To want to watch my OH with another person?

[heythere12]

For quite a while I have had a fantasy of watching my OH having sex with someone else. He has never raised this and didn't seem keen initially (because he wouldn't like to see me with someone else) but now I think he's changing his mind.

Just wondered if anyone had similar experiences and how it worked out? I can completely understand that he is able to separate sex from love so I'm not worried I'll be jealous. I suppose the reason for posting is because it will be a new experience and I'm interested in other people's stories. Just trying to be fully informed before we take that step.

You might be better off posting this on the Sex forum.

For what it's worth, I'd rather rip my eyeballs from my own face by hand than watch my partner with another person. Even the thought makes me feel sad.

Cool

I would imagine you'd get better information if you posted this in the sex topic.

Not my thing, but I don’t care what consenting adults do in the privacy of their own homes so you do you.

Interesting first post 🤔

No doubt waiting for people to share their stories 🙄

Each to their own. My mums friend this year’s ago and she left her husband for the other person (found out recently this was the reason for their divorce!).

Not to say this would be you, but it’s a risk.

What Vivienne said

One of my exes wanted to see me with another person too. Honestly I think that was the beginning of the end for me. I never did it but the longer we were talking about it and meeting potentials the more I realised that pretty much the whole relationship had been on his terms and with his demands. I also felt a bit hurt that he didn’t even try to keep his fantasy life seperate from his real life. Just because you fantasise about something it doesn’t mean you need to make it happen - in fact I’d probably say if you need to see your OH have sex with someone else to get off they aren’t doing much for you any more!

Thanks PPN, I'll see if I can get it moved.

Thing is I would be devastated if he even emotionally cheated never mind physically, but me being there is different (to me anyway).

I'm sure I'll have lots of nasty comments but I really am interested in other peoples views and experiences.

Yeah right.

Couldn’t think of much worse quite frankly.

Oh dear god, there are already plenty of places on the internet you can feed your "interest", op.

Teddy that's what I was kind of looking for. Should you make fantasies a reality?

For anyone thinking he isn't doing it for me anymore, that couldn't be further from the truth.

I view it more as expanding our sex life.

How do I ask for the post to be moved?

I suppose the reason for posting is because it will be a new experience and I'm interested in other people's stories.

I'm sure I'll have lots of nasty comments but I really am interested in other peoples views and experiences.

And your first thought was, 'I know, I'll ask on a parenting forum'?

I watched my OH have sex with Ann Widdecombe while they were dressed as Morris dancers and eating spam nd listening to Daniel O'Donnell. It was sooo fucking hot.

Is that that fantasy info you were after OP?

Everything gets posted on mumsnet as far as I can see. Rarely about parenting in my opinion. This site is good to reach a lot of people and get opinions. I would like to move it to the correct page though, really didn't mean to upset anyone,

I was looking for experiences in the sense of afterwards and how it affected the relationship...not private details.

Well sounds crap to me and tbh, I think once you need to persuade someone to do “gimmicks” to get you off, you’re probably reaching the end of the road, relationship-wise. So you do this and then what? Will you make it into a Friday night fixture? What will you do - hire a prostitute or just drag some lucky woman round from a bar?

Phwoar @SignedUpJust4This that’s some hot content

Pa1oma I'm actually not sure. Was thinking a one off experience with a similar minded person but don't know where to start which is why I posted. Fortunately I did expect the backlash but hoped for at least one person who has experienced this to comment rather than lots of people who have never/would never.

Still looking to see how to move the thread if anyone could help me with that please?

Just wanted to confirm the fact that the OP's been on the site for a while (she's changed her username for this thread) so we're going to move this thread over to our Sex topic.

gulp

I did expect the backlash

This seems more the sort of thing you'd do if you were single and copped off with a couple of blokes on a night out, rather than something where you'd ask your lover to have sex with someone in front of you.

Isn’t this one, that works better just as a fantasy? Like 3somes or being raped?

Am I weird in that I do understand the thrill of this fantasy?
Having said that, personally I would never jeopardise a happy relationship by encouraging/enabling it to actually happen.