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How long ?

39 replies

mamato3lads · 05/03/2020 23:09

Once PIV begins , DH will last 5 mins absolute max, probably less....

Active sex life, he also masturbates, so no problems there. Wondered if this was average ?

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Anotherblokelurking · 06/03/2020 00:04

These days, yes. Depending what type, how much and how good of foreplay I get I might last less! Years ago I could go for 20 mins or more, but usually by pausing, changing position, etc. I could even pull it out and not lose the erection, then change position and re-enter. These days if we stopped to change position I would lose the stiffy, so once in I keep going.

Purplelight · 06/03/2020 08:09

Inclined to agree. A lot of it depends on the situation and the amount of foreplay. Also, my wife tends to get sore if it goes on for much longer than that.

Long gone are the days of being at it for any sustained period of time!

SnakeRattleRoll · 06/03/2020 12:34

I don't think you women appreciate how good it feels in there! 5 mins is average I'd say of PIV

mamato3lads · 06/03/2020 13:04

Ok cool thanks guys Grin only been with DH for the past 18 years so not a lot to compare with apart from teenage encounters ! So 5 mins is average. I'll give him a break then Grin

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Justaordinarybloke · 06/03/2020 16:02

I'm 5min max but like snakerattleroll said...it feels so good once inside. I'd love to last longer (usually can 2and time round) but I give plenty of oral & foreplay so the woman gets her pleasure.

PrawnSacrifice · 06/03/2020 18:38

Without anti-depressants, 5-10 mins depending on the situation.

With anti depressants, I can't orgasm at all, so I can go as long as she wants until she gets bored, sore, or just asks me to stop. I could literally go on for hours if there was enough lube, which usually begins to dry up after 10 mins or so any way.

mamato3lads · 06/03/2020 20:23

Oh shit @PrawnSacrifice that sounds bad ...cant be fun for anyone Sad

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otterhound · 06/03/2020 22:27

Pretty normal i think. So its a question of whether you want/need longer.

And unless you are on top, it can be bloddy hard work!

PrawnSacrifice · 06/03/2020 22:30

@mamato3lads It's pretty grim to be fair as DW cannot orgasm through PIV and generally takes ages to orgasm if at all from oral.

This means that once the 30-45 min marathon oral session is over, by which time I'm pretty bored and ambivalent, we then move on to PIV which is a simple case of me going for it until she say's she's had enough - typically about 10 mins, then she starts to dry up.

Marvellous.

mamato3lads · 06/03/2020 22:44

Christ. Cant you change your tablets?

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PrawnSacrifice · 06/03/2020 23:46

Tried them all over the years, SSRI/SNRI meds just do this to me - been to the Dr multiple times to no avail.

It sucks, but only just less than depression.

Justaordinarybloke · 07/03/2020 08:34

Do you still get the same nice feelings/sensation when having sex whilst on meds?

mamato3lads · 07/03/2020 13:42

@PrawnSacrifice I really feel for you. I suffer with chronic anxiety and couldn't cope without my medication so understand you have to take them. Seems such a shame though. You and DW should explore other ways of bringing pleasure to each other maybe? You should try and break that rut you're in with regards your sexual routine, it cant be helping your mood. Is DW understanding?

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PrawnSacrifice · 07/03/2020 14:11

@Justaordinarybloke The sensations are dramatically reduced, as if all over sensitivity has been reduced by about 80%-90%. I can feel it, but not in an orgasmic way, or one that will lead to orgasm. It's as if there';s a sensory blockage in my brain disconnecting the erogenous zones from my brain.

@mamato3lads DW is understanding, she's no worse off - it's business as usual from her perspective. We've tried everything - oral, hand, every position under sun, it's like trying to start a car with a very weak battery. My engine turns over slowly, but never fast enough to fire up.

It does effect my mood as I''m very frustrated and sex is very unfulfilling for me. I can't remember the last time I had an orgasm.

Alonelonelyloner · 07/03/2020 20:42

@PrawnSacrifice I am so sorry. That's awful. I can't believe they haven't rejigged your regimen because of this. I hope they can do something (they just haven't).

In my case the quickest has been about 30 minutes.

PrawnSacrifice · 07/03/2020 21:22

Nothing they can do on the meds front. The only two medications that are clinically proven to not create sexual dysfunction are Mirtazapine and Bupropion.

I've tried Mirtazapine and it didn't help with my depression.

Bupropion is not licensed for treatment of depression the UK and I can't find a private psychiatrist to try it for me off label - I've now been turned down on 3 different occasions so have given up.

The prospect of never having an orgasm ever again is not nice.

Namechangedyorkshire · 08/03/2020 08:09

It depends. If he is very much in lots of foreplay mode, then we can easily have 30-45 mins of that, switching around doing different things. At the end he usually can only last minutes at most but when he cums, there is a lot of it.
Conversely, less foreplay and more PIV, still with changing positions then 15-20 mins is possible.

DressesWithPocketsRockMyWorld · 08/03/2020 22:42

5 mins? Definitely not normal here. Probably about 20 to 30 mins? Unless it has been a while and then 15 mins or so?

Jane1978xx · 08/03/2020 22:43

@PrawnSacrifice have you looked into prostate orgasms that may work for you

Jane1978xx · 08/03/2020 22:44

For the original q, morning sex when we wake up 5 mins tops other times first time maybe 10-15 then 2nd time 30 mins

pluiedeprintemps · 09/03/2020 07:38

Hi All,

@PrawnSacrifice

The comments on this article are quite insightful regarding AD's and achieving orgasms - there are over 200 comments and the majority are from people on AD's on how it affects their sex life.

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/04/since-starting-on-antidepressants-i-have-trouble-orgasming

PrawnSacrifice · 09/03/2020 08:35

Thanks - I've researched it to death. There is no solution for me in the UK.

No to prostate orgasms. Anal is absolutely not my thing whatsoever. The break in the chain is between the erogenous zones and my brain.

friendineed · 10/03/2020 13:00

1 hour. Different positions, oral, then the final minute or two. Twice a week as DH is well endowed and I feel a little tender afterwards so take a few days to feel right again.

mamato3lads · 10/03/2020 21:35

@friendineed

A few days to feel right again?! Lucky you Grin

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