@Parkerwhereareyou
- a majority of men want to finish on our faces and most women don’t want them to
??? Ok, I promise, I am not being deliberately provocative here (for once). But:
What is the problem with cum on your face?
I honestly really do not understand why it would be a problem. It's funny, it's cool, it's a great moment, it's a turn on when it just does was it does, and if it goes on your cheeks/mouth/nose/forehead/chin/eyebrows ... really what is the problem?
I don't get it. I genuinely don't get why anyone would not like that, or find it a hardship.
If you fancy and love your partner, don't you love his cum? How could you reject that? It's lovely stuff. It's him. How could you possibly not adore it???
This is a genuine question. I'm puzzled. And I think that when women are like 'omg I hate it - so messy' then that means either they're v uptight and unempathetic or they're with the wrong guy.
... just saying : )
Look at the study - not liking it is not uncommon, particularly the longer into a relationship it is, and the less porn you watch. I absolutely detest porn and in a longterm marriage, so clearly I’m in that demographic.
I have a very opposite reaction to you. I definitely find it neither funny nor cool. It has nothing to do with being messy. External ejaculation is not an issue for me, but doing it over the face is. To me it’s a deliberate attempt to degrade, it’s painful if it gets into your eyes, it’s unpleasant if it goes up your nose. I find the act of ejaculating on to someone’s face deeply unpleasant, which I am entitled to feel. I’m not uptight or prudish, and enjoy many things that I’m sure others wouldn’t or don’t.
It’s really not your place to call other people uptight or make judgements about their relationship because they don’t enjoy the things you like. It’s quite disturbing, actually. Some women don’t like having ejaculate on them. Some will have a sensory issue with it, some won’t like how it feels. Your judgements about people having individual preferences is really odd. This is like the oral sex discussion all over again - some people won’t accept that people like or dislike different things and it’s perfectly valid. And even if someone is “uptight”, that’s their right and it’s not an insult, just an insulting euphemism for having boundaries.
It’s something I have done many times, when I didn’t want to. I was in a relationship with a porn addict which was abusive, and due to previous abuse I went along with a lot of things I didn’t actually enjoy. Even convinced myself that I did enjoy these things when actually much of it was traumatic for me. Responses to abuse vary, and I think many of us who’ve been abused can end up with acts that feel degrading involved in our sex lives. I think at times I’ve even chosen to do things that are degrading, even after what I’ve been through, because I’m damaged by what’s happened. I have completely changed my outlook and have had to carefully unpick my sexual preferences and my lines in the sand. This is one of several.
I can completely understand why others might not enjoy the things I enjoy, some of which are bizarrely taboo. What I don’t understand is this faux wide-eyed “how can you possibly not like that”.
Worse still, I’ve heard the sort of coercive language you’re employing from that abusive ex - if you love me / fancy me then you should enjoy x, y and z (or indeed any single sexual thing they can think of). There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having sexual boundaries, and nothing wrong with this being one of them. The fact that you as an individual don’t get it is irrelevant.