Sex that's too good? How do I make him shag badly?

[TinderGirl]

New guy. Had lots of sex this weekend, but there's lots of cervix smashing and generally "too good" sex. I don't want to be on the ceiling all of the time, but he's not really understanding that while he can do amazing 10/10 sex, I really need some 3/4/5 and 6/10 sex to warm up rather than just going straight into the 10/10 stuff.

But then it's also not 10/10 as I'm nowhere near needing to orgasm.

I really have never had sex like it and it's left me totally bamboozled as to how we can bring it down a lot of notches when he literally seems only able to provide one sort.

I'm hoping to see him again in a few days and it would be nice to be able to properly enjoy sex.

Never thought I'd ever find myself commenting that the sex is "too good" - but here we are....

Are you shagging my ex husband ?

What you're describing sounds like "ragging". The man goes at it so hard and fast, that his partner bounces about like a shaken ragdoll, and using your cervix as target practice. Horrible sex IMO, I don't know many women that enjoy that. At. All.

And I'm one of those women that hated it, and one of the (many) reasons he's an ex. But because he was well endowed, he thought that fact alone made him an awesome lover. It didn't. It really, really didn't.

Just because someone can hammer at your cervix for hours, does not make them 'good at sex'.

He's already shagging badly if you're not enjoying it.