Blow jobs and hygiene

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Has anyone successfully managed to have this conversation witho embarrassment and offensive?

My new boyfriend is hygienic in general - no worries about smells or cleanliness in any sense except his penis smells of urine. Suspect it is because he is very (very!) small when flaccid and so is soaking his pubes when going for a wee.

I tried to give him head today which normally I love, and had to stop immediately because of the smell. Granted it was 10+hours after his shower but still

Is there a way without being blunt?

I'd ask him to wash it to be honest, I wouldn't be offended.

As and when there's a potential dick in mouth scenario at ours I give it a quick once over.
I can't imagine any not smelling of piss hours after showering.

He needs to shower just before. I wouldn't expect anyone to go down on me hours after showering. (Female, in case anyone cares.)

I always keep mine clean in case of unplanned treats! And it applies to both genders, in my single years, in the days before pubes disappeared, I encountered a few smelly fannies.

I’m a bit puzzled as to how he soaks his pubes to be honest. I think it’s time that, if not a razor, then at least the scissors come out if that is really happening.

10+ hours after a shower is too long for intimacy. Where circumstances permit, which is most of the time, l prefer to shower before sex, so why not suggest this? You can both hop in together.

Feeling clean enhances body confidence too.

He's a bit inconsiderate to expect something so 'intimate' hours after a shower
Dh would at the very least have a quick freshen up if he was feeling lucky!

I don't think there's any way to have the conversation without him being embarrassed. I'd just say summat like your really funny about giving head unless it's just been washed. Maybe suggest trimming pubes or just completely shaving them off. My partner removes all of his and honestly looks so much better and loads cleaner

In his defence he doesn't 'expect' head it's just something I would normally love to do as part of sex or just because. And seems so odd to spend the day together then go shower before sex! Not an issue I've had before but previous guys have had no pubes and I think that's the issue.

I have dressed it up as I struggle to give head with the hair but I would be if I heard men saying that to women - it's his body after all. But will see if he changes that and it helps, otherwise will just suggest we both get cleaned up first.

I shave the balls and base of the shaft, with the pubic bush always trimmed. Having said that, if I did not and someone told me that I would get much more in the BJ department if I were to shave, then it would a case of 'show me where the razor is'. I simply cannot imagine a man not complying with this simple request if he is going to receive more head.

Why not voice your request and then proceed to shave him, giving him a BJ to finish, and then telling him that there is more where that came from if he keeps himself as fresh as you wish?

Well either be blunt or dress it up about how erotic you find it if he was fully shaved. I suspect he will do...presume you do shave or wax anyway if you re not keen in hair. If not then reciprocate.

OP, I’m afraid l have no idea why you think it odd to spend the day together and then shower before sex. I would use the word ‘polite’ rather than odd.

Have fun shaving each other and taking a joint shower maybe

Large wet wipes by the bed!

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@Thelittleweasel surely that can't be done subtly?! I mean if I just start wiping him down he might be offended!

I can't see the problem with saying, I'm going to give you 5 mins for a quick shower and I'll join you in bed once I've had a shower too.

My DP religiously washes his cock after every pee. Sometimes he has pubes, sometimes not. Think he has done this throughout adulthood. He loves blowjobs. Always BJ ready lol.

If I’ve showered in the morning and expecting sex in the evening then I have a quick wash beforehand - indeed, I’d usually have a wash at the end of the day just to freshen up anyway especially in warm weather. Doesn’t need to be a full on shower, but expecting anyone to put their face in your stale groin is just disrespectful. If it was a one-off, fair enough; but it’s routinely, you need to tell him you really enjoy going down but a freshen up is in order.

Just keep a spray bottle of Flash multi cleaner handy. all will be fresh and perked up then. !

If I thought I was getting some oral action then I'd make sure I was fresh all the time, unfortunately my OH refuses to even try it as "that's where pee comes from".

@Myotherusernamewastakenagain that's terrible! How sad that you are missing out. I do too frankly, but I've not got to the bottom of the issue yet.

OP, he needs to shower. He shouldn't be offended by you asking him to shower. Maybe just shower yourself and that'll be a big enough hint.

@Alonelonelyloner there has been years of promises to try it that have never materialised. I try to let it go as it's quite hurtful when you're one and only stays so far in the comfort zone that they won't even think about trying anything that you suggest. It's not just a bedroom think though, there are loads and loads of irrational fears that affect everything else.

Really its up to him to maintain good standards of hygiene. Personally if there is even a hint of any frightfulness i ensure im shower fresh and i expect the same. I ensure that my bush is clipped and when i have a pee, wherever possible i wash my willy. Bidets are not often seen in UK loos but they are a wonderful appliance.

Guys often enjoy being washed down at the basin. Fill with warm water use antibacterialsoap which washes v well. Gets rid of any odour. Make sure you pull their bellend down first (unless they are circumcised) and wash well with plenty of soap then wipe clean with a wet flannel. They tend to find this erotic and get turned on. You will see them grow and stand to attention!

Sounds like a plan Polly..

Guys often enjoy being washed down at the basin.

Erm, what?!

Yep, after first date with current DP I led him upstairs and ordered him into the shower while I watched him wash! He later said it was incredibly weird and incredibly hot all at the same time!
If your DP is not going to be considerate OP, you will just have to take charge.

Men need to understand that stinky smegma can build up something chronic under the foreskin. Even circumcised men can smell however it depends on how well they wash and how much they sweat.Tight boxers won't help matters either.