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Prostate Massage

30 replies

JamesTiberiusKirk · 14/07/2016 12:31

Hi everyone,

I have been reading up on the benefits of prostate massages, and am keen to explore this with my wife. I showed her a couple of articles about it but she was reluctant to try it, as she was worried about mess (sorry if TMI) and sticking her fingers "up there".

I was just wondering if anyone on the forum had tried this with their partners, and what their experience was?

Many thanks!

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newtscamander · 14/07/2016 12:37

If she doesn't want to do it then you can't force the issue. But you could suggest she covers her fingers with a condom or uses a toy.

MephistophelesApprentice · 14/07/2016 12:45

Girlfriend and I did it in the shower. I cleaned out a bit first, she gave it a try, it was great, she could wash her hands without looking. Now we just keep wipes near the bed. Good times.

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JamesTiberiusKirk · 14/07/2016 12:45

Just to be clear, I am not trying to gather testimony to try and change her mind! That would be a waste of time, believe me!

It is all a bit of uncharted territory for me, so I am interested to know whether other people have tried it, and how it went for them.

A

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ThisPasadenaHomemaker · 14/07/2016 12:47

"I cleaned out a bit first"

Sexiest thing I've read today.

UmbongoUnchained · 14/07/2016 12:49

Maybe see if she would try it with a toy first?

Ineedmorelemonpledge · 14/07/2016 13:56

Yes it drives my DP wild.

But afterwards he struggles with the whole masculinity thing...until the next time.

He's very clean and I've never had a problem in that regard. I find it very erotic to see him go crazy like he does.

But if she doesn't want to do it, how is this thread going to make a difference to your wishes? Confused

Be prepared for posters to come on and say that you are completely homosexual for wanting anything done around the bum area though, if the last thread on Passionate sex is anything to go by...Hmm

Ineedmorelemonpledge · 14/07/2016 13:57

Oh yes we use toys too. Smallish butt plugs and a small anal vibrator. That one sent him to the ceiling....Grin

flanjabelle · 14/07/2016 13:58

If she doesn't want to, why don't you do it to yourself?

WhoTheFuckIsSimon · 14/07/2016 14:07

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JamesTiberiusKirk · 14/07/2016 14:12

WhoTheFuckIsSimon

Nope - was actually more interested in potential drawbacks / problems.

I thought this was a sex forum where questions could be asked openly.

My mistake

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VinoTime · 14/07/2016 14:13

If it is something your wife is uncomfortable about trying, please don't badger her into it. If she's said no, she's clearly not interested in trying right now. Personally speaking, I couldn't think of anything less sexy than being asked to shimmy my fingers up a partners shit chute, so I'm with your Mrs on this one Wink

You've mentioned you would like to try it, you've shown her a bit of research you've looked up, leave it with her and if she decides she'd be okay to try it at some point, hopefully she'll let you know. In the mean time, if it really is something you want to experiment with, buy yourself some toys.

PirateFairy45 · 14/07/2016 14:20

Where in the title 'mums net' gives any clue that it's a sex forum?.

WhoTheFuckIsSimon · 14/07/2016 14:28

You're right it is a sex forum where people can ask stuff.

It just seems a bit bizarre to post asking about other people's experience while also pointing out that your DW won't change her mind. Maybe it's me but I don't see the point therefore in asking about other people's experience apart from for thrills. It's not as if you're asking for advice which you can then put into practice?

WhoTheFuckIsSimon · 14/07/2016 14:29

pirate. This is the "sex" topic in Mumsnet. Grin

flanjabelle · 14/07/2016 14:47

Pirate, you seem to have unwittingly strayed into the sex forum dear. I assume this came up on active! Grin

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JamesTiberiusKirk · 14/07/2016 14:48

PirateFairy45

This is the Sex Forum on Mumsnet, or am I dreaming? Are men not welcome here?

WhoTheFuckIsSimon

I've already stated that I am not interested in trying to change my wife's mind. Badgering people into doing things they aren't keen on, sexual or not, never seems a terribly good idea.

I was simply asking as I am curious about PM and have never done it before. I assumed that there might be some people who had tried it and could give some pointers.

For what it's worth, the sex forum on Mumsnet is the last place I would go for titillation.

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QuackDuckQuack · 14/07/2016 14:50

Could you buy disposable gloves, if that is her only objection?

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JamesTiberiusKirk · 14/07/2016 14:56

QuackDuckQuack

That's an interesting idea thanks, but it might kill the mood! Shall have to have a think about that, as I don't want to keep bringing it up with my wife.

May look into the toy side of things.

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NotTheSpiceOfLife · 14/07/2016 17:28

Here's what I don't understand. Why even ask any of the questions that you have if your wife won't change her mind? I mean, what's the point?

In answer to your question, my man loves it. But we don't do it all the time, it's a treat Wink

AnecdotalEvidence · 14/07/2016 17:48

I would explore toys, and make sure you get a good quality lube (love honey have a good range)
Your DW might be happy to use toys on you.

gamerchick · 14/07/2016 17:52

Comes in handy if you're under a humper and you've had enough. Yanno the ones that pride themselves on 'going for ages' like its a good thing.

You can't make her do it but I agree some toys might help.

TheNaze73 · 14/07/2016 17:55

maybe ask her to watch you have a prostate massage done professionally first time??

Ineedmorelemonpledge · 14/07/2016 19:24

If you want to know how it feels then perhaps the Love Honey forum will have some men on there experienced in this.

I think that might be more helpful. Especially if you were doing something yourself. The majority of us don't have a prostate gland so we can't comment on the personal sensation.

Do you use toys in sex anyway?

There are a LOT of anal ones on the market aimed at men nowadays.

GinAndSonic · 14/07/2016 22:28

I wear gloves when doing bum stuff. Helps smooth nail edges too. A jabby nail edge will kill the mood.

TheoriginalLEM · 14/07/2016 22:35

i think if you ask her to massage your perineum (between bottom and balls) it gives similar results.

people saying this is inappropriate for mumsnet - stop clutching pearls , this is the sex topic.

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