Spelling mistakes in sexting a real turn off

[Pheasantplucker2]

Oh, so I admit it, I'm a bit of a grammar and spelling pedant...

New bloke, very early days, not been to bed together yet but have progressed to sexting after nights out (I wanted to take it slow and don't want to introduce him to kids yet). He is very lovely, but not very educated. At first it didn't bother me, but now it's beginning to grate.

So last night I had "your georgeous", followed by "I want to lick you clitorus". I properly cringed and all my horniness vanished.

Am I being ridiculous? Would it turn anyone else off? Should I keep persevering? He also refers to my fanny, which I hate, but am I just being very picky? He is lovely in lots of other ways, and keeps making a big deal of how he's never been out with such a clever woman (I'm not particularly, but I went to uni, which he didn't). I haven't said anything to make him feel uncomfortable, but I don't think I can carry on with the sexting. Do I shag him and see if things get better, and lay off written communication?

Has he not got spell check? , my spellings not great but if I'm unsure I will use spellcheck or check on google. I wouldn't let it out you off too much though.

I agree with you. I think it would put me off. I don't mind text speak but that's different from bad spelling/grammar. How many times have you been out with him?

Hahahah! I have a foreign FWB. He communicates mainly in emojis and it makes me cringe a little. His spelling isn't great but I forgive him because he is an animal in the bedroom (and English isn't his first language). To be honest, I have a Masters degree and sometimes I read my spelling and cringe (its because I type fast and send before checking).

Tell him you don't like the term fanny (Its awful!). If you fancy him and its a go-er shag him and tell him you prefer phone calls to texts etc.

Nope, utterly unsexy.

I'm with you OP.

it would be a turn off for me too!

Maybe send replies with the correct spellings in capitals so he knows!?
My dh used a version of a' part' I didn't use so just started using my word lots til he got the hint!!
My dh is a crap speller but a fab shag!!!

Passion killer.

A big turn off for me too. I was chatting to a man OLD and he kept referring to me as Hun. Bleurgh!!!

Give him a break. Its difficult to sext using one hand. The occasional typo is to be excused. Naming bits of each others bodies at an early stage in a relationship is difficult. its only after familiarisation do these names for each others parts become "pet" names.

If it's typos then I'm not too bothered. I know I make loads of typos on mumsnet because I type too quickly on my phone and forget to proof read.

But, if it's just awful spelling etc then it's absolutely a turn off.

In my weird mind I even think clit is preferable to clitoris (too similar to a deciduous shrub) 😰

It would do my head in.

I'm a pedantic cult however

I wouldn't like it either but I'm also a pedant about spelling and grammar.

Should this be in 'sex' or 'pedants corner'?

Do grown men actually say fanny?

Yuck!

I'd have to dump him immediately. DH works for an American company and essays the occasional program or color in normal communications, and that makes me murderous.

I was enormously aroused when a BF sent me a filthily explicit which also correctly used a semi colon.

He's not great at spelling though.

But a cracking shag!

Nice to see a semi, hitting the spot there WontLet

Am I the only person who thinks this is a very unsexy thing to say to someone you don't know very well, even if it were properly spelled and punctuated?

Yuck, that would kill it dead for me.

@Claraschu no you're definitely not alone in your thinking. I shuddered a little at the message content and would not consider myself a prude at all.

DH is dyslexic, I'm a pedant. I've learned to bite my tongue. I've tried teaching the basics but he keeps forgetting.

His best was probably 'I can work well alone or as part of a bigger grope (group). THAT one I changed for him.

This would dry my vagina out quicker than a roll of Thirst Pockets.

I'd bin. I've been there, done that with the whole "He's not educated or intelligent but that shouldn't matter, I'm just being shallow" and it's just pointless for me. I need to be with someone who is on the same level as me.

If it was just the texts I'd allow for dyslexia but your OP pretty much says he's not at your standard.

It's just not sexy, spelt correctly or not.