How long ?

[mamato3lads]

Once PIV begins , DH will last 5 mins absolute max, probably less....

Active sex life, he also masturbates, so no problems there. Wondered if this was average ?

These days, yes. Depending what type, how much and how good of foreplay I get I might last less! Years ago I could go for 20 mins or more, but usually by pausing, changing position, etc. I could even pull it out and not lose the erection, then change position and re-enter. These days if we stopped to change position I would lose the stiffy, so once in I keep going.

Inclined to agree. A lot of it depends on the situation and the amount of foreplay. Also, my wife tends to get sore if it goes on for much longer than that.

Long gone are the days of being at it for any sustained period of time!

www.randalolson.com/2016/05/31/how-long-does-the-average-man-last-in-bed/

I don't think you women appreciate how good it feels in there! 5 mins is average I'd say of PIV

Ok cool thanks guys only been with DH for the past 18 years so not a lot to compare with apart from teenage encounters ! So 5 mins is average. I'll give him a break then

I'm 5min max but like snakerattleroll said...it feels so good once inside. I'd love to last longer (usually can 2and time round) but I give plenty of oral & foreplay so the woman gets her pleasure.

Without anti-depressants, 5-10 mins depending on the situation.

With anti depressants, I can't orgasm at all, so I can go as long as she wants until she gets bored, sore, or just asks me to stop. I could literally go on for hours if there was enough lube, which usually begins to dry up after 10 mins or so any way.

Oh shit @PrawnSacrifice that sounds bad ...cant be fun for anyone

Pretty normal i think. So its a question of whether you want/need longer.

And unless you are on top, it can be bloddy hard work!

@mamato3lads It's pretty grim to be fair as DW cannot orgasm through PIV and generally takes ages to orgasm if at all from oral.

This means that once the 30-45 min marathon oral session is over, by which time I'm pretty bored and ambivalent, we then move on to PIV which is a simple case of me going for it until she say's she's had enough - typically about 10 mins, then she starts to dry up.

Marvellous.

Christ. Cant you change your tablets?

Tried them all over the years, SSRI/SNRI meds just do this to me - been to the Dr multiple times to no avail.

It sucks, but only just less than depression.

Do you still get the same nice feelings/sensation when having sex whilst on meds?

@PrawnSacrifice I really feel for you. I suffer with chronic anxiety and couldn't cope without my medication so understand you have to take them. Seems such a shame though. You and DW should explore other ways of bringing pleasure to each other maybe? You should try and break that rut you're in with regards your sexual routine, it cant be helping your mood. Is DW understanding?

@Justaordinarybloke The sensations are dramatically reduced, as if all over sensitivity has been reduced by about 80%-90%. I can feel it, but not in an orgasmic way, or one that will lead to orgasm. It's as if there';s a sensory blockage in my brain disconnecting the erogenous zones from my brain.

@mamato3lads DW is understanding, she's no worse off - it's business as usual from her perspective. We've tried everything - oral, hand, every position under sun, it's like trying to start a car with a very weak battery. My engine turns over slowly, but never fast enough to fire up.

It does effect my mood as I''m very frustrated and sex is very unfulfilling for me. I can't remember the last time I had an orgasm.

@PrawnSacrifice I am so sorry. That's awful. I can't believe they haven't rejigged your regimen because of this. I hope they can do something (they just haven't).

In my case the quickest has been about 30 minutes.

Nothing they can do on the meds front. The only two medications that are clinically proven to not create sexual dysfunction are Mirtazapine and Bupropion.

I've tried Mirtazapine and it didn't help with my depression.

Bupropion is not licensed for treatment of depression the UK and I can't find a private psychiatrist to try it for me off label - I've now been turned down on 3 different occasions so have given up.

The prospect of never having an orgasm ever again is not nice.

It depends. If he is very much in lots of foreplay mode, then we can easily have 30-45 mins of that, switching around doing different things. At the end he usually can only last minutes at most but when he cums, there is a lot of it.
Conversely, less foreplay and more PIV, still with changing positions then 15-20 mins is possible.

5 mins? Definitely not normal here. Probably about 20 to 30 mins? Unless it has been a while and then 15 mins or so?

@PrawnSacrifice have you looked into prostate orgasms that may work for you

For the original q, morning sex when we wake up 5 mins tops other times first time maybe 10-15 then 2nd time 30 mins

Hi All,

@PrawnSacrifice

The comments on this article are quite insightful regarding AD's and achieving orgasms - there are over 200 comments and the majority are from people on AD's on how it affects their sex life.

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/04/since-starting-on-antidepressants-i-have-trouble-orgasming

Thanks - I've researched it to death. There is no solution for me in the UK.

No to prostate orgasms. Anal is absolutely not my thing whatsoever. The break in the chain is between the erogenous zones and my brain.

1 hour. Different positions, oral, then the final minute or two. Twice a week as DH is well endowed and I feel a little tender afterwards so take a few days to feel right again.

@friendineed

A few days to feel right again?! Lucky you