Do you go near your husbands bum?

[freshstartnewme]

First off I promise I am not a troll, MNHQ will be able to clarify, if needed, for any doubters!

Inspired somewhat by the poster (s) who think their DH should shower if they have gone for a poo before bed and they are going to have sex.

I can't quite work out what impact going for a poo would have on sex, unless the DH anus is involved in the sex.

I have never, and absolutely never will, used my DH arsehole during sex.

Am I in the minority?

I love playing with my partners a-hole. I find it incredibly sexy how he submits to me and it really turns me on knowing how much he enjoys it. He says nobody has ever given him that level of attention before and tbh I have never been as into it as I am with him. I like to get in there with fingers, tongue, toys etc, super hot and dirty!

@dragonflyflew I love that you posted that here. I know exactly what you mean.

Slightly off topic, how far inside a fellas bum is the prostate and once located what do you do, massage it?

Surely, if you invite someone into your home and then ultimately your bed, it is not unreasonable to expect them to be clean. On the same basis, you should not expect less from a long term relationship.

Many men I know have a quick hose down after a poo. DH included. Maybe it's cultural (not British) or maybe it's religious but I know many people who do. I also know many people who don't.

My face gets quite close to his bum hole though, that's part and parcel of giving head

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@dragonflyflew I love that you posted that here. I know exactly what you mean.*

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No. He wouldn't let me either.

Thankfully I don't want to. He doesn't want me to. Win/win.

I mean I get within a couple of inches of his bum. But the cheeks stay closed.

Still he's a clean guy so not an issue anyway. But it's too hairy in there for me to want to be doing anything.

I want my partner to be clean but not freshly showered clean before sex. I love his natural smell and it's a real turn on.
We do engage in anal both ways and it's never been a problem. Surely if you're sticking fingers or anything else up someone's bumhole then no amount of showering is going to make it totally clean.
You can get anal douches though.

Some people are very clean after a poo.as they take a lot of time wiping,and wiping,and using all the toilet roll, but some men and perhaps women too,only flip wipe a few times.and don't clean properly, they might be in some hurry,or they just don't care ha ha.

Don’t go near bum holes but DH and I know that if we’ve showered before bed then oral for each of us may well be on the cards 👍 Sweaty willy, no thanks!

Just a thought...how about you suggest a shower together? Could be a way of achieving both...bit of rub-a-dub for you both and it could turn to something rather nice for both of you....then you could let him know the whole clean thing is quite good for you....maybe??

Rieslinger - works well if you have a walk in shower but in a standard UK shower over bathtub there's really not going to be room for you both.

To answer OPs original question, I require all sex partners to get in the shower and wash their bums like a big boy. If I catch a whiff of poo or pee while I've got my face in their groin then our fun-time is not going to go well.

Can somebody explain the logistics of how washing one's bum after a poo is achieved? I only ever have a (thorough) wipe with loo roll, and now I am feeling really dirty! I want to join the bum-washers, but can't see how it can be done without soaking my clothes.

Do I need to acquire a bidet? What's the shattaf that was mentioned upthread?

In Islam in is a requirement to wash your teatowel holder after using the toilet. Paper is not permitted. Many Muslim households will have a shower spray attachment fitted which can be used whilst sitting on the loo,or even better, the bidet . Im all in favour of bidets,,you can sit there comfortably,run some water and have a good wash.

If you are taking someone in your mouth, which is an important part of sex for me, your nose is near their bum!

Maybe I’m doing it wrong but are you pulling it between his legs and doing it from behind? With oral your nose is usually nearer their belly than their arse

@Arnoldthecat - you have a teatowel and teatowel holder in your toilet?

@Rocaille If you had poo on any other part of your body you wouldn’t just use paper, so no wonder you feel dirty. I have a shattaf (little hose attached to the loo), while sat on the loo squirt water on bum using shattaf (it’s like a mini shower head), grab soap bar and lather hands, reach round and wash bum, rinse with shattaf. I don’t have a very hairy bum so a quick wiggle and I’m done.

When I get the bathroom done I’m going for a proper bidet toilet with spray, dry function etc.

I guess a whiff of poo is not ideal when you go down on your partner. If there is a risk of this a bath beforehand is no bad thing. From my perspective bum holes are not bad to look at but best left to their own devices.

This is all very interesting. Thanks to those who've explained. I've just had my bathroom done and now feel I've missed an opportunity to install this shattaf device. Mumsnet is so good for finding out about these things that don't tend to come up in polite conversation.

Now I want to know, am I the only one who doesn't lather up post-poo?

Ps. Arnold, you had me puzzled over tea towel holder. Thought maybe you'd wandered over from Housekeeping by mistake. 😂

And sex will forever henceforth be, 'frightfulness in the bedroom'. It's sooo much more refined and, in my case, more accurate too!

@Rocaille only too happy to help ..!

Yes I do, he enjoys rimming both to me and vice versa. I'm yet to be put off. I think as long as you are both clean, it's arousing. Definitely does it for him

I’m just wondering who goes for a poo in the middle of the night

In Islam in is a requirement to wash your teatowel holder after using the toilet.

Teatowel holder

Have to say, I prefer balloon knot!