My boyfriend wants both of us to come EVERY time we have sex!

[YoJesse]

How cool is that?! Not a stealth boast and it's early days but I'm not used to that. I've never had a Dp who took that much interest in my orgasm so I feel a bit stunned. Does this last or are these early days numbered?
Do you both come every time you have sex?

I really struggle to orgasm from PIV so we always conclude our foreplay with him going me oral then we dtd.
Something I insisted on when we got together was that we are 100% honest when it comes to sex. I've been in too many relationships where i was scared to admit I hadn't come in case I hurt the other persons feelings so now all cards are on the table. Prior to having ds 18 week ago our sex life was amazing and Its slowly getting back there

Oh and I agree with hearts. Sometimes he gets more attention, sometimes I do.

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I agree with hearts, I don't come every time and it's nothing my bf does or doesn't do, sometimes it just ain't gonna happen. Same for him, especially second/third round. We still enjoy being intimate and fooling around.

What Hearts says is different to what I'm assuming Jesse means

You can choose what happens in the bedroom, whether you want a quickie or a longer session, that's totally different to the man always getting what he wants, and not caring what you want

But don't you guys ever want to just have a quickie?

Yep, still orgasm though.

And why does PIV have to end in an orgasm anyways?

Because orgasm releases the sexual energy built up during foreplay and feels great?

hearts I would have thought it would be totally exhausting but it's not like there's a pressure on me to come. More that he's considering my pleasure as more than a by product of his.
I used to have loads of sex in my last relationship some of it amazing but I didn't always feel like it. Because I wasn't always turned on it didn't really bother me if I didn't come because there wasn't always that build up of sexual energy that needed to be released. Now every time I'm having sex I'm already turned on so it seems like a natural way to end it.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say this sounds absolutely exhausting all this pressure for both of you to orgasm every time.
I don't actually think you are going against the grain as much as you think you are. This isn't about pressure to have PIV and orgasm every time, it's about the understanding that both partners get whatever satisfaction they need from each encounter.
My DH will always check that I am happy, as I do for him. There is no pressure in that. It usually involves PIV and orgasm, but certainly not always, and there's no problem with that. The point is that neither of us are ever left wanting more or unsatisfied.

totally different to the man always getting what he wants, and not caring what you want

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the understanding that both partners get whatever satisfaction they need from each encounter.

I completely agree! It's just the OP (and the title of the thread) emphasised the EVERY time aspect.

OP I think it's fantastic that you have found an unselfish partner who cares about your satisfaction. Every partner should be like that.

I don't always. But then I dont always want to.

I know DH feels very guilty on the rare occasions he doesn't give me at least one orgasm during sex (despite me assuring him he doesn't need to feel bad - sometimes it just doesn't happen despite his best efforts). We've been together for almost 13 years so it certainly wasn't just an 'in the early days' thing with him. In fact, I'd never had an orgasm before we started going out and it took a year or so for us to figure it out but he's never looked back!

My husband knows that he has to make me orgasm, and he very much wants to. I can't imagine why a woman would sell herself short in such a way. DH cannot make me come through PIV, so I make sure I orgasm first through him using oral/hands/toys. Even if he has an oops moments and ejaculates first, he knows I need to orgasm as well, and he makes sure that I do.

With my BF it's not an issue because he is so good in bed that there is no chance of me not having orgasms!

To be honest if my dh 'expected' it from me every time I'd feel too pressured and it'd have a negative effect

I'm glad you've found a good one...I have never had sex with a man who put me first, and it's really really depressing to say the least. As soon as the man comes I get offered a cuddle....no I don't want a cuddle you dickhead I want you to go down on me THEN I want a cuddle!