who says to another poster truly pathetic in a place where we are supposed to be able to say what we think without fear of being verbally abused is ... well ... you said it.

I perceive it to be degrading

Thank you. I said I honestly don't get why some people don't like cum in their faces. The answer 'because they just don't' wasn't enough - I know and totally respect that they don't - that wasn't at issue and wasn't the question. So thanks for explaining.

The question was why because I genuinely couldn't get it. My own feelings towards this are so different. It's not I think my way is better!! I just wanted to understand how others see it, and I'm sorry if to you that came across as some kind of arrogance - far from it. I was just trying to come up with reasons why they wouldn't like it, being at a loss.

So thanks for explaining. I still can't see why it's degrading, but of course accept that for some it feels like that.

I do have a point here that I will defend though. If you remove for one moment the negative porn associations some seem to have as a foundation for the feeling it's a degrading act, you're left with .....

Semen cannot be allowed to touch the face. Because it is unpleasant in some way. And/or the act itself is.

My 'way' of having sex doesn't have a barrier about where semen can be. I would feel that was rejecting/shaming him on some level. It would work both ways. (I know some disagree violently with my idea that pussy juice all over his face is the same thing, but I don't see how it isn't).

So maybe what's annoying some here is my feeling that if you're happy for him to be lapping at your pussy and getting his face all wet, then you shouldn't mind him cumming on your face.

Just that.

[Parkerwhereareyou]

Also ok here comes the deeper comment.

You are lucky if degradation and disrespect is, for you, the guy you love cumming on your face.

Because trust me, real degradation and disrespect looks a lot different to that.

[sammylady37]

@Parkerwhereareyou

Also ok here comes the deeper comment.

You are lucky if degradation and disrespect is, for you, the guy you love cumming on your face.

Because trust me, real degradation and disrespect looks a lot different to that.

Jesus.
Not sure this even warrants a reply, it’s so dismissive, ignorant and arrogant all at once but anyway- you do know that people can find more than one thing degrading, don’t you? If people post that they find a particular sexual act degrading, who the hell are you to say to them that it’s actually ‘not real degradation’?
The mind boggles. Deny it all you like but you certainly seem to think your way and opinion are the ‘right’ ones and anyone not subscribing to them is wrong.

[sammylady37]

Oh and btw, not everyone is having sex with ‘the guy (they) love’. Some people are fucking near strangers, casual acquaintances etc so sex isn’t always something in a loving relationship and the cum on face scenario isn’t necessarily only with someone they love. Obviously. Reducing it to that to try make your point about what is/isn’t degrading is disingenuous.

[Mooncats]

Him cumming on my face is my favourite thing but I would defend to the death anyone's right to just not like it . What's happened to this forum with women calling other women 'uptight' for not wanting certain things or putting other women down for feeling degraded when it is their basic right to have boundaries .

[Annwen]

I've never liked someone cumming on my face, not because I felt it to be 'degrading' just that I don't like it and it stings like hell if you get it in your eyes! I just like the guy to come in my vagina, and that almost always brings me to orgasm. If anyone else gets off on having it on their face, in their bum or wherever, good for them! Who am I to judge...

[Parkerwhereareyou]

@Mooncats

** would defend to the death anyone's right to just not like it . What's happened to this forum with women calling other women 'uptight' for not wanting certain things or putting other women down for feeling degraded when it is their basic right to have boundaries .

I really don’t know how many times and how loudly I have to say that I totally agree and respect someone not liking it. That was always a given.

My question was why they didn’t like it.

And if they found it degrading, why.

That’s not disrespecting them for not liking it. It’s also not not accepting they don’t like it.

If you can’t see the very clear difference between those things then I can’t explain it to you any more clearly.

@sammylady37

No not disingenuous. I said in the context of a loving relationship, I’d feel it needed to work both ways. You’re being disingenuous by bringing in blowjobs in pubs with strangers, etc. To undermine my actual meaning again.

I would find giving a stranger a blowjob in a pub demeaning full stop. Whether he came on my face or not.

The question was where does your partner come. I thought that meant relationship partner.

Anyhow you’re determined to say I meant something I didn’t, which is fine. Another example of some women thinking their voice is more valid, and appropriating the female experience.

Much more interesting to answer the actual question of why it would be degrading.

[sammylady37]

Another example of some women thinking their voice is more valid, and appropriating the female experience

That’s pretty rich coming from the person who said:

You are lucky if degradation and disrespect is, for you, the guy you love cumming on your face.

Because trust me, real degradation and disrespect looks a lot different to that

Talk about thinking one’s ‘voice is more valid and appropriating the female experience’!

[Mooncats]

It is called a boundary , Parker .

