Hi, I just wanted to see wether the MN community could offer some advice. I've been married almost 10 years now, over the last few years our relationship has become more and more sexless.
We have 2 kids under 10, and I know my wife is always really tired, but I feel we have lost some really important intimacy. I have always been more sex driven than she is, but recently it really has become quite apparent sex is the last thing on her mind.
I don't think I can ever recall an occasion where she actually initiated sex, it's always me that tries, and I have been turned away on more occasions than I care to mention.
I am genuinely concerned as I love her so much and I still really fancy her, so really want to have sex. But without it, I don't know what to do.
I know there will be some people who say 'just get on with it' but I want to have sex in my life, i think it's a really important and enjoyable part of a relationship.
I have brought it up before that we don't do it, it was a hard conversation to bring up, but it was pretty much ignored as an issue and we moved on very quickly, with the quote 'this is just me.'
I've mentioned about spicing things up, by mentioning some things i like, like her wearing suspenders, but all i get back is 'well they're not practical!' I agree, they're not, but that's not the point of them. I'd happily do things she likes, but she has never shared a fantasy with me or any preference of what she would like.
I was just wondering if anyone has found themselves in this situation and found a solution to it. It's really beginning to play on my mind.