Can you learn how to deep throat?

[topsecretlady]

I was idly wondering about sex the other day and I am remembered that some people seem to be able to deep throat. There was at least one girl at uni who claimed she could. Is anyone here able to do it and did you teach yourself somehow? I am talking about being able to give a blow job so deep your nose touches his stomach.

I have no idea if it's actually any good but I was just curious. It seems like a fun trick to have up your sleeve for the right situation.

Not today thank you !

@topsecretlady

Practice with a peeled banana!

I have a pretty small mouth but find that when the guy assists me, I have no problem deep throating . My usual method would be to do hands plus mouth but when I remove the hand and he starts pushing my head down and thrusting upwards , I can deep throat ok .

mummillion I am not sure I like the sound of pushing my head down and thrusting upwards. Is that actually any fun for you? Is that how you first found out you could do it?

I am thinking it must be a little like sword swallowing. I saw a sword swallower recently and it looked pretty amazing. The main differences are that hopefully a cock won't kill you if you do it wrong but a cock is also much shorter than a sword. But then I read that it takes 3 to 7 years to learn how to swallow a sword!

Thelittleweasel Have you tried to learn by practising with a peeled banana? Did it work?

@topsecretlady

It works! Certainly better than sword swallowing which relies on getting the pipe from mouth into stomach dead straight!

As to whether your nose can touch his stomach relies to a great degree on DH's proportions [2" = easy ... 8" well]

Thelittleweasel That gives me much more hope than I was expecting! How long did it take you to learn to relax the gag reflex?

And.. how about 6"? Not that I have been measuring :)

Yes, I can do it comfortably, it just comes naturally to me.

Sacredspace How did you learn you had this skill? Does it make much difference how big the cock is or does it just always work all the way to the nose touching the stomach? I am feeling a little jealous.

@topsecretlady I didn’t realise I was doing anything special, just gradually going a bit further and a bit further until I have taken the entire length down back of throat. If a man isn’t well endowed, or doesn’t have a full erection it’s sometimes not possible to reach deep into the throat (however willing) but nose does touch stomach more easily in that case.

In my experience some people have a very weak/non-existent gag reflex, and they can usually deep throat without problems. There are those who have stronger gag reflexes, but have overcome them by training themselves with things such as peeled bananas, or saveloys. Then there are those who have no wish whatsoever to give deep throat whatever their gag reflex is like.

As with many skills, the right mental approach is the key.

Sacredspace Sadly I don't think it will be as easy for me. I need advice from women who had to learn how to do it not from natural born sex experts :)

xpc316e What do you mean by In my experience?

I tried everything , practising on a dildo , banana , to no avail . Him pushing my head down made it effortless and I absolutely love it, in fact I request him to do it and the pleasure is totally mutual .

mummillion That sounds pretty awesome in that case! How long did you spend with him pushing your head down before you could do it all the way?

It happened instantly and I never thought I'd be able to do it .
He's a very caring and gentle partner who respects my boundaries and he did check if I was ok with it first . He took my cues and only continued when I expressed that I was enjoying it . And he alternated pushing my head down with stroking my face really gently which makes me love it even more !

topsecretlady, I have been on both ends of a deep throat blow job, if you must know.

mummilion Does he cum when you are deep throating him directly into your throat? What's that like?

xpc316e How did you get rid of the gag reflex and how long did it take?

I used to do this and can’t believe I made myself endure it. And I don’t think most women will genuinely enjoy this at all, more tolerate at most.

velourvoyageur That's very interesting, thank you. My first question is, how did you manage to do it at all? I mean how did you get round the gag reflex?

And then, what was wrong with it? Was it too uncomfortable? I may have to learn from my own experience as it is something I would like to try if I can manage it somehow.

I don’t want to sound judgy or talk for people on the thread. I just feel protective of women, particularly younger women, who may persuade themselves into thinking that they can put up with it no problem because it’s ‘just uncomfortable’ or because they can focus on something else when they’re doing it. That way shit sex lies. I felt like gagging every time. I just don’t see (from my one-dimensional point of view) how it can feel good purely on a sensual level - your throat isn’t sensitive other than in the sense that it’s designed to reject foreign objects which could cut off your air supply. I just think it points to the same tired and sad trend of women doing things they don’t particularly like, or actually really don’t like, during sex because we’re encouraged to constantly push our boundaries looking for the next new thing often for the benefit of our partners, even if it’s not intrinsically pleasurable or even if it’s dangerous. May I ask why you want to try it, other than wanting to please your partner? Would you stick a plastic dildo down your throat? Obvs you don’t have to answer.

Also I don’t know how men can ever trust that women actually like it, so what does that say about them? They know they’re doing something which is likely to be causing pain and discomfort, and we also at the same time know by now that women often don’t speak up about what they don’t like in bed. I think many men either don’t care or don’t think about what their partner is feeling - just strikes me as one of the most one-sided, unconnected things to do during sex.

For me it's one of the most intimate you can do with a guy you're intensely attracted to who reciprocates. I'm mid 30s and very vocal about what I like and would never agree to anything I wasn't totally comfortable with . I find myself going into a total other zone , I'm utterly fascinated by the texture taste and smell of him and the effect it has on him and the closeness it brings . Yes, I'd worry too about younger and more vulnerable women feeling pressurised and doing it because its expected of them but it is possible for deep throating to be genuinely consensual and enjoyable for both parties . He cums in my throat or just in my mouth as I'm pulling up and his cum tastes fairly sweet so it only adds to the enjoyment because again , it's a very intimate and bonding experience

topsecretlady, my learning was done 'on the job' so to speak. I would put myself in the group of people who do not have a strong gag reflex, so it was never really much of a problem.

There are some great resources on the web, so just google 'learn to deepthroat' and take your pick from the advice given by some very experienced people.

velourvoyageur I just thought it would be fun and sexy! In sex there are quite a lot of things that are just to turn the other person on. If I give a hand job, it's not exactly exciting for my hand. If a guy goes down on me, I don't have any illusions it is to turn him on. I guess it might even be a bit gross for him.

Even if I could deep throat I might never do it. I just thought it would be fun to be able to if I ever wanted to surprise a guy.