How do you feel about DP having a wank?

[justonesherryformedicinalpurpo]

We have a toddler and a baby.

We have a fairly decent sex life considering we have small kids but recently we went through a rough patch of disliking eachother a bit which lasted a couple of weeks. We got on fine but weren't couple-y.

Anyway recently I found out he had masturbated in the bathroom before work. I felt upset but I think mostly because I was not myself where we were going through a bad patch.

I know everyone needs to release and I've done it myself in the past.

So although I wouldn't row with him about it I know that it still bothers me and sometimes if we haven't dtd in a few days I can't help but wake up when he does for work and feel paranoid if he is doing it again or not. I have talked to him about it but I still feel the same.

I think I just need to get over it because he is human and I completely understand the need for release but I am curious about how everyone else feels about their partner wanking?

For what it's worth I am feeling all kinds of insecurities since having DC2 so I'm fighting my own demons on that and I guess the bathroom event has played into that.

I'm sure mine does it all the time but I don't ask about it and I have no interest in knowing about it.

It doesn't bother me.

It doesn't bother me. I'd rather him have a walk than pester me for sex

A walk? Or is he going for a "walk"?

There are laws against that, you know.

Maybe he just needs a release,maybe he does it frequently as a reaction to excessive stress? Maybe he does it because he thinks you are not that keen on having sex?

Maybe when you both have a day off,maybe saturday or sunday morning, you could wake him up by playing with him, get him hard and wank him off with some baby oil? I'm sure he would love that, it could become a regular part of play and be a bit of an icebreaker?