First time Anal sex

[Chocolatecake105]

Help need all the advice I can get!

I've never done anal before and I'm up for trying it but It's likely to happen when I see him tomorrow!! I'm worried about him getting it in as he's not on the small side, I do have lube though!

Do I try and poo before??? Then should I bath/shower after that? I want to be clean!

Is this going to go horribly wrong and I'll end up shitting on his dick!?

Any helpful advice TIA

But "Don't let him talk you into it" is pretty far from "ewwwww bum!"

You might not agree with the former, and yes perhaps it makes some assumptions, and I agree that the latter is pretty childish.

"And Bertie yes I know nobody posted those exact words, that's why I said type stuff."

Not even "type stuff"

blimey so serious! anal sex isn't just for blokes is it... its sexy and fun if done properly as an occasional change to PIV, can sometimes be messy but not usually. If you fancy it give it a try!

Hmm.

Experience of threads like this tells me to keep my counsel, and I will. However, I hope enjoyed her experimentation and had fun and wasn't too put off by the negative responses to her opening post.

No. Anal sex is not just for blokes.

Anal sex is for those who like it. And only those who like it.

Yes, "type stuff" Bertie

Is there anything more desperately unsexy than having to slosh water up your poo pipe to ready it for a penis?

It'll be just like having the over-55 bowel screening enema.

never said any different Dione

I know. I was agreeing with you. I have been told that I can come across as a bit short in my msgs. I am sorry if you thought I was having a go.

Anal sex isnt my thing but i thinkberties posts are very good advice

Why do people come on these threads and post negative things? OP is asking for advice.

I've found anal very pleasurable and never had to prepare in any way but do use lube. I think a lot of it is about penis size, my DP is average so no pain or anything. It can get messy but sex does! I find I need the loo straight away afterwards to let it all come out And it does feel like you're pooing when he's pulling out! It's not all the time though, maybe 20 times in 8 years. Love the Carrie quote!

So lots of lube, patient partner, relax your body, stop if it gets painful (though sometimes it can hurt slightly going in but quickly subsides, but then vaginal sex is like that for me too), stay in control and enjoy!

I meant had anal sex 20 times in 8 years.

I have enjoyed anal as part of our sex life for many years.
Rest assured I am still fully continent!
I have never felt pressured into it, I do it because it feels good. I enjoy the sensations. Combined with vaginal penetration it is amazing.
It is not for everyone and if you don't like the idea of it, then don't do it!!

I would recommend not trying for anal sex on your first attempt. There is no rush, work up to it slowly. Start with a bit of anal play just using fingers and lube. That will help relax you and you will get a better idea of what sensations you enjoy.

Then you can move onto a couple of fingers or a small toy. You need to learn to relax your muscles so there is no pain and no risk of damage.

When you are ready, then you can move onto trying his penis.
I recommend spoons as this gives you control and allows you to relax.
Get him to line up and hold still while you push back. He needs total control so he allows you to move at your pace. If you experience any pain, stop immediately. It should never hurt. The first couple of times might only last a few minutes and not involve much movement, but as you learn how to keep your muscles relaxed, you will be able to manage longer. That's when the pleasure really increases.

If you don't like it, there is no need to do it again - even if he loves it.
If you do like it - have fun.

I swear this topic suffers from FAR more than the usual share of "Find post, several days after anyone has posted on it. Ignore discussion and respond only to OP, disregarding any posts which already said the exact same thing" syndrome.

What's wrong with responding to the OP Bertie? She asked for advice and people shared their experiences, who cares if it is days later or repeated info.

I swear this topic suffers from FAR more than the usual share of "Find post, several days after anyone has posted on it. Ignore discussion and respond only to OP, disregarding any posts which already said the exact same thing" syndrome.
Bertie, the OP was made on the 21st Oct and has been replied to on 22nd, 23rd, 24th, 25th, 26th and 27th Oct. Where exactly were the several days where no-one posted on it?

And I didn't post the exact same thing as anyone else. I shared my experience and knowledge of something I have regularly done - not just shared opinion of what I think about it.
The OP