BJ Virgin

[isobel79]

Hello
Ok a bit shy but I'm seeing someone ATM. Anyway we have slept together a few times. He has "been down" on me and it is so amazing!!!!!
Anyhoo he has asked whether I could "go down" on him but IVE NEVER EVER DONE IT IN MY 37 YEARS!!!!

So I'm a bj virgin. I wouldn't even know how and where to start????

I feel so shy and coy asking but any tips???

Ah thanks for remembering me snowflake65 well I got as far as putting it in me mouth a few times but I felt like I was biting him although he said I wasn't but he was definitely getting turned on. I think it was me who was so nervous that I couldn't keep it in me mouth for more than 10 secs . Always a next time ........ X

Just go for it!! I find that no matter what 'technique' I use, DH seems to love it anyway!

And a little bit of dutch courage can't hurt to try and help you relax the first time. Good luck!

Thank you I think I worked myself up so much which made me more nervous

Definitely try some more dutch courage... I always think I'm catching DH with my teeth, but if he says not, trust him.

And trust that if you were he WOULDN'T be getting more turned on. Was he hard before you tried? As that can make it easier. As well as hand on shaft and concentrating your technique on the head at first til you're more confident.

Also putting it all in your mouth, isn't the only way to turn him on/pleasure him with your mouth/tongue.

Practice makes perfect.

Have you told him you've never done it before? If not, tell him! Tell him you've never done it before but you want to do it for him, he'll love it! Then ask him for tips. You have an amazing opportunity here to get to find out exactly what turns him on.

As a very young man, I had a partner who was fifteen years older than me for a while.

She told me that the best blowjobs are ones that are done really badly. It's true. Technical excellence in anything to do with sex is a bit offputting. Very few men would really want to sleep with a porn star.

What a lucky man he is to have someone who is taking such an interest in his happiness. Enjoy yourself.

Yeah he knows I've NEVER done it before and he was my "first". Funny thing was he's said thank you twice to me which I find a bit off putting. Tbh having had a few days to reflect I don't think I'd do it again. Mixed feelings

Ffs why do they say thank you!

It's very off putting... you peanut I gave u a bj not my last rolo!

It really is LP I would have rather he said nothing!!! I mean I never say thank you

If you don't like having his cock your mouth you could let your hand(s) do most of the work and just use your tongue.You might also want to use some lube if he likes it because it makes things easier.

I dont get why it's bad either. I said thankyou to a man last year, was the first time id felt emotionnally seen and safe in long time. Maybe ever. So i said thank you. He got it. Wasnt weird at all.

I wouldn't like the thanking either, it would put me right off.
If you wanted to it might be worth trying to use your mouth again to give him pleasure but not to give yourself the pressure of 'giving him a BJ', IYSWIM?

Thanks all I think I've decided that it's not for me

Would you believe I haven't heard a peep from him since last Friday and it was me who texted him. He called me (after I went out of my comfort zone to try and give him a BJ) the next day but I haven't heard a peep since last week. I don't know what to think. I'm a bit disappointed because giving a BJ is something I've never done before I haven't even let a man's penis come near my mouth in all my sexually active years. I'm just pissed off

I don't blame you. For me it's far more intimate than just sex. Feel free to save it for somebody you know will stick around.

Thank you

Oh that is crappy behaviour on his part OP, still chalk it up to experience and move on. At least you have tried it and know you won't want to again.