Fanny fear

[Norky1975]

Has anyone ever experienced the first time with a new partner, only to find that he won't touch you intimately or go down?

There is probably a word for the fear- does anyone know what it is?

He is of course within his rights to not do whatever he doesn't want during sex. I feel that about anyone and any sexual act!

but I would not be with a partner who (I would feel) was just using me as a hole to masturbate his penis.

For me sex is about mutual pleasure and what your describing is only really going to be for his pleasure.

There is probably a word for the fear- does anyone know what it is

Selfish twat?

FWB except without benefits!

Grim.

Yeah this isn't fear, he's just crap in bed!

Wondering if anyone wanted an update on this?

Need you ask?

Go for it!

Obviously!!!

Listening 👂

Eurotophobia apparently

I've also been doing some reading on it!
So I saw him last night - just the same. I spoke to him about it - he said it can take months for him "work himself up to it". Very very reluctant. He's very sweet and funny and great company but if what I've read is correct, this reluctance comes with a whole fuckload of issues

My exh was a Catholic and the first time he sees my fanjo was as i gave birth a few years down the line in our relationship!!
He never even touched me. . Never made me orgasm and held my arm away when I tried to finish myself off!!
I confess I cheated. .
Heard rumours he had a fling with my landlord a few years after our divorce!!
Thinking about stuff mil said when the dc were small I put his hang ups down to her parenting. .

I'm thinking it's definitely something like that.

I have an update!

Go go go

He's trying his best, bless him.
We talked about it again and he said he's always had a mental block - no idea where it comes from, he knows it's frustrating and we are going to take it slowly.
I feel bad that he's missed out on so much!

Nice of you to be patient but tbh I don't know if I would bother for a fwb situation - apart from anything else he's probably not very good at it due to lack of practice. Add in the fact he is forcing himself to do it and it sounds horrible.
Enthusiastic participation is a prerequisite for me.

Lol he is absolutely mugging you off!

I predict it will take exactly the same amount of time for him to work up to it as it will take him to get bored of your FWB situation...