Never seen anything like this.

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I had a new partner over the summer whom I've seen on and off and I’ve not seen anything like it before.

In a nut shell, he cant have an orgasm through regular sex. He just does not climax without a herculean effort which is often far too painful and goes on too long for me.

He wasnt too bad the first time we were together over a weekend. But lately he cant stay hard long enough to put a condom on so that takes ages as you have to keep starting again and then he goes at is as hard and fast and deep as he can and I had to tell him to stop as it was hurting.

So then he says he has to use his hand. He says he masturbates every day and he absolutely had to climax this time or he would be frustrated all day if he didnt. He asked after did you come? Yeah of course I did with 30 seconds of it like that.

He said he should probably stop masturbating so much and get some sensitivity back. But I thought this was a myth?

The first few times it was ok. Enjoyable and he was concerned for my pleasure. This time I felt I was just there to facilitate an orgasm for him. It is so hard for him to climax that he seems to get wound up about it and I guess that puts him off more. I got no enjoyment at all from it last time and he barely asked.

My dp used to be exactly the same. Its the wanking.

yeah. You say used to be, so it can be stopped?

Is Death Grip Syndrome a Masturbation Myth on Vice.com

Yeah if they stop wanking daily and try and steer clear of as much porn.

Life is too short to put up with bad sex. I think you should ditch him and find someone who is interested in pleasing you as well as himself.

He literally pinned my legs behind my head and went as hard and fast and deep as possible and I said to him stop it, that hurts

Porn. He think that's what women want

Too much porn. Ick.

This is definitely a thing. But its reversible. Have a look at www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/
www.nofap.com/rebooting/

Either that or reverse cowgirl so he can see my arse.

Pins your legs behind your head? Nice stealth boast there OP

Olen I'd worry I'd break a hip.

That is some shit sex considering he's a new partner and should be trying to impress you op.

It would be a deal breaker for me sounds like hard work obviously it's up to you whether or not his good points outweigh the bad.

lol. hardly. my feet were by my head though almost. so seemed that way

He needs retraining, starting from scratch.

Whether you think that the whole relationship is worth the effort that this is going to take, is up to you.

Is there any scientific evidence for "death grip syndrome"? I bet there is not.

The evidence of the claimed effects that porn has on men is also questionable.

Surely a more common sense solution is more foreplay - men need it too. Laying off the wanking might help, but equally it might not. Men's sexual response varies for all manner of reasons as with women, despite all the stereotypes.

If someone treats you like a wank sock in the early days...you've only yourself to blame in you're having no/utterly crap sex in the future.

God lord dump this selfish bastard at once it doesn't matter one jot what difficulties he has maintaining an erection or climaxing though intercourse because he's a selfish bastard who's not concerned with either your pleasure or even your comfort. Find someone nice who'll be nice to you like you deserve.

Why do you need to understand the whys and wherefores? Just fuck him off and find someone who doesn't treat you like a blow up doll.

Death Grip Syndrome, don't be feckin rediculous of course it's made up. If it is not then why isn't there a banjo clit syndrome?

We've been wanking ourselves silly for millennia but we wait until the second millennium to "discover" this phenomena. Bollocks.

MN is generally quite sensible, but the air time given to this falsehood, is amazing. It fits in nicely with the "most men are wankers" mindset.

Why on earth would you even consider having sex with this selfish, inexperienced, porn addicted wanker again?

Death Grip Syndrome, don't be feckin rediculous of course it's made up. If it is not then why isn't there a banjo clit syndrome?
WTF would banjo clit syndrome be?
But there is absolutely no doubt that if a woman masturbates using a vibrator every day, and doesn't have any other form of sexual stimulation, then there's a good chance that will affect her ability to orgasm from other forms of stimulation in the future.

It's not made up - it's the experience that many men have had.
It doesn't mean that every man will experience it. If a man is regularly having sex alongside his regular masturbation then there is unlikely to be a problem, but when he has years of masturbation only, then of course he could become too accustomed to that kind of stimulation.

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I agree totally.

Yes, everyone's experience is different, but in my 30+years as an adult male, I've never experienced this phenomenon or ever heard any other bloke mention it.

But there is absolutely no doubt that if a woman masturbates using a vibrator every day, and doesn't have any other form of sexual stimulation, then there's a good chance that will affect her ability to orgasm from other forms of stimulation in the future.

I can personally vouch for the fact that this is utter nonsense.

I was single for a few years a while back. The vibrator was all I had. No problem climaxing once I started seeing someone again.

Yeah, I can't see how that works either,it's much more likely to be the combination of wanking AND porn and the fact he sounds utterly shit in bed!!

Yeah DameDiazepam.....I think he might just be shit and not experienced enough and wanking...

Love your username by the way!

Is he on antidepressants at all?

That can make orgasm difficult.

I very much doubt it. But then again, you never know.