Male Opinions (Female Orgasm)

[cosmicbabe]

Good afternoon,

I would like honest opinions please. If your significant other took a long time to orgasm every time, would this start making sex feel like a chore or would you not mind?

I'm thinking longer than 45 minutes...

Thanks.

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I'm in this position (man) and yes, it becomes a chore and the elephant in the room.

It is what it is, but is certainly something that I wish was different, having had partners who orgasm in 5-15 mins via PIV, oral or manual stimulation.

My DW is in the 45 mins + category and I'll be honest, it's a chore and a bore - probably similar if the genders were reversed?

Tbh, mostly it would just be impractical. I don't have 45 minutes spare in the average evening or if I do I'm exhausted. If it was important to me that my DW orgasmed each time, despite taking such a long time, then I think it would put me off sex.

Whether it was a chore would depend on that I had to do to get her there. It it meant spending 45 minutes getting cactus tongue or drilling away with a vibrator then yes, tbh, that would be dull and a chore.

As a tangent, I think that helps explain the orgasm gap (ie, men orgasm most times they have sex, heterosexual women don't, but lesbians do - but the kicker is that lesbians get it on less - time pressure perhaps?)

45 mins sounds a long time to get someone going every single time ????

What is it that takes your partner so long have you asked her what she enjoys ? Has this always been the case ????

Yes I would not want to be giving my partner a Bj for 45 mins it would hurt my neck so I can understand the frustration.

In those 45 mins what exactly happens is it just one area you work on have you figured out a pattern ?????

It must be annoying for your partner aswell ????

Oh shut I forgot this said Male options my bad 😂

It depends. If she were totally enjoying each of those 45 minutes and that I was involved in the activity too, then fine.

However, if it were a solid 45 mins of me/her trying to get over the edge, then no thanks.

Female here, can’t you introduce a toy to speed things up?

Thanks everyone. Yes sorry I'm the girl. It's not every time but it does take a prolonged amount of time. I've never orgasmed (with someone) under say 15 / 20 mins... Also never from Intercourse. We do use toys and that helps. I guess I was just more interested to see what other guys thought and if they preferred to be with someone that orgasmed quickly. Guess it's a bit open ended really and will have to work something out

Hey does it take that long for yourself ???? Is that just they way you are ? If so cool !!!!

Maybe like communicate with partner and keep spicing things up !

Me and my partner tried dry humping once cuz I wasn’t really in the mood and we ended up having the best sex ever hahah

No I can cum solo in under 5 minutes FML lol. Maybe it's like ED that men get but for women?

Does this happen with all partners ?
Mi can come quicker solo cuz I know what I like and when you on ya own it’s just quick release innit !!!

But it could be about bei comfortable or letting them know But I now I am like no do that and then Bam it’s so good and worth it it does feel like you critique someone . My hubby has told me numerous times how he prefers oral and I try to Accor after as best as I can lol and luckily does the job lol

A lot of the times I just end up faking it so as not to bore my BF

Oh no hun that sucks and it’s gonna be hard for you to say . How old are you ?

I am 34 and when I was like in my 20s I was defo more complacent shall we say . As I’ve got olde ri have defo got more confident in saying what I do and don’t like and it works both ways . I wouldn’t like it if my partner didn’t enjoy it .

I think a lot of the time women are out under pressure to perform in the bedroom to stroke partners ego and we worry about hurting their feelings .

The once me and my partner was having sex and it was mediocre as he wasn’t very hard as second time round lol I said look not being funny but this age worth the hassle lol

He was like ok all my mates said wtf but I was like what’s the point in lying I don’t think he particularly enjoyed it !!!!!

But if I had been younger I would have gone along I think as to not upset anyone. It’s so tough I am lucky I think as I always come literally can count on one hand times j haven’t due to not being in mood mentally or drunk and too dry lol .

I think you should talk to your partner though and try different things.
Look up edging that is where you are brought so close to orgasm then it’s stops or moves on somewhere else.
If you don’t tell your partner what works he’s gonna keep doing the same thing he thinks is getting you off ?

Good luck

Have you tried finishing yourself of with a toy after intercourse? You may be more relaxed then and come quicker? I often do this and find I only need about a minute with a toy.

If you were to sort yourself out first with him there, could you then have sex with him and maybe come again as you'd be well warmed up?