WIBU to wake DH up for sex?

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Just that really. I was awake at 3am and spooned into DH when I really got the urge. So I woke him up and told him so.
He was really NOT pleased. Asked me how I'd have felt it he had woke me for the same and I said that I would have been ok with it. I mean, it's not like it's a nightly occurrence... now that we are married and have DD, are spontaneous nights of sex in the middle of the night consigned to those lusty days of early dating?

Hmm. My DH would either do a happy dance or pass out with shock if I woke him up at 03:00 for sex. I, on the other hand would be less pleased. Talk to him in the morning, just say you felt a bit rejected. Or jump his bones when he wakes up? (Obviously if he's up for it (pardon the shitty pun))

Oh I definitely feel a bit rejected but generally happy with our sex life so trying not to fester on it (easier said than done when you're lying awake in the dark silence).
I just wondered if I was really being sooooo unreasonable. I thought he would have been delighted! He went to bed later than me though so probably just shattered.

I wouldn't say yabu at all, but yes, he's maybe just exhausted.

Thanks FuckingCoat. I'm gonna stop whinging now and enjoy my uninterrupted time on MN while child and husband continue to sleep!

Ha! Every cloud hey? I'm in Aus so should be doing housework right now but I have pmt so I'm mumsnetting to my hearts content.

I'm in the Middle East so time is rapidly progressing towards getting up for work etc but just 5 more minutes!! Haha

It depends how you woke him I guess?
I'm often do it to my DH, and most of the time he loves it..

FeedMyFace, I was already spooned in so I was just gently stroking his arm and whispering his name as I knew that would be enough to wake him.
I think he maybe thought something was wrong when he first woke and asked me the time, only for me to tell him all was well but that I was v v in the mood. He sounded utterly incredulous and huffed and puffed a lot before going back to sleep.

TBH, I'll bet a dollar or two that if you'd woke him gently stroking his cock and not his arm, you may have had a very different response!

I'd be severely tempted to murder DH if he woke me up for sex, or indeed for anything less urgent than a house fire.

Nowt better than sleep!

maccax is spot on.

Providing you've talked about it before & neither of you have raised any objections to be woken up, it's fine, as is either party to refuse obviously.

If OH woke me up at 3 am for sex I'd tell him to fuck off.

Waking me up for anything other than a cup of tea is forbidden

I would hate this but I would expect any partner of mine to know that and not do it. Does he usually have a problem with sleep? Most people find it unpleasant to be woken from a very deep sleep phase which he may have been in at 3am

He apologised this morning (he actually didn't have anything to apologise for) when he got up and said ordinarily he would have been up for it (as I know) but that last night he'd really struggled to get to sleep and was really tired. Rushed out the door for a meeting but said he would 'sort me out later' hahahaha

Hmmm...i think unreasonable isn't necessarily the right word. Good intentions I guess but very poorly judged. I'm sure all will work out

As a side note though, I imagine the comments would be totally different if it was a guy asking about waking his wife for a shag

The only person allowed to wake me at 3am is my 4 month old. Anyone else would be in trouble 😑 and actually I'd be furious if my husband woke me for sex when I had work in the morning.

BoobleMcB, I thought that as soon as I posted!

It happens here too
Generally both of us have done exactly what you have done on more than one occasion and neither of us has ever complained

When you have small people and animals and both work full time you kind of have to grab the opportunity when you can 😁

My dh would never ever refuse full stop. .
If he woke me though I would probably thump him. .

Wake me up anytime :)

I have woken my DH using similar method to maccax before now. Indeed, he was fully engaged and into it before he even woke up properly.

When DH went about it in the same nice way wrt me in the early hours, it always worked for him, too. I was enjoying it too much to stop by the time I actually started to wake up. If he just called me and patted me on the shoulder, he would have had a very grumpy wife to face at 3am!

Dh loves early morning sex so is more than happy to be woken, me not so much. Even a house fire would depend on the severity, if he can contain it without waking me that would be ideal

TDHManchester 😂😂

I suppose you'd only be unreasonable if you would object to your husband walkng you up.