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Penis Size - a new take?

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fluffyalive · 16/02/2018 17:52

I know this is a well discussed topic but I have a different take on a this issue. I wondered if any other women feel like I do and that there is, in fact, an emperor’s new Clothes thing going on with men with larger penises?

I know many say ‘it is not the size of the boat….’ or ‘it is the man the penis is attached to..’ etc, but I have found these comments are often aimed at reassuring men that are smaller downstairs. My point, however, is that I actually prefer a smaller man.

I had a long-term relationship with a man who was pretty well-endowed. I convinced myself I was lucky, as this is supposed to be the ideal. He was a nice guy, but we eventually split up for non-sexual reasons. Since then I have had a short-term relationship with a much smaller man. I much preferred the sex with this man. It was not only more comfortable; it was in fact amazing.

Since then I have actively looked for men with smaller penises and have even been on specialist dating websites such as www.dinkyone.com and www.miniwilly.co.uk (laughable name I know!) . Obviously I know that it is the man that is more important than the penis, but a good sex life is important to me and I want to at least make sure that he is right for me in that department.

Does anyone else feel the way I do?

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billyfivebellies · 16/02/2018 19:55

Nice plug

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fluffyalive · 17/02/2018 13:05

I just find sex more comfortable and more enjoyable a smaller man. Looking back, sometimes it felt like a bit of an assault having sex with a well-endowed man.

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HarmlessChap · 18/02/2018 00:27

Genuinely I have often wondered what the deal is with a big dick, after all a vagina is only so deep?

AFAIK I'm of average length, I'm certainly no 8" stallion, but as it is I reach my DW's cervix, if there were another 2" on top what difference would it make?

We seem a good fit, when I go deep I reach her cervix and my pelvis is providing external stimulation, she generally orgasms through PIV sex (refuses oral) and I thought that was the norm as it was with most of the the women I slept with before her, but threads on here lead me to think it might not be as common as I thought.

Isadora2007 · 18/02/2018 01:24

I’m pretty sure my husband is average really. But I had fantastic sex with a lovely ONS who was very small. Thankfully not skinny girth wise but stubby and short but I think he knew how to please a woman well because of his lack of size so he made extra (and well appreciated) effort. Too many well endowed men think thrusting away will be such fun(!)
So smaller men should be encouraged to be brave and carry on being considerate lovers.

Not too sure what teaching the cervix is meant to achieve though Mr HC? That’s not the G spot...

Isadora2007 · 18/02/2018 01:24

*reaching the cervix not teaching!!

Cadence70 · 18/02/2018 09:19

It's not so much length as girth, a long one bashing away is agony whereas a shorter thicker one is perfect

HarmlessChap · 18/02/2018 16:17

Not too sure what reaching the cervix is meant to achieve though Mr HC? That’s not the G spot...

No I know not but DW seems to like it. As much as anything I mean that its as deep as one can go so (unless my grasp of anatomy is worse than I thought) so what is the point of a couple more inches on top.

Cadence70 · 18/02/2018 16:36

That's what's painful though, in my experience, getting your cervix bashed isn't fun

lottieandmia22 · 19/02/2018 09:40

I will be honest - penis size is very important to me. My preference is slightly above average. I have ended relationships because the guy was too small because I couldn't feel anything.

Crinkle77 · 22/02/2018 20:38

I slept with a guy once who was really small and it just put me off. I couldn't feel a thing.It was that small i didn't think he was inside yet but then realised he was. I am not usually that shallow but I couldn't carry on seeing him.

Koala72 · 22/02/2018 23:21

It isn't nice having your cervix bashed, but it also tbh needs to be a good fit. As I understand, women also are differently sized. So you need to work well together.

But yes, agree that over a certain size is scary - too big, painful and really difficult with blowjobs unless you have a giant mouth. ...

A happy medium? : ). But guys can't choose their size. Important to love the person first.

wintermonster · 23/02/2018 12:02

My ex was quite a bit smaller than average and I was with him for 15 years.
Sex wasn't bad at all until he got very fat and started smoking drugs and drinking and couldn't get it up anymore.

My DP now has much larger than average penis and sex is still enjoyable. I certainly get different more intense orgasms that seem to come from somewhere else.

Either size worked for me though

RubberJohnny · 23/02/2018 14:19

This always makes me laugh!

wintermonster · 23/02/2018 15:18

Love curb your enthusiasm!

He makes a very good point 😆

TheBlob · 23/02/2018 20:59

I used to love getting a good cervix bashing, exquisite pain/pleasure sensation, miss it now i dont have a cervix anymore gets coat Blush

Afternooncatnap · 23/02/2018 21:59

I was told (maybe not true) that your lady bit changes size over time based on the size of your partners member.

So if he's massive you'll get massive but if he's small you will after a while tighten up. I think this only works after you have been with the same person for a while though. Its not instant.

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fluffyalive · 01/03/2018 15:47

I agree with @lottieandmia22, to a point, even though we have opposite tastes. It has always been OK for men to state their preferences. Therefore, why can't women?

I am not sure I would split up with a man simply because he was too big, however. If everything else was great, I would have to work with it. However, my preference would still be for someone who has a great personality and is also smaller downstairs.

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AnotherPlaceAnotherTime · 01/03/2018 19:03

Oh I hate my cervix being bashed. A bruised cervix feels like really bad period cramps!

I’m not really bothered about penis size (unless it is particularly extreme - either large or small). I do think that some men worry about this issue unnecessarily though.

However OP, nice plug...... Grin

MarieG10 · 02/03/2018 13:40

I think whatever the size, if a man doesn't know how to do foreplay as well as using it, the experience won't be good lol. Having experienced a little variety, I can confidently say for me, the best was slightly on the larger size...circa 7 inches, thicker and....he was circumcised which I found I really liked. I liked that he could press on my cervix though Wink

BettyBaggins · 15/03/2018 13:08

Some womens cervix are not the end of the journey, theres a pocket of space beyond it for some.

springmachine · 15/03/2018 18:44

@BettyBaggins

Dp has described this exact thing and I thought he was crazy.

Is this actually a real thing?

BettyBaggins · 15/03/2018 18:49

Google a medical diagram. I think its called the b spot???

springmachine · 15/03/2018 22:05

Wow! So it's called the posterior fornix.

I showed DP to let him know I was wrong and to congratulate him on having a penis big enough to reach, but he made a very good point that he never reached that area with his ex , so as much as men's penises come in different sizes I guess it's fair enough for women to have different shaped and sized vaginas.

springmachine · 15/03/2018 22:28

Then again, he does get stopped by airport security as they think he's concealing a weapon when he goes through the body scanners Grin

BettyBaggins · 16/03/2018 22:28

GrinGrin lucky you!

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