Willys with and without

[Dadbodlovestory]

Name changed for obvious reasons. My ex husband was circumcised and at the time i loved this and thought cleaner etc.

New DP is fully intact and not sure what's normal as bit of a wall flower. When erect his foreskin still mostly covers the head. It pulls back easily just not on its own. It doesnt seem sore at all.

How normal is this ? Do you pull back foreskin before sex or oral sex ? Should the head come out on its own ?

I know theres lots of normals but collective experience appreciated here

I'm not circumcised and forsaking covers head, when erect it usually exposes the head, skin slides up & down as normal. I would assume everyone is different so don't worry.

Ok so main difference would be when giving a hand job. With circumcised, there's no spare skin when erect so lube and sliding technique required, with foreskin intact you can pull the skin up and down so no lube is required, therefore easier 😉. How much does and doesn't cover the bell end when erect is individual, as long as it can be pulled back and forward with ease and no pain, it's all good. Some people have too tight a foreskin which does need intervention to fix so can be pulled back and cleaned, otherwise balanitis can occur.

My experience of uncircumcised is that the foreskin usually comes back when erect but clearly not with all and didn't with my DH. He didn't have phimosis but it happens if a lot of foreskin, or alternatively too tight which is a problem.

I really like the circumcised look (and feel) and last year DH decided to have a circumcision. Had to pay as not technically medically required but in hindsight better as some private clinics have better methods than NHS (ring type) which he had absolute minimal discomfort and a really neat finish.

I love him like that and he is really happy.

Not suggesting he have it done but I get where you are coming from. Just make sure you pull it back fully especially before oral

What difference does circumcised make for the man?

It depends on the issues described above. Because I always loved circumcised, I always pulled his foreskin right back and held it like that with whatever we were doing. So if rubbing or sucking I didn't involve his foreskin. He really liked that and found it different, and liked that's what I liked.

But in the end was his choice to have a circumcision but he is really happy, but also likes I really like it, and also complement him as how he looks.

A caveat though, he is a good size (not massive though)and not sure what it would be like if he was smaller and shrivelled lol

Circumcised is always better ; so much more attractive

I'm uncircumcised, for which I thank my parents greatly. When erect, my foreskin covers my glans (aka, the most sensitive part a man has) just as nature intended it to do. During sex, it tends to slide back and expose it. When I was a younger man, this could actually make sex very uncomfortable.

In the UK uncircumcised is normal because it serves no medical purpose, and because there is little history of circumcision in European culture. In the US, it's more common for reasons that don't stand up to any scrutiny.

You may detect a certain hostility in my post to the practice. I hope it will die out in due course.

I think circumcision is pretty grim but people like what they like.

The act of circumcision is indeed pretty grim, particularly when performed on young boys who have no say in the matter. I am not going to say that it's on a par with FGM, because it isn't, but to perform surgery on a person's genitals for no good medical reason does not sit happily with me.

I find circumcised penises really off-putting.
I guess I mentally associate it either with illness or mutilation.

I couldn't tell a man that he is more sexy because he's circumcised or complement him on it because frankly it's fucking disturbing to me that it's acceptable practise.

You do you people! Sure. But for me a man is just perfect the way he is.

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I am not going to say that it's on a par with FGM, because it isn't

I don't think i agree with you on that one.

I saw a TV programme and this act is carried out on babies with no anesthetic. It should be illegal without the individual being able to give consent.

crestar as a procedure its physical effects are probably not as bad as FGM, and that is what I meant. In psychological terms it can be awful. In the Philippines it is normal for boys to be circumcised at the onset of puberty and I have some Filipino friends who, despite living here for almost twenty years, decided that their 12 year old was to have it done. He had no say whatsoever in the operation and it has been a traumatic experience for him.

A traditional Jewish circumcision can be barbaric and ought not to be allowed in this day and age. We would be rightly horrified if someone did this to a child, but if religious parents do it then it is somehow acceptable - not in my book.

Difference between fgm and circumcision is that fgm is designed to deny women sexual pleasure and keep them ‘pure’. In its most extreme form (and different cultures have different levels) it’s probably the most barbaric thing you can do to another human without trying to actually kill or torture them.

i am uncut but have very little FS so even when soft, the skin doesnt cover the head and usually sits behind the ridge.

Returning to OP’s original questions. I am uncut. When erect the foreskin pulls partly back but not all the way. Yes you pull it back for PIV and oral sex. For a hand job either self administered or by a partner it’s down to preference - normally I prefer not to pull it back as when wanking the shaft the foreskin slides back and forth over the head to provide the stimulus to ejaculation, but when using lube or oil in play I prefer it pulled back and instead of wanking the shaft the stroking is concentrated on the head. Goes without saying that I keep my bell-end very clean at all times.

It's rather a pointless debate about the morals of circumscision on a thread about sexual matters as it's kind of like shutting the door after the horse has bolted! I'm sure that there are plenty of other threads in which one can discuss the ethics.

Any chap, circumscised or not is, I'm sure, perfectly able to guide the partner in question.

When he is hard only one third of the head ia visible. He never seems to pull it back for anything. Even when he wanks the skin doesnt go fully behind the head.

Guess he just has a very long foreskin!

@namechangedyorkshire did you tell your DH you preferred circumcised? I would think that was like a partner telling me they preferred a boob job!

Sorry, yes that's Th e ethics question to one particular poster.

Uncircumcised is like calling ourselves undecapitated. There's no such thing.

On a personal level, give me that foreskin! The amount of UTI's and pain I got from my ex hammering away due to reduced sensation, it wasnt fun.

To the OP. Explore that penis, see what works for you both and enjoy it.

@PantsToThis

I didn't go out to tell him I preferred circumcised. It just came up gradually when he asked me things etc over time when in bed

You said is like saying you prefer a boob job. Well I'm sure most couples have also had conversation about size of boobs. Mine are modest. I know DH likes mine but he does like larger I know. A couple of my friends have had boob jobs as they wanted to be larger. I would not but he decided to have a circumcision for various reasons but now he has had it he does know how much I like

No one should do anything they don't want.

I was "intact" until 5 years ago, I'm now 59, but when I was about 40, my foreskin started attaching itself to my glans on the left, so erections became painful as my penis was bending and often I would bleed after sex as the skin was tearing. It got to the point were I couldn't go on any longer and went to my local surgery. The doctor told me the condition was called Lichen Sclerosis and could only be dealt with by way of circumcision. I was given an appointment to attend a GUM clinic and surgery was recommended. A few weeks later, I had scheduled surgery, a lot of foreskin to be removed, so had to have a general anaesthetic instead of a local.
I'm now pain free and get good erections, but I've lost about 90% of the sensation I used to have prior to the operation. While this is disappointing in one sense, it allows me to have longer sessions of pleasure and allows me more control over my ejaculation.
I have no regrets at having it done and to be honest, I wished I hadn't waited as long to seek medical advice.

As long as it's not too tight or uncomfortable for your new DP it's fine. Some guys just seem to have more foreskin than others. You will get used to his body and how it works in time.

My DH had a circumcision when he was 31 due to phimosis, and he regrets it every day. Can't give a hand job without lube now, whereas a foreskin provides natural movement. He has also had desensitisation of the glans. If he could turn back time to before he got circumcised, he would, even with the phimosis. :(

OMG HunkyFunkyMonkey ,,that sounds horrific...

I don't think FGM is anything like circumcision. The main question is how people who have had it feel. All the circumcised men I have known have been happy with it. I don't know any women who had female circumcision but you read that they are miserable about it (and so would I be!). Most American men are circumcised I believe.