My boyfriend wants both of us to come EVERY time we have sex!

[YoJesse]

How cool is that?! Not a stealth boast and it's early days but I'm not used to that. I've never had a Dp who took that much interest in my orgasm so I feel a bit stunned. Does this last or are these early days numbered?
Do you both come every time you have sex?

Yes, every time.

DH says, I'm not finished till you're finished. It's part of the whole experience. Yes, he's fab in other ways too.

I didn't think we were unusual in that area though.

And to your question, does it last? Make sure it lasts. Put as much effort into pleasing him as he does to pleasing you and it will only get better

Yes, and he makes sure I do before he does. I thought this was just the norm. Enjoy it, I'm sure it will last!

Yes, for the last two years it's been the same with DP, and he gets an immense amount of pleasure from it.

And it's taken a lot of convincing to explain to him that some mornings I really just want a quickie before he leaves so that I can feel close to him all day....

He thinks he's selfish in doing that.

Yes.

Yes. A loving partner will care about your experience too!

Oh aye. He won't move on to any in and out action until I'm thoroughly satisfied.
Unless one of us had instigated a quickie.

No. [Sad] Sex stops as soon as he's done.

Funnily enough I don't feel like sex that often at the moment.

Think about it if you weren't having PIV but MM you wouldn't get up and walk away if you finished first would you? You'd make sure he finished too. That's what unselfish people do.
If I ever had a new relationship where a partner didn't do this I'd actually dump them now despite tolerating it in the past.

aforest thats awful.
As I said in my post though I've had partners who think that is acceptable. Its not.

Lots of satisfied women on mumsnet
I'm getting better at wanting more sexually but my previous experiences are the same as aforest I thought that's how it was that when they came it was finished. It was always the way with any previous partners.

That's the norm in our house

I come before he does. That's my personal rule and no man has ever had a problem with it I mean I don't spell it out in words but it's the unspoken expectation we both have and if a man was racing to his orgasm without considering mine he wouldn't get a second go.
Also, if you practice you can learn to orgasm very quickly so a quickie doesn't have to mean no orgasm.
Kegel muscles are vital in this, do your pelvic floors in the usual way and also use them while masturbating.

Absolutely, for the last 30+ years it's always been like that

Don't put up with anything less, anyone reading this thread

Glad to see you're upping your standards Jesse

DH makes me come very easily and usually multiple times, he loves it as much as I do and it adds to his pleasure too.
Two decades together and he still makes sure I'm left throughly satisfied every time we DTD.

This is the norm for me but I don't have any experience with other people as DH is the only person I've ever slept with. (Been together since our teens)

Ladies always come first in my house.

Do you know until about 8 months into my first sexual relationship I didn't even know women could orgasm! Unfortunately it wasn't through orgasm that I discovered this, it was a conversation my then boyfriend had had with his female friend which he was relaying to me that made me realise a) women could orgasm and b) he thought I had been orgasming throughout our relationship! (I didn't fucking correct him!)

And it was only last year that I was in a relationship for the first time (and there were many before him) with someone who actually considered my orgasm as important as his and made sure I orgasmed before him.

Well, I'm single now but I can tell you my bar has been set!

I could get used to This! Standards are definitely being upped costa

I really didn't realise it was so important to some men.

deadringet ladies come first I like that

Ummmm, isn't that kind of the point?

It should be the absolute bare minimum that couples should expect from each other in a sexual relationship!
Never accept anything less than satisfaction for both partners.

I do but usually second I prefer it that way

I'm going to go against the grain here and say this sounds absolutely exhausting all this pressure for both of you to orgasm every time.

I mean I totally think that your partner should be focussed on you and your pleasure but sometimes we just want to mess around and not necessarily go all the way for both of us every single time. Sometimes DH will pay more attention to me, sometimes me to him. We don't have a scorecard.

I think this was my very first post in the sex topic

What Hearts says, but it's nice when you both do and there's no pressure.
If you are both enjoying it, what does it matter?

My DP is the same, and I'm always first. He won't until I have.

But don't you guys ever want to just have a quickie?

And why does PIV have to end in an orgasm anyways?