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Fuzzyduck123 · 28/10/2017 17:47

So to start with i’m quite young but this was the only site i knew of to get answers. I was at a party last night and everyone got very drunk, from about 10pm i started talking to a guy and we were getting close. We went upstairs and got in bed, not knowing what would happen, just laying down. Now my gay friend came in and decided to get in bed with us. He knew what had been happening and we were trying to have some privacy and he just went to sleep. Even though i think he was asleep, i didn’t want to do anything infront of him-but this guy was spooning me and feeling me up. I have a feeling we would have got further if my friend wouldn’t have been there. Help please, am i right to be mad? I also want to see him again, but don’t have his number.

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Santawontbelong · 28/10/2017 17:50

Sounds like your friend stopped you allowing alcohol to let you take things further than you may have wanted to go. ..

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Fuzzyduck123 · 28/10/2017 17:52

I did want it to happen. At the point we were in bed i was starting to sober up a bit and now i don’t think we’ll have another chance.

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PlopGoesTheWeasel · 29/10/2017 00:38

In your situation I would have felt frustrated too, but who's bed was it?

BoobleMcB · 29/10/2017 07:03
Hmm
SonicBoomBoom · 29/10/2017 07:08

Oh well. You wanted a shag but couldn't have one.

Not a big deal. Get over it.

Shagging in someone else's bed at a party is not very considerate, and quite immature.

You had plenty of time to get his number whether your friend was there or not. You didn't. Either try and track him down through mutual friends and then if he wants to you can pick up where you left off, or don't and move on.

AlternativeTentacle · 29/10/2017 07:10

Sounds like a match made in heaven, how dare your gay friend come and stop you from having sex, fuzzy duck.

or, your gay friend is looking out for you. it really isnt a good idea to just get into bed with someone you have just met, at a party, when you have no knowledge of them at all.

who knows?

FlipFlopFlappy · 29/10/2017 07:10

How old are you?
Can you contact him through a friend?
Was your friend very drunk, passed out maybe?

snowtippedmountain · 29/10/2017 10:19

Sounds like your gay friend was looking out for you and did you a favour.
Why not arrange a proper date and have sex somewhere private with him if that's what you still want.

Op you're worth that much surely?

MadameBonfire · 29/10/2017 10:37

So were you prepared with condoms? I hope so.
You sound about 15 and this was a party at some other teens parent's house. Whose bedroom was it? Whose house?
If this boy wants to know who you are and how to contact you, surely he can find out from the person who was hosting the party?

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Fuzzyduck123 · 29/10/2017 22:08

I wasn’t necessarily wanting sex but i think something would have happened at least. It was my friends house but she didn’t mind-she was the one who told us to go in her bed and was fine with it.

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 29/10/2017 22:11

I think your friend was looking out for you and if you had done more, you may have regretted it.

PortiaCastis · 29/10/2017 22:16

Jesus Christ how old are you? "This guy was spooning me and feeling me up" sounds very immature.
Hope you had condoms available!

colourflash · 29/10/2017 22:18

It wasn't your friend's house. It was your friends' parents house. Just a guess. A good guess.

OutnumberedbyFurchesters · 29/10/2017 22:20
Hmm

Another vote for hoping you had condoms and were going to be safe. I also hope this isn't either something you do often, nor is it the "first time" for you. You do sound young.

I think your friend sounds like a good guy who was trying to protect you/look out for you.

Farontothemaddingcrowd · 29/10/2017 22:20

I think you are right colourflash. Hence all the 'I don't know when we will get the chance again.'
Sounds like it was a bad idea all round.

flyingpigsinclover · 29/10/2017 22:22

You sound very naive, you got into bed and didn't know what would happen? It was hardly likely that you were going to play scrabble was it?

Your gay friend did you a favour.

WeAllHaveWings · 29/10/2017 22:28

Your gay friend is a good friend.

That guy had no respect for you by continuing his grubby little “feel you up” in bed when there was someone else there.

Mumof56 · 29/10/2017 22:54

Do you think you are mature enough to have a baby/abortion with a guy whos phone number you don't have? Did you get his name even?

MrsHass · 29/10/2017 22:55

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AnyFucker · 30/10/2017 00:14

Le sigh

notangelinajolie · 30/10/2017 00:22

You sound very young. I'm guessing 15. I don't think you don't sound anywhere near old/mature enough to be getting into bed with anyone.

BoobleMcB · 30/10/2017 07:31

Well maybe when you're parents go away (assuming you're old enough to be left alone) you'll have you're own bed. Did you at least have his name?

Im going to guess about 14 y/o? A young 14 at that...

MadameBonfire · 30/10/2017 15:53

OP You are a virgin? Think hard about how you want your first time to be. Not with some nameless lad you meet when you are both drunk. If anything else, it's better IMO) if it's a bit more special.

I'm the mum of two adult DCs. From a Mum's viewpoint, I would have hated their friends having sex in my home, and didn't encourage parties where we weren't around, for that very reason.

Don't get into situations where you aren't sure of your feelings.
Don't go into a bedroom with a boy, drunk, lying on a bed just waiting to see what happens. Afterwards you may feel very upset, used and even pregnant or with an STI unless the sex is planned and you take precautions.

How you pop your cherry is your choice, but it's better if you are prepared.

stopbeingadramallama · 30/10/2017 17:14

You sound like you’re about 14.

TDHManchester · 06/11/2017 04:45

These days ,being a guy , iwouldnt touch a female who had had more than a glass of wine. Its way too high risk.

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