WIBU to wake DH up for sex?

[SadieContrary]

Just that really. I was awake at 3am and spooned into DH when I really got the urge. So I woke him up and told him so.
He was really NOT pleased. Asked me how I'd have felt it he had woke me for the same and I said that I would have been ok with it. I mean, it's not like it's a nightly occurrence... now that we are married and have DD, are spontaneous nights of sex in the middle of the night consigned to those lusty days of early dating?

if you'd woke him gently stroking his cock and not his arm, you may have had a very different response!

Hmmm but if a man did this the response is assault .

I'd be fuming to be woken up at 3am for sex.

If man began shagging a woman before she was 'properly awake' it would be classed as rape.

missread you are right. However I am a fan of a rude awakening. At 3am less so..

The important thing is that you negotiate these boundaries beforehand. If your partner knows that you welcome being woken for sex or you are happy for them to wake you with sexual contact then it's all fine and dandy. If you haven't discussed this beforehand then it's unacceptable and you shouldn't be surprised if you get yelled at, dumped or arrested.

Adalind
We defo have these boundaries in place and normally it would have been a happy wake up. As I'd posted earlier, I just hadn't realised he'd had a tough time getting to sleep earlier in the night and was shattered. We are all good

Id be really pissed off if anyone woke me at 3am and it wasnt a life or death emergency.

Id be really pissed off if anyone woke me at 3am and it wasnt a life or death emergency.

Well my partner and I have an agreement. We are allowed to wake each other up but we aren't allowed to be hurt if the answer is a polite no. Not that this happens very much as we like our sleep! We have also agreed that if we are feeling horny in the middle of the night it's absolultely fine to masturbate ,all be it quietly. I think we both find that it helps us sleep if we are feeling stressed etc and sometimes we don't want to disturb each other,But again this is all fairly rare in our household.

Oh if only I had to wake him at 3am. At that time he'll be in the loo for the 3rd pee of the night and sex will be the last thing on his mind. It's an age thing.

Urgh, wake me up at 3am at your peril. Only extreme danger or being little gets you away with that nonsense! Wouldn't a shag at that time just completely wake you up anyway? no way

Urgh, wake me up at 3am at your peril. Only extreme danger or being little gets you away with that nonsense! Wouldn't a shag at that time just completely wake you up anyway? no way

I always say to my DP 'if you can't sleep you know where I am ) nothing better than being woken up like that!

I suppose you'd only be unreasonable if you would object to your husband walkng you up

Erm, no. It's irrelevant whether the OP would like to be woken for sex or not. The only question is whether he would want to be woken. Just because OP enjoys something sexually doesn't mean she gets to do it to her DH whether he likes it or not.

You woke him up by massaging his arm? And calling his name?
That would warrant murder in this household.
Massage where maccax is telling you. That will be a different story.

This is something a couple must discuss beforehand. You must know your boundary whe you sleep with a that man everyday? I know with DH it is an absolute yes always if I wake him up the right way.