How do you cum during sex?

[HelmutShmacker]

I'm seeing someone who says all his previous partners came from PIV alone. I thought most women cum during foreplay?

So who is right? Is it more common to cum through PIV? Or oral and manual sex etc? I have only ever been with two people in my life and have never had an orgasm during sex.

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I’ve been with quite a few women and never met one to orgasm from PIV other than, if done right, follow up orgasms during PIV after the first orgasm from oral or finger work.

He's crap in bed and is blaming you . Dump his ass.

I can cum from piv but there is usually plenty of foreplay involved first and it’s not everytime. If I don’t cum then he helps finish me off after, that’s just being polite surely?

Your boyfriend sounds like an ass and I don’t think you will be missing anything if you ditch him tbh. How rude to comment like it’s a failing on your part!!

Most of them, if not all, faked it with him. I'd bet my life on it.

I can't come during just PIV and I personally know 0 women who can.

He is a lazy and selfish dick. Get rid.

Strangely, not through PIV on its own generally until late 30's. Sex seems to get better with age, however, now I can, doesn't mean I would want to be without foreplay, pretty much like foreplay on its own without PIV would also seem like something is missing. So both is fulfilling usually. If someone doesn't do oral, they would not get oral in return, less satisfaction all round in that case.

My best session was via
Foreplay
PIV
Post play!

With a well endowed partner, not selfish and hugely passionate.

@mrsmummy111 this! Sometimes it just works.

I've been with women that don't cum from PIV, but do from oral/manual. Less frequently women that don't cum from oral, but do from PIV. There's women that just struggle to cum either way.

There's women that cum once and they're done, and some that can a few times, and there's others that can literally keep cumming and cumming. Women are all very different, as are men. Some pairings result in different outcomes.

Foreplay before, then wife masturbates whilst we PIV. The combination sends us both over the edge and normally at the same time.

Can those of you that can, are you able to cum in any position during sex? I could cum during missionary with my ex but that was it.

Me on top or missionary. Would love to from behind but it's never happened.

I can only assume most, if not all, were fakers.
Having said that, DH and I mostly come at the save time during PIV, I need a bit of manual stimulation too though.
I think I'd come twice with PIV prior to him, and there were many men before him! I came first time we had sex. One of the reasons I married him 😬

My understanding was most women don’t come from PIV, but many can. The 60% statistic mentioned above sounds about right so i suspect he’s come across a fair few fakers, but perhaps not all of them were lying. I personally almost always come from PIV, often more than once, and can come in almost any position but prefer not to be on top (mainly due to laziness tbh). I love oral and it’s a regular part of our sex life, but I rarely come from it alone (same with fingers, love it but almost never come from it alone with a partner). PIV really is a favourite for me but tbh if oral was permanently off the menu then I’d be looking for a new partner!

Never ever from pIV. Different partners too. But I do get fantastic foreplay.

When I analyse my sex life with my DW, I realise how formulaic it has become, but partly because it works for us! If we are having a proper 'session' it might be 20-30mins of kissing and general foreplay possibly followed by me going down on her which I enjoy and only recently realised how much she does too.
This is followed by PIV in missionary although I roll slightly to the side so I can stimulate her whilst moving in & out. After her orgasm I will either continue in this position or she asks to bend over and go doggy style before I finish. I realise this probably sums up 95% of our sexual liaisons and I'm a bit embarrassed now by the lack of variety and will try to do something about this moving forward!

I only come from PIV if I'm already cumming when it goes in, or have very recently.

Then it can carry on (and is amazing) so DH generally moves ready to go to PIV as soon as I'm cumming hard.

But I have never come just from PIV without some sort of clit stimulation.

I think your guy is lying/lovers have faked.

I have never had an organum during sex. Only can orgasum during foreplay. Tried so hard ... never worked.

AIBU for using the word cum. It is come.

@HelmutShmacker

Can those of you that can, are you able to cum in any position during sex? I could cum during missionary with my ex but that was it.

I thought you said you'd never had an orgasm during sex?!

I can come through piv but certain positions make it faster. Also having a clit orgasm before sex makes me orgasm faster through piv for some reason.

I cum very easily, and through PIV regularly, but my DH tells me I am a rarity. Plus, I need to feel relaxed and completely at ease for solely PIV.

But no foreplay? Yikes.

Tbh, sounds like his ex partners were either fobbing him off or he was filling in any gaps in his story.

A mix depending on what’s going on/how turned on I am. I’ll only squirt if it’s really really good and that normally needs a lot of work.

@PiscesLady

I have never had an organum during sex. Only can orgasum during foreplay. Tried so hard ... never worked.

Foreplay is sex though. I'm sure you wouldn't be very pleased if your partner had an affair but then said 'but it wasn't sex! Just oral & foreplay'!

Before current partner, i had never come during PIV without clitoral stimulation from my hand. but with this guy i can often come just in missionary...it's part the way he moves (and the length of time he's able to control his own orgasm for), i think and part how turned on i get before we get to penetration. he's not a fan of oral (giving or receiving) but he compensates in other ways, so i'm ok with that. I think i'd miss it more if the rest of the sex was awful.

I find i can't always come that easily though, even during oral (or using a vibrator). sometimes it just doesn't work...i can be a bit finicky...everything has to be exactly right and not change (speed, pressure, placement) and that can be hard for a guy. My ex was amazing, but we did have a decade to perfect it (I don't remember it being so good at the start...).

If he’s said that one or maybe two previous partners could orgasm easily from PIV with no other stimulation then possibly that would be true. But all of them, over 15? The man doesn’t know a fake orgasm when he sees one, that’s for sure.

You are not “hard to make cum” - he isn’t putting the work in.

In previous relationships I had never orgasmed from PIV. With DH I do, multiple times pretty much every time.

The reason IMO is that he spends a long time on foreplay, and is ridiculously good with his hands - by the time we have penetrative sex my G spot is ready to go. It is only sensitive when I’m very turned on, after a lot of foreplay. Then it’s super easy to orgasm from PIV in pretty much any position and without any other stimulation.