Am I being too needy?

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First time posting in this section

Been seeing my fella for 7 months.

Got to spend a few nights with him this week and we had sex the first two nights. It wasn't great as I didn't climax at all. The final two nights we didn't have sex even though last night I made it clear I was up for it.

I'm left feeling frustrated, rejected and generally fed up. I hate feeling like this as in my last LT relationship I felt like this all the time (ex used to withhold sex). I'm not a sex fiend by any stretch of the imagination but I do think that after only 7 months I shouldn't be feeling like this.

Am I overreacting?

he has also said) this relationship was for keeps.
maybe for him a 'keeper' is a woman who allows him to ignore her sexual needs?

I think I need to give him the benefit of the doubt and have this conversation. Will text him tonight to start off with. See his reaction. And then see if Suzanne is right

It's better to have the conversation by text than not at all. Good luck! I hope you can explain how you feel and he takes it on board

I'm with a woman who has a higher sex drive than me. Sometimes I'll get her off and that's it, but it's because I want it that way not because she doesn't want to! I love making her orgasm, so not laziness on my part. My point is that even if he's not up for full on sex, he can still do stuff for you. And that you should be with someone who wants you to climax!

He has done that before actually. I climaxed before full sex, and we stopped at that point. I guess he didn't feel like it. Maybe we do have different sex drives.

Can you help with how I am supposed to word the bloody text?? We're having a normal chit chat text right now and I have no idea how to change the subject. God I am crap at this

Okay sent him a sort of jokey text saying I was feeling extra horny after 2 nights of sleeping in the same bed but not having sexy time. He apologised and said he would make amends...

has he never heard of oral?

Hey OP

As I was reading this thread, I was thinking, 'is he aware that you are happy, aren't erm, finishing, have you talked to him? Then I saw that you find this too difficult.

And I reckon this is the major problem, if he is unaware, then he either needs to improve his telepathy skills, or you need to start communicating I'm afraid. Thing is, he probably finds it difficult to talk too,, maybe as you don't see each other in the week, start a SMS session being a bit risque and lead him into it that way?

Maybe checkout mojoupgrade and see if you want to try getting some ideas off that.

Good luck :)

Yeah. I meant aren't happy obviously...

I so love the lack of editing posts here :)

Did you get chance to speak to him op?

Sorry I haven't been back to update before now. Last few weeks have been mad busy.

Yes I did! Told him I wanted to be satisfied every time, preferably during full sex. It's been great since although still trying for the illusive full sex climax!! But I've been satisfied every single time (sometimes more than once in one session)

Just read your post and my DH was like your partner when we first got together. He was very shy when it came down to sex and it come across as not caring or rejecting me. It was actually that he didn't understand how to please an women, no one had ever shown him. We now 3years on have the best sex ever, he's adventurous and has been able to carry out some things that he never thought was possible. It can turn around but it takes time and confidence. If everything else is right, then tell and show him how you like to be pleased, but don't forget though it works both ways. I found that watching porn together a hand full of times worked well for us, I could ask "would you like me to do that?" Or "I'd love you to do that to me". It may work for you

I think I am a bit shy when it comes down to it although in my head I'm a filthy so and so!

I have a similar problem. Dp is very shy and I can't talk about sex. I know what he likes (passive) but struggle to do it. How he touches me doesn't do it for me. He's always tired too. I don't want to end it, he's lovely in all other ways. I'm trying to work on it. Glad things have improved for you op.