New guy has a kink for “wide open holes.” 🙄 Not sure if it’s good or not?

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there’s a new guy I have been seeing for several months. So far all normal and nice and emotionally he’s great - respectful, kind etc but he has been discussing his kinks a lot with me and I am trying to understand whether these are a result of too much porn use over the years or they are genuine personal fetishes that I should try and fulfil for him.

He has told me he wants to do “face-fucking,” as he calls it. Basically deepthroating with my hands tied behind my back. He says he likes the idea of me “gagging” on him (impossible as he is actually quite small,) his other kink is vaginal “fisting.” He says he likes the idea of “wide open holes,” so I suppose fisting fits that particular theme.

He says he has only done both once with another sexual partner but would like to do them with me. He is talking like that is the entire extent of what will fully get him off, sexually, which to me seems quite limited. Vanilla sex with him has so far been ok but not great, as he does not find it easy to get an erection so i’m getting some porn addiction alarm bells.

Is this even realistic in a normal relationship? Where would he even get this “wide open holes” kink from? Does it mean something sinister? Would you be seeing red flags?

I’m against people being injured or put in danger.
Your ‘laughing emoji’ is incredibly juvenile regards such a subject, I thought half term had finished 🙄

Most guys get there kinks from porn. I'd try it once and see how you get on. My boyfriend is obsessed with all things anal. He let me fuck his ars 1st too lol. He is desperate for me to lick his ars and has been waiting a year haha. It grosses me out so I haven't yet but I really love him so I will at some point.
Try it but make sure he respects your wishes. Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with. If it's a deal breaker for him, he's the wrong guy.

@VollywoodHampires looks like you can't have an intelligent argument with your 🙄 emoji in every sentence and your attitude of "I don't like particular things in sex so I will state my opinion on a forum where people generally think what they get up to in the bedroom is no one else's business ". Bore off.

No one else’s business, yet you keep banging on about it @Peoniesandcream 🙄🙄

And 321 @Peoniesandcream will be back to have ‘the last word’ 🥱

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 you're as boring as your sex life 🙄😴

Oh no

so he wants sex that involves your discomfort

and has ED issues

nah . What’s in this for you ?

Yes. These porn fantasies cause real and long-term injuries to real women.

I am into kink and bondage and fisting is an absolute hard NO from me. Unless he's willing to take a huge dildo up his arse or a good fisting from a bloke with huge hands I'd say no, no, no. In fact regardless of what he'd take it's still a no from me. I'm damaged enough from childbirth.

Op never came back, hope she's not tied up somewhere

Just pointing out this is a zombie thread from 2019.