Women don't have to go to great lengths explaining why they have certain boundaries .

Women don't have to go to great lengths justifying why their boundaries are just as valid as others ( despite your insistence there are far worse things ).

We can have boundaries ... wait for it ... just because .

[Parkerwhereareyou]

@sammylady37
I don’t know if you’re deliberately not understanding, or if you just don’t understand. And all of this is also nothing to do with the original thrust of the thread.

@Mooncats
I don’t know how many times I have to say that I never for one second suggested that people’s boundaries should be respected.

Please both respect my boundaries too.

[Parkerwhereareyou]

Ha great typo

I never for one moment suggested that people’s boundaries shouldn’t be respected.

[sammylady37]

[quote Parkerwhereareyou]@sammylady37
I don’t know if you’re deliberately not understanding, or if you just don’t understand. And all of this is also nothing to do with the original thrust of the thread.

@Mooncats
I don’t know how many times I have to say that I never for one second suggested that people’s boundaries should be respected.

Please both respect my boundaries too.[/quote]
I’m not misunderstanding at all. You’re the one who said you ‘genuinely (didn’t) get’ why some women don’t like cum on their faces, and went on to say that you thought they must be ‘unempathetic’. When I called you out on that being nonsense and explained to you why I don’t like it, which is because I perceive it to be degrading, you first claimed I thought my ‘voice was more valid and was appropriating the female experience’ and then demonstrating a remarkable lack of self-awareness you came out with a statement which quite frankly is one of the most disgusting and vile things I’ve ever read on mumsnet, namely that

You are lucky if degradation and disrespect is, for you, the guy you love cumming on your face.
Because trust me, real degradation and disrespect looks a lot different to that

I don’t know what it is you think I’m misunderstanding, your points are not exactly complex, even if they’re lacking in awareness and empathy and are dismissive and arrogant as well.

[Parkerwhereareyou]

@sammylady37

For the last time.
I was trying to understand a taboo.
Why this particular action is seen by some as so degrading.

I also said, yes, that if in the context of a loving relationship - not abusive, not porn - it felt degrading, then that was a good place to be in a way. Because my experience of what is degrading is on a different plane. I realise I haven’t detailed that, and I won’t, but I probably am an unfortunately authentic voice on that. (One of many voices - can only speak for myself)

I do think there is a line sometimes here where those with louder voices say they’re speaking for most women. I dislike that. I’m not speaking for anyone. Just myself. And with zero intent to offend.

I love my partner to cum on my face. That’s it.

[sammylady37]

[quote Parkerwhereareyou]@sammylady37

For the last time.
I was trying to understand a taboo.
Why this particular action is seen by some as so degrading.

I also said, yes, that if in the context of a loving relationship - not abusive, not porn - it felt degrading, then that was a good place to be in a way. Because my experience of what is degrading is on a different plane. I realise I haven’t detailed that, and I won’t, but I probably am an unfortunately authentic voice on that. (One of many voices - can only speak for myself)

I do think there is a line sometimes here where those with louder voices say they’re speaking for most women. I dislike that. I’m not speaking for anyone. Just myself. And with zero intent to offend.

I love my partner to cum on my face. That’s it.[/quote]
You don’t seem to get that you accused me of having a louder voice and appropriating the female experience, which I never did. Farcically, you then went on to appropriate it yourself by telling me that what I perceived as degrading was “a lot different to...real degradation and disrespect”. If you are only speaking for yourself, then don’t make such black and white comments as that and don’t present yourself as an authority with your “trust me” entreaty. You have zero idea what levels of degradation and disrespect ive experienced, literally zero idea, and it is disgusting and offensive to have you tell me I haven’t experienced ‘real degradation and disrespect’ just because I perceive something that you enjoy to be degrading.

[Parkerwhereareyou]

@sammylady37
Yes of course. So sorry. You're absolutely right about everything.

That ok?

[sammylady37]

[quote Parkerwhereareyou]@sammylady37
Yes of course. So sorry. You're absolutely right about everything.

That ok? [/quote]
Sarcasm. The lowest form of wit.
Nicely demonstrated!

[Parkerwhereareyou]

@sammylady37

Sarcasm. The lowest form of wit.
Nicely demonstrated!

It's not sarcasm. It's exhaustion. You are determined to attack everything I say, so I am giving up and just saying what you want.

🙏

[dogfishman]

Am a chap, and while facials aren't really my thing I certainly wouldn't question a woman who did or didn't want one. It's just a personal preference, like coffee vs tea, and may or may not relate to degradation, taste or anything else. If she didn't like my cum more generally then I wouldn't question that either (her right, obvs), but I might ask myself whether we were compatible.
Curiously, with the right woman I find having her juices on my face much more erotic than the other way round.