How do you cum during sex?

[HelmutShmacker]

I'm seeing someone who says all his previous partners came from PIV alone. I thought most women cum during foreplay?

So who is right? Is it more common to cum through PIV? Or oral and manual sex etc? I have only ever been with two people in my life and have never had an orgasm during sex.

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It is often easier to cum from foreplay. Many women cannot cum from PIV alone. I'm lucky I can but the thought of no foreplay isn't great unless it is a spontaneous quicke..before DH leaves for work !

You need to make sure your partner pays more attention to your needs and relax you so you can cum

I cum through PIV but, anal and oral are far easier

Usually l climax through oral.

But foreplay is part of sex. It shouldn’t be seen as something seperate in isolation. Nor should the route to orgasm be important.

I can do both but from conversations with friends lots can't come unless from manual and oral either before or after Piv sex.

So those of you who can, do you mind if there's no foreplay then? He said he doesn't like giving oral to women, so that's out the question. Just trying to see if I'm an awkward woman or if most of us require more than PIV alone

Ditch the selfish twerp op. Sounds like an excuse and if he's not willing to do what pleasures you then why should you do what pleasures him. HE is not in control.

I've only slept with him twice due to lockdown etc so not serious. But yes I was thinking of just cutting him off tbh. He's very arrogant

I’v been criticised on MN for saying this before. But my body, my rules! I have the oral conversation with somebody before they cross the boudoir threshold. No oral, no entry, no exceptions!

Sex without foreplay is very poor. Have you asked whey he doesn't like oral as never met one that didn't aside from some that don't like pubic hair if you have any?

Predominantly, my DW will cum during piv, but with her providing clitoral stimulation (fingers or bullet).

She’s never cum from solely piv (before me, also).

Different strokes for different folks.

@StarlightLady why have you been criticised for that? I can't see the problem

@Namechangedyorkshire He says he just doesn't like doing it, which is fair enough really

... sounds like his previous partners, and I suspect there were many as they didn't stick around for long, were good at faking it.

He said he's been with 15 + people and they all came effortlessly from PIV alone, and he made a comment about it being hard to make me cum. That's when I said don't most women cum via foreplay? I started questioning myself as to be honest I don't have a clue what's normal and what's not

Did he tell you this in a kind way or somehow to criticise? If the latter, just get rid of him.

The truth is that people have orgasms (or no orgasms) in different ways for different reasons. It really helps if you find the man hot and sexy, he doesn't cum too quickly and if he makes you feel really comfortable. So if you can't orgasm through penetrative sex with him, please feel free to blame him, how he looks, his performance in bed and how he makes you feel in general.

Many women never orgasm through penetrative sex. It's perfectly normal.

@HelmutShmacker - Thank you. I was told in no uncertain terms that l was selfish and if a man made the same demands they would be Drummed off MN. But they are not demands they are my rules. If someone wants to share my body, that’s nice, nobody has been forced, but it is still mine, so l think l’m entitled to say about the handling of it.

Tell him he's been with 15+ fakers op 🤣 We've all done it & men fall for it every time. 😜

If it's not gonna do it for you then what's the point? Bin him.

Well if you have told them the rule long before you are even in the bedroom they can decide if they want to go ahead and sleep with you or not. It's not like you wait until you are both naked and then demand oral sex lol. Out of curiosity has anyone ever said no?

They lied op. Likely to get the entire episode done with!! He needs dumping!!

Never ever have anything to do with a man that doesn’t know what his tongue is for!

Another hand up for PIV combined with manual clit stimulation. plus plenty of foreplay first.

There is always usually foreplay involved before i orgasm during sex unless it is a quickie and then I might finish myself off or he will manually afterwards. Sounds like a selfish prick to me Op who has been with a lot of women who prob faked it!

Well for me oral always before piv. So if no oral...

If he wants to make me cum again afterwards I'm cool with that

I've never orgasmed through PIV and a quick google shows close to 60% of women don't. Like previous posters have said his previous lovers will have faked it. I know as I used to do that when I was younger.
He sounds lazy and arrogant. DUMP!

This is going to sound like a lie, but I can promise you I’m being 100% sincere. I met DH when I was 25, having been in two 2+ year relationships prior to meeting him. In both of those relationships I had never climaxed through PIV, even after significant foreplay and coming very close to it, as soon as P entered V it was over for me. I just assumed I was one of those woman who could only “finish” through foreplay.

However, DH have now been together for 7 years and I can count on two hands the amount of times I haven't finished during sex. It doesn’t matter if we do foreplay first, or just a quickie, for some reason he can make me climax during PIV without fail, when nobody else has ever been able to. So sometimes I do think it depends who you’re with, sometimes the sex just “works” and that’s all it takes. There’s no magic science. However, any guy who refused to go down on me would be out the door, that’s just selfish.