A little too sensitive, is this normal?

[sophiesophie88]

So I have a new boyfriend having prev been with the last for ten years, and I'm not sure if I ever reached an orgasm. My new bf is very experienced and slightly kinky and quite honestly the best sex I have ever had.

But again still not sure if I am having an orgasm or just feels good? This mostly Happens through clitoral stimulation,when it gets too much and very sensitive in a good way, that I have to tell him stop as I literally can't carry on, again in a good way, sometimes it even makes me laugh

So can anyone please tell me if this is the beginning of an orgasm and I should try and let him carry on and just let go of what ever is stopping me from reaching an orgasm. Or the tingling sensitive feeling is the orgasm?

Many thanks

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An orgasm is usually more than tingling. Is complete shaking and spasming below which can go on and on if your dp is good and you are relaxed..it doesn't sound like that's what you have experienced but you could be getting there. What a shame if you have never experienced it as is such a lovely feel...and gives you a feeling of closeness to your dp.

OP do you masturbate? If not have you thought of trying? You will be able to work out what you like and dont like and whats too much and whats just right to bring you to orgasm, then communicate this to your partner

You sound very close. I sometimes get this when playing with toys....it's like it's too much intensity, but I know what an orgasm is like and it isn't one. I have to either take the buzz down a bit or move off the clit directly. If my dh is doing it for me, he has to sort of use his whole hand to cup me down there, press and rock, rather than stimulating my clit directly. Sometimes I orgasm then, sometimes the intensity dies down enough for it to be taken up a gear again and then I do. Either way life is good. It will happen for you, when it does you will know! Good luck!

Is he stimilating the clit directly? That would be too much for most people. The clitoral hood is there to protect sensitive nerve endings from being over stimulated, so it's good to make sure there is tissue between the neve endings at the tip of your clit and his fingers/hand/dick/whatever. It might be that your anatomy just doesn't have as much skin there as other people's, in which case get him to go for indirect stimulation mixed in with more direct but not right on the button. All of the vulva is lovely to me for being touched, and the clitoral tissue runs like a fork down either side of the vagina opening (Google for anatomical pictures) so the whole area can be stroked, rubbed, pressed especially if too much. one spot gets

Sorry, MN site gone weird on me. It sounds like you've got over stimulated before you came. What a lovely problem to have, in many ways! Try receiving oral, including fingers inside you, then sex with you on top and him or you masturbating you while you ride him. If it gets too much you can always back off the masturbation and continue sex and see if you can restart a bit later. The more relaxed you can be with him, the more likely it is to happen for you xx

Thanks for all help ladies. After reading your comments I am pretty sure that no I have never had an orgasm. Lol. So this weekend I will be taking on board all your advice and hope for the best.

Wish me luck !! X x

I think you will know the difference when it comes (sorry...) The main difference is that an orgasm, apart from feeling lovely, comes with waves of contractions (vaginal, vulval and womb) that are outside of your control.

Op have a look at OMG Yes (its a subscription but sounds like you could do with some ideas about what an orgasm is and how to achieve one, its not shameful. I had a friend admit to me a few months ago up until 2 years ago she had never orgasmed, she is now 40. She thought she might have done but wasn't sure).

In my experience I have different types of orgasms and can get very over stimulated easily. You need to firstly understand your body very well by yourself and that means practice. Enjoy!