BJ Virgin

[isobel79]

Hello
Ok a bit shy but I'm seeing someone ATM. Anyway we have slept together a few times. He has "been down" on me and it is so amazing!!!!!
Anyhoo he has asked whether I could "go down" on him but IVE NEVER EVER DONE IT IN MY 37 YEARS!!!!

So I'm a bj virgin. I wouldn't even know how and where to start????

I feel so shy and coy asking but any tips???

Google

Sounds obvious, but keep your teeth shielded (you can give a quick nip if he likes it, but generally men are nervous where teeth are concerned).

Use your hands too so you don't get lock jaw. Decide in advance if you are happy to swallow or not. If you don't like the taste, if you clean your teeth imm3diately beforehand you can only taste the mint of the toothpaste. I sometimes use popping candy in my mouth when I go down on DH as he likes the sensation.

Good luck!

Thank you both I might have a look on Google when the time comes I just don't wanna get it all wrong

Whatever you do, don't blow :)

Popping candy must try that!

I lick my palm and rub it over the head, then take it deep in my mouth. Makes DH's toes tingle like mad! I also like nuzzling his nads with my nose.

Some good tips here thank you I just feel so nervous

No reason it's just the thought of it going in me mouth none of my previous partners have been brave to ask???

Get him involved and ask what he likes

Sorry but whatever you do don't blow made me do a little Piss from laughing ! Had visions of a little penis ballon!

It usually works to include plenty of teasing first, get him in the mood. Use your hands, lips and tongue and remember to try and pay attention to all areas, balls, shaft and head. You'll work out what he likes best, kissing, licking, sucking, by his reaction to what you're doing but if in any doubt, ask! I'm sure he'll be more than willing to point you in the right direction. Good luck and have fun, if you're enjoying it he'll love it more!

jacrispy that made me giggle I'll try not too. I know what he likes he always tells me what he'd like me to do

Thanks peeps I'm feeling a bit confident now. We texting ATM and I'm teasing him hee hee

Have a look on YouTube.

I agree with ALaugh, there's a fabulous video on there that can teach you ways of using a grapefruit you've never thought of before. Real hard-hitting stuff.

My x was so critical and contemptuous that i never did it either. I did it a couple of times and apparently i did it wrong and then i ended up so embarrassed.
Luckikly afterwards i ended up with a man who said that if he was lucky enough to have my lips on his penis then the last thing he would do woyld be conplain. It helped give me confidence back.

That's my worry GloriousRoob that I'll get it wrong. Think I'm gonna have a couple glasses of before I get "down" to it. Thank you

I doubt you will get it wrong. Ime men don't complain. DH had never had a BJ before meeting me and I probably set myself up, by doing it the first time we had sex!! He wouldn't have thought it was on the menu 😂

It's actually quite a good way to tell if you;re with somebody you should be with :-0

The guy I was with who said the reassuring things to me, he was of the school of thought that if I was kissing his penis it was going to feel nice and he was not going to tell me to stop. I enjoyed that. I used to feel sick with terror trying to give my x (kids' dad) a bj as I knew he would just mock my attempts and make me feel like an idiot. Anyway, I'm not with that guy now as he was 3 years younger and he wanted children and I have children. But I was lucky [yes seriously] to have had the opportunity to .................. practise [?] on him. Obviously I did like him so it was easy. But I find now that it's a good bench mark, if you're worried a man will grade you like it's an ice skating competition then he is not worthy of the gesture. I find it easier now, it clarifies my feelings like nothing else. If you're worried about giving a bf a bj then either you're on you're bb (why?) or he's not valuing you for you.. Now I think do I want to kiss his knob and if the answer is no then it stops me in my tracks and makes me think. Obviously sex is easier it is not the test in the same way.

Thanks all

My husband has just said to tell you that as long as there are no unexpected teeth involved-there's no such thing as a bad blowie! Let us know how it goes!!

Thanks thebakerwithboobs for getting you OH view.

My husband has just said to tell you that as long as there are no unexpected teeth involved-there's no such thing as a bad blowie!. I hate statements like that. Of course there are crap blow jobs. It's always said by someone who hasn't had a mind blowing BJ.

Op BJ's are like sex, there are lots of different types, long slow ones, quickies ( just to get you off), ones with toys, different body positions. Swallow, not swallow (show and drip or snowball).

By far the two best BJ partners I have had (I estimate around 30) their enthusiasm, was the big turn-on.

After that was their experience. (They ran the show so to speak). So my advice would be. Tell him you are a novice, ask him to tell you exactly what he wants. Then most of all, do it as if you are really enjoying it .
good luck. Happy blowing.

Thanks everyone well we having a day together Tues and I know what will happen he just has to touch me and he turns me on so I hope I will have the GUTS to do the deed. Feeling soooooo nervous though

How did it go isobel?