Fanny fear

[Norky1975]

Has anyone ever experienced the first time with a new partner, only to find that he won't touch you intimately or go down?

A lot of women don't appear to be keen on men going down the first time.
He may have his reasons, or preferences. You should talk to him. How old is he?

44 - only 2 years older than me. He's such a sexual person, I was so surprised.

Does seem odd. Most men love giving. Has he seen you naked, so no surprises, if for instance you were very hairy or the reverse?
It doesn't seem right though. I'd ask him outright

I think I will. Wouldn't even touch me.

Maybe he was worried that he didn't have any condoms or was feeling anxious for some reason? How is he when he kisses you? Does he get an erection?

Oh yes! Huge!

It doesn't sound like he has a fanny fear at all. More likely he has performance anxiety and is holding back until he feels comfortable.

Did you have sex? Not sure if I've read your op properly but do you mean you had sex but he didn't touch you intimately at all? If that's the case I would find it odd. Maybe not the going down part so much as some men don't like it or maybe he didn't feel comfortable as it was your first time together. The touching is pretty standard I think!

If I've read it wrong and you haven't had sex, maybe it is a case of performance anxiety or something.

Yes we had sex.

I really don't get it

So you had sex but he went nowhere near your vagina with either his hands or mouth?
Why did you carry on? I wouldn't have let it get to fucking if he had shown no interest in turning me on. What a loser.

He went straight to PIV? How did he even know you were ready? I get not going down the first time but not even touching? Odd.

Yep, no way I'd have been up for sex without touching or oral-how odd, even my earliest sexual encounters used their hands.

I once dated a rather strange specimen of a man who had a huge of phobia of the female genitalia. He would go straight to PIV too so he didn't have to deal with the vagina for long.

Fortunately, he also had a serious foot fetish and could only get himself off by licking my feet, so it wasn't an issue. It didn't last long.

Thanks ladies. I'd appreciate any more input.
Will speak to him next time.
Definitely a deal breaker

Are you going to see him again? He sounds a selfish fucker, I'd bin him if I were you.

My ex husband would never touch me let alone go down on me. It turned out that he was gay.

Sounds awful. So he touched your boobs, kissed you and put his penis inside you, but neither his hands nor mouth ventured beneath your waist?

What a waste of time!

To be honest with you all, it's more of a FWB situation.
I won't be put out at all if I decide not to go there again.

That's really odd.. so was it straight to penetration? Hope it was first time nerves...

"Thanks ... I'd appreciate any more input."

Maybe that's what you need to say to him!

Well its early days yet so i would let it ride for a while. Chances are it will just happen naturally. As a man i do love to stroke ,stimulate and orally pleasure a woman so i guess its natural and normal. I wouldnt mention anything just yet . Just go with the flow and if it doesnt happen naturally, encourage him ..

Chances are it WON'T happen naturally. This guy has issues.

My ex husband was like this. Never went down on me in over 20 years!

He was very unadventurous generally, completely a one-way street and also said he didn't like the smell of a woman 'downstairs'.

It was a massive issue for me personally and now a deal breaker in future relationships.

I've never met a man who doesn't like playing down below, I do however have many friends who would prefer their husbands didn't use their hands on the fanny.