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Help needed please anyone

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seekerseeker · 31/08/2017 03:10

It's 3 o'clock in the morning and I have come to mumsnet as I don't know what to do.
I've been talking to a guy for some time got on great etc he decided to come and see me on his way home from work tonight we got along fine certain things I asked him he was acting shady but I put it down to nerves. Anyway one thing led to another and half way through sex he jumps up puts his clothes on and makes an excuse and leaves. 5 minutes later he has blocked me on everything. I'm laying here feeling disgusting crying into my pillow I don't have anyone to tell at this time in the morning and I don't want to be judged by close ones I'm not sure what advice I'm looking for but I don't know what to do

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CluelessMummy · 31/08/2017 03:21

I am so sorry that happened to you - you must feel so confused. But you have nothing to feel ashamed about - you've done nothing wrong!

It was very unfair of him to do that - what was his excuse?

for you

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seekerseeker · 31/08/2017 03:31

That he didn't want my daughter to see him in the morning. I get that but to jump off me and put his clothes in seconds didn't even say bye just left. He got in his car and blocked me off everything I'm laying here feeling sick that I've let someone do this to me.

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Cherylvole · 31/08/2017 03:31

He's probably married.

Fudgit · 31/08/2017 03:40

Oh seeker that's horrible! What on earth is wrong with some men?

Could you find something comforting/cheerful to watch to make yourself feel better, have a cup of tea and some biscuits. I know that sounds like a pathetically inadequate suggestion but rather than lie there crying. He's not worth a single tear, what a shock though.

PyongyangKipperbang · 31/08/2017 03:42

Married.

Sorry :(

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seekerseeker · 31/08/2017 03:46

He isn't married I have never felt so disgusting in all my life

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Fudgit · 31/08/2017 03:48

He's disgusting, not you at all. How dare he.

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seekerseeker · 31/08/2017 03:48

Fudgit-
Thank you! I know he isn't worth it but the feeling I'm left with isn't very nice.

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Fudgit · 31/08/2017 03:51

I can imagine. Poor you, I'm so sorry. He's a seriously dysfunctional individual.

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seekerseeker · 31/08/2017 03:56

Thank you Fidgit

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Fudgit · 31/08/2017 04:02

Hope you can get some sleep soon.

SongBirdsKeepSinging · 31/08/2017 04:16

What an absolute arsehole! You are definitely not the disgusting one, he is. I know it's easy to say but you deserve so much better than him. I hope you get some rest

chowmeinchick · 31/08/2017 04:25

He sounds so horrible. I know you feel like rubbish now but it's clear you don't need him, he's an idiot.

Hope you've managed to get some sleep x

orangeowls · 31/08/2017 04:28

I also think married ☹️ you're better off without him. Don't feel bad, he is a tool x

PollytheDolly · 31/08/2017 05:00

He's not right in the head! Don't let HIS obvious issues affect you in this way. He's treated you appallingly.

Do not ever have contact with this arsehole again. He's disgusting.

for you.

MoseShrute · 31/08/2017 05:11

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Silverdream · 31/08/2017 06:54

That sounds like he was feeling guilty or wrong about being there. That he shouldn't have been doing this with you. You say he's not married but there is something else. It could be that he couldn't handle your child being in the house whilst you had sex. He may have found that wrong and couldn't handle it. Perhaps he's in another relationship. But that doesn't excuse what he did. Don't do it in the first place.

It's disgusting what he did. I'm so sorry.

WelshMoth · 31/08/2017 07:31

seeker what an arsehole of the highest order.

Now block him. Should he decide to try and get back in touch, let him see that you have blocked him. Maybe your parting word before you block should be 'arsehole'.

I'm sorry you're feeling so crappy, but this isn't you, it's him and his hang ups and his secrets and his inadequacy.

You're well rid.

Ineedmorelemonpledge · 31/08/2017 07:42

Im another one who thinks he's married or in a relationship, sorry.

What convinces you he isn't?

If I were you I'd put it down to experience, and then review your online technique.

Meet a guy for coffee in a public place, then gave dinner with them, get to know them before you decide to have them in your home and get intimate.

Weed out the sleaze bags. You're worth more than this.

SteelyTesticlesOfObjectivity · 31/08/2017 07:51

If he'd left after sex I'd assume married. This just make me think he gets off on hurting people. Why should you feel ashamed? He obviously was interested or it wouldn't have started.
You are well rid.

flumpybear · 31/08/2017 07:54

Wow!!! Really odd behaviour - albeit you feel (rightfully) odd and grubby, this is all him, you were being very normal under the circumstances - he's got issues, be it emotional, physical or MH - either way its not you so hold your head up high and perhaps consider this a loss but it could have been worse

Fudgit · 31/08/2017 16:58

Are you feeling any better today?

2littlemoos · 31/08/2017 17:14

Poor you OP. What a disgrace of a man!

Please don't think it's anything to do with you and I hope you are feeling some strength since you posted earlier.

I agree with a PP about it probably being guilt. Maybe he has a girlfriend. Perhaps he even has a child of his own and being at yours where you have a child made him realise he should be at home with his child. Honestly, it could be anything!

tangledup123 · 04/09/2017 18:47

So this was the first time you met him? Probably not the best idea to invite a strange man over for sex, particularly not with your child in the same house. TBH I'd count yourself lucky that this was the worst that happened. Hopefully the sex was at least good and you can use this as a lesson learned.

ManOfKent · 04/09/2017 19:02

Unforgivable - I wonder if he was having problems completing the act and felt embarrassed and humiliated? I'm not suggesting that you will have played any part in that, but maybe he is married and his guilt suddenly kicked in?

Truly horrible thing to do. He should be ashamed of himself.

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