Embarrassing sex injury

[DragonsandDungeons]

I was going to NC for this but...

DP and I were having sex. I was in top, which I NEVER do because I find that position at worst painful and at best uncomfortable. I've got a retroverted uterus which I know can cause this.

Tmi following

It was actually okay for once. DP then got carried away and literally threw me into the air, grabbed me and thrusted. There are no words that can convey the vast amount of pain felt. It was on par with my cesarean recovery. I was knocked sick and we had to stop. I couldn't sit down and it felt like my entire vagina went into electric shocks.

For hours after, I felt like I'd been punched in the stomach.

We then tried again when it had stopped hurting and every thrust felt like poking a bruise. Not just inside but my entire body.

DP is wondering what the hell he has done. I'd also quite like to know. I recently had a miscarriage but I know this is nothing to do with that as sex has been fine until this.

Can someone please advise? It was a stupid thing to do, we know that. I've got a TV ultrasound tomorrow and I'm now shitting it. Has any damage been caused?

Bloody hell. He threw you into the air and then thrusted into you? What the fuck is wrong with him?

I don't think he meant to bounce me as high as he did. This is the first (and last -.-) time he will do that

How tiny are you and how muscly is your DH?? It sounds super wired and quite violent!

Go
And get it checked out.

He kept going when "every thrust felt like poking a bruise"?? Doesn't sound like it was fun for you. I find it very odd that he was still aroused and wanting to have sex after hurting you like that.

Anyway sounds like you've proper bashed your cervix. Why are you having the ultrasound? Please don't be embarresssd and do explain to the sonographer what has happened, so they can be careful and to help them interpret things if they can see any damage.

We're the same height and both skinny. Honestly it wasn't violent or anything weird. We're usually into super rough sex with ropes, cuffs and whips, this was pretty mild apart from his misjudgement of height.

I feel so embarrassed going to the doctor about this.

I told him to. He stopped before I wanted to because he was uncomfortable with it.

Ultrasound is because I've got positive ve HPTs after miscarriage without having a period. They want to check for retained products as I've got spotting or possibly pregnant.

Well, if that's what floats your boat, then carry on.

But, go and get checked, just to be safe.

Just think, doctors see people who have managed to get things like bottles or vegetables lodged inside them. Overenthusiastic sex injury is pretty vanilla compared to potato stuck in rectum (true story - friend in med school).

If you partake in risky behaviour then you should be able to countenance the associated pitfalls and deal with them.

I don't like the sound of your injury at all, so please go and get it checked out ASAP especially if you're planning on getting pregnancy again soon.

I'm sure it's nothing serious.

That's actually a good point. I'm now super curious about this potato in the ass though lmao...why a potato?!

Girth?

Yeah we are actively trying so I really hope it's nothing serious. It did cause bleeding afterwards but it's slowed down now.

I'll mention it tomorrow

Oh dear

I once fractured my coccyx during a rather funny awkward session!!

Please go and get it seen to though if you are trying to get pg and ask DH to go a bit easy next time

A fractured coccyx sounds painful o:

DP feels awful, he's very apologetic about the whole thing

Op seems an easy question as rough sex is something you are both in to but if you were doing something potentially dangerous and likely to be awful to your partner, would you let yourself get "over enthusiastic?"

Wouldn't be embarrassed at the doctor though. Vaginal pain after sex is fairly common.

I don't think he realised he could actually hurt me. However I'll admit we're frequently a bit risky with this stuff, and don't always take proper safety measures. However we completely trust each other and I know he didn't mean to seriously injure me.

How much were you bleeding? Spotting or like a period? In any case, you need to get it seen to. Doctors have seen anything. Rough but consensual sex isn't going to alarm a professional.

It was dark red and clotty but only for a short while.

I never stopped bleeding after the miscarriage, it just spots on and off. I'm back at the EPU tomorrow.

(And I do know I'm technically not supposed to have sex until the bleeding has a stopped. It was a decision I made knowing the info, because my bleeding is fairly light and mainly spotting

Dark red and clotty is concerning. I'm glad it's stopped now but please get seen tomorrow. an ultrasound appointment will not be enough. They'll be looking for retained products not examining your vagina for damage. You need a separate GP appointment for this. Seriously.

I think the blood is still from the miscarriage rather than the sex, I think it "knocked it" and bought it out.

Does it really need a GP? I vaguely remember something similar happening with an ex, I can't remember how it happened but the pain was the same. I hate vaginsl exams because I find speculums extremely painful (as I do with large tampons. I'm surprised I can have sex at all really, everything else in there is uncomfortable).

DH once knocked my cervix, by accident I might add, but it felt exactly like you describe, searing pain and electric shock type feelings, really really hurt my guess is he knocked your cervix (I bled too from this) but if your concerned best to get checked...

Sounds like a bash to the cervix and possibly your womb "jerked" a bit because of that. You might have pulled one of the supporting ligaments maybe (this is all guessing of course).

A speculum exam could assess for any tears on the cervix (if spotting continues) and a bimanual examination could assess for ligament strain possibly.

But both of those things should heal without intervention.

I'd see how the TVS goes tomorrow. If it's still painful then get checked.

I would see a GP yes. Best case scenario, they have a quick look, confirm what you thought and you go home. But you need someone who knows what they're doing to examine you. What if there's internal damage or the potential for infection? You don't want to risk that at any time, let alone when you're recovering from a miscarriage.