First munch- eek!

[purpleaura]

I'm very excited ;) Any advice from the world of kinksters out there please?

I've often thought about going to a munch...but what if you get there and they are NOT all a bunch of random strangers? That's what frightens me. What if you get there and your mums friend is there? Or your old brownie leader? Or that nice polite elderly chap who you know from choir practice? I'm not sure I'm ready to come out to all and sundry!

Married to would be thinking the same as you, that's why there are rules and etiquette to the scene, anyone outing anyone else deliberately would More,than likely be ostracised.

I met my partner through Adulthub. So I'm guessing my dinner conversation would be slightly similar....

I often think about running into people on a site like that or potential swinging/swapping what ifs...

If you are both practising the same "hobby" with the same risks then I'd hope and think you'd have a new found mutual respect for each other and keep the secrecy. Then agree not to participate and avoid all eye contact below the chin. 😂😂😂

So the munch is tomorrow, I'm on fet life now, and all I can see are pictures of what seen to be female models. I am not particularly photographable, being size 16-18 with a post-baby tummy. I'm just imagining politely chatting to people tomorrow but underneath feeling really shitty that no one is going to want to 'play' with me when all the other women are slinky, sexy slips of things :(

I'd never heard of munch...I thought op was getting oral sex for the first time!

But good luck hope it goes well.

Good luck, OP. You'll be fine. I go to my local munch regularly. Honestly, it's just people chatting in a pub. I'd say 75% of conversation is non kink related.

Have you emailed the organiser and let them know you'll be there for the first time? At mine, they'll make a special effort to say hello to you and introduce you to other people.

And the good thing about munches, is that it's definitely not weird to go alone. Hope you have fun!

And don't go expecting to hook up with people, by the way. It's a social event. Lots of people there will already be in exclusive relationships etc. It's just a way to meet other kinky people. (And obviously lots of other people's kinks won't be your kink. Fascinating to find out how many different kinky lifestyles are out there.)

Thanks startled. That's really reassuring. I have been in touch so they're expecting me. I keep having to remind myself this is supposed to be fun!!

Don't worry about the model pictures. kinksters are just normal people. With the whole range of body shapes that involves.

So did you go purple? How was it?

Well, I did it! Now I don't even know why I was nervous! They were such an incredibly nice bunch of people. So tolerant and accepting. It was mostly general chat, but interspersed with kink. Sofa- I read your post just before I went in and it was exactly what I needed- thanks :) I'm home now with a warm glow:)

Yay! Kinky people are the BEST people, I reckon.

Tell us more! So glad it went well.

Yay I'm glad it was a warm welcome to the scene. Be careful though it's very easy to jump into the rabbit hole with lots of new and exciting stuff. Have fun

Coconutty, the point of it is to meet new people, hang out and have a nice time.

So glad it went well. For those who asked about dinner parties... Dh and I are open with some friends - those who we know are quite liberal but mostly we just say we met online. We just evade any probing questions.

And we don't really do fancy dinner parties

gaghiagirl I can tell you a bit about what went on.... I arrived early so I walked into a room with four for people in it, one of whom I'd met earlier. Much less scary than if I went later and there were about 40 peeps. Ordered a drink and joined a table with two lovely people chatting about work. Most of the chat was everyday stuff really, then occasionally someone would slip into kink mode. People talked about kink in such a matter of fact way, which seems really liberating. I learned about some stuff I haven't ever heard, like primal play (being all growly, scratchy and animalistic). People were really open to me asking questions about kink. And a couple of people were interested in why I was there and how I found out about the munch. So I take about my kinks a little, which was easier than I thought in the end. People weren't drinking vast amounts, apparently kinksters generally don't. That kind of reassured me too, that people weren't gonna get drunk and loud. Everyone I spoke to was really friendly, pleased to meet me and v chatty. I didn't feel preyed upon, which was something I was a little worried about. And it really helped that there were were a few other newbies too. Hope that gives you an idea what it was like :)

Totally thought this was a lesbian thread. So disappointed (but happy for OP).