How long ?

[mamato3lads]

Once PIV begins , DH will last 5 mins absolute max, probably less....

Active sex life, he also masturbates, so no problems there. Wondered if this was average ?

I'm well above average..

Probs about 10-15mins standard here. After a fair bit of oral foreplay

It's a mixture for me. If we've not had it for a few days or we've had a lot of foreplay then he come very quickly, although he does try and prolong by holding back. Other times we can go for around 20 mins, but keep changing the position and slowing the pace to last longer.

@PrawnSacrifice my friend had this issue, he bought bupropion online from a U.K. pharmacy, it is used by the nhs as a stop smoking drug. So he said he was a smoker and trying to quit. He pays a lot for it tho, £60 a script I believe but his GP has agreed to refer him for secondary care for the psychiatrist to prescribe if it works for him.
If it’s affordable maybe see if your GP Would support you in trying the same? Or if you smoke you can actually get it for free via the NHS.

Thanks.

I'm not a smoker and have already been down this road with my GP more than once and been refused.

I've been referred to secondary psychiatric care and have also asked, (almost pleaded) for Bupropion and also been denied.

I've reached out to private psychiatrists and they have not been willing to help either.

I find it most frustrating.

@prawnsacrifice that’s very frustrating, how annoying that different areas do not have the same approach. my friend said he’d continue to buy it online if the psychiatrist won’t help him.

There is science on the question of how long is the right length for sex to last! By sex they mean from the moment the cock goes into the vagina to when he ejaculates. I assume the science was done by a man, because it makes no sense, but here it is. Less than 3 minutes, not long enough. 3-7 minutes, satisfactory. 7-13 minutes, ideal. More than 13 minutes, too long. They need these measures when trying to work out how well their erectile dysfunction drugs are working. Hilariously they are timed by the woman with a stop watch, I guess because you couldn't trust a man not to lie.

Opinions?

Those timings sound about right for whatever 'normal' is.

More than about 15 mins and I'd be getting pretty bored if it was a long term partner.

Bored after 15 minutes??

With the wrong lover then, long term or not !

@mamato3lads

DW is fairly reserved, cannot orgasm and not very pro-active, so yeah, after a few minutes in a few positions, I'm bored.

Totally depends on the situation, what we have done before PIV, how long it has been since the last time, what speed and positions we take, etc. We can have short, hot sessions or long languid ones. When we are both in the right place in our heads then all of these are good.

@PrawnSacrifice ... fair enough, sounds terrible
I remember from your other posts that your meds have messed with your libido though, so must be a bit of a nightmare all round for both of you. Feel for you x

@mamato3lads

Yep, our sex life is utterly dire.

On one hand is my DW who finds it incredibly difficult to orgasm via any means and is to be fair, very vanilla and with very poor technique - she's never made me cum from oral or manual stimulation in our 20+ years.

On the other hand, my meds have killed my libido to the point where I can't cum either by myself or during sex, and can't be bothered with the unconcluding, unsatisfying crapness of it anyway.

It's utterly, uttery, terrible, soul destroying and making me almost as miserable as the depression, but not quite.

Usually about an hour and a half? Not all of that is intercourse, so probably 15-20 minutes of that? I usually feel tender afterwards, but worth it! As we're in our twenties, I don't expect that to last, so making the most of it!