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Do you go near your husbands bum?

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freshstartnewme · 27/05/2019 11:01

First off I promise I am not a troll, MNHQ will be able to clarify, if needed, for any doubters!

Inspired somewhat by the poster (s) who think their DH should shower if they have gone for a poo before bed and they are going to have sex.

I can't quite work out what impact going for a poo would have on sex, unless the DH anus is involved in the sex.

I have never, and absolutely never will, used my DH arsehole during sex.

Am I in the minority?

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dragonflyflew · 30/05/2019 23:44

I love playing with my partners a-hole. I find it incredibly sexy how he submits to me and it really turns me on knowing how much he enjoys it. He says nobody has ever given him that level of attention before and tbh I have never been as into it as I am with him. I like to get in there with fingers, tongue, toys etc, super hot and dirty!

Divebar · 31/05/2019 08:38

@dragonflyflew I love that you posted that here. I know exactly what you mean.

BaggiesBride · 31/05/2019 09:03

Slightly off topic, how far inside a fellas bum is the prostate and once located what do you do, massage it?

StarlightLady · 31/05/2019 11:20

Surely, if you invite someone into your home and then ultimately your bed, it is not unreasonable to expect them to be clean. On the same basis, you should not expect less from a long term relationship.

Omzlas · 31/05/2019 15:47

Many men I know have a quick hose down after a poo. DH included. Maybe it's cultural (not British) or maybe it's religious but I know many people who do. I also know many people who don't.

My face gets quite close to his bum hole though, that's part and parcel of giving head

dragonflyflew · 01/06/2019 01:57

Divebar

@dragonflyflew I love that you posted that here. I know exactly what you mean.

^ I love this comment ^

MaryPopppins · 01/06/2019 07:21

No. He wouldn't let me either.

Thankfully I don't want to. He doesn't want me to. Win/win.

I mean I get within a couple of inches of his bum. But the cheeks stay closed.

Still he's a clean guy so not an issue anyway. But it's too hairy in there for me to want to be doing anything.

spritesobright · 10/06/2019 22:58

I want my partner to be clean but not freshly showered clean before sex. I love his natural smell and it's a real turn on.
We do engage in anal both ways and it's never been a problem. Surely if you're sticking fingers or anything else up someone's bumhole then no amount of showering is going to make it totally clean.
You can get anal douches though.

1forAll74 · 13/06/2019 03:17

Some people are very clean after a poo.as they take a lot of time wiping,and wiping,and using all the toilet roll, but some men and perhaps women too,only flip wipe a few times.and don't clean properly, they might be in some hurry,or they just don't care ha ha.

HotChocolateLover · 13/06/2019 17:18

Don’t go near bum holes but DH and I know that if we’ve showered before bed then oral for each of us may well be on the cards 👍 Sweaty willy, no thanks!

Rieslinger · 25/10/2019 10:57

Just a thought...how about you suggest a shower together? Could be a way of achieving both...bit of rub-a-dub for you both and it could turn to something rather nice for both of you....then you could let him know the whole clean thing is quite good for you....maybe??

FuriousVexation · 25/10/2019 12:09

Rieslinger - works well if you have a walk in shower but in a standard UK shower over bathtub there's really not going to be room for you both.

To answer OPs original question, I require all sex partners to get in the shower and wash their bums like a big boy. If I catch a whiff of poo or pee while I've got my face in their groin then our fun-time is not going to go well.

Rocaille · 26/10/2019 09:19

Can somebody explain the logistics of how washing one's bum after a poo is achieved? I only ever have a (thorough) wipe with loo roll, and now I am feeling really dirty! I want to join the bum-washers, but can't see how it can be done without soaking my clothes.

Do I need to acquire a bidet? What's the shattaf that was mentioned upthread?

Arnoldthecat · 26/10/2019 10:27

In Islam in is a requirement to wash your teatowel holder after using the toilet. Paper is not permitted. Many Muslim households will have a shower spray attachment fitted which can be used whilst sitting on the loo,or even better, the bidet . Im all in favour of bidets,,you can sit there comfortably,run some water and have a good wash.

busybarbara · 26/10/2019 10:39

If you are taking someone in your mouth, which is an important part of sex for me, your nose is near their bum!

Maybe I’m doing it wrong but are you pulling it between his legs and doing it from behind? With oral your nose is usually nearer their belly than their arse

fridgegrazer · 26/10/2019 10:50

@Arnoldthecat - you have a teatowel and teatowel holder in your toilet?

Arnoldthecat · 26/10/2019 10:55

SimonJT · 26/10/2019 16:06

@Rocaille If you had poo on any other part of your body you wouldn’t just use paper, so no wonder you feel dirty. I have a shattaf (little hose attached to the loo), while sat on the loo squirt water on bum using shattaf (it’s like a mini shower head), grab soap bar and lather hands, reach round and wash bum, rinse with shattaf. I don’t have a very hairy bum so a quick wiggle and I’m done.

When I get the bathroom done I’m going for a proper bidet toilet with spray, dry function etc.

zarek · 26/10/2019 18:10

I guess a whiff of poo is not ideal when you go down on your partner. If there is a risk of this a bath beforehand is no bad thing. From my perspective bum holes are not bad to look at but best left to their own devices.

Rocaille · 26/10/2019 22:15

This is all very interesting. Thanks to those who've explained. I've just had my bathroom done and now feel I've missed an opportunity to install this shattaf device. Mumsnet is so good for finding out about these things that don't tend to come up in polite conversation.

Now I want to know, am I the only one who doesn't lather up post-poo?

Rocaille · 26/10/2019 22:24

Ps. Arnold, you had me puzzled over tea towel holder. Thought maybe you'd wandered over from Housekeeping by mistake. 😂

And sex will forever henceforth be, 'frightfulness in the bedroom'. It's sooo much more refined and, in my case, more accurate too!

Arnoldthecat · 27/10/2019 10:31

@Rocaille only too happy to help ..!

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ShellyAnn1 · 04/11/2019 23:46

Yes I do, he enjoys rimming both to me and vice versa. I'm yet to be put off. I think as long as you are both clean, it's arousing. Definitely does it for him

BarleyG · 13/11/2019 10:31

I’m just wondering who goes for a poo in the middle of the night

PhilCornwall1 · 13/11/2019 10:38

In Islam in is a requirement to wash your teatowel holder after using the toilet.

Teatowel holder

Have to say, I prefer balloon knot!

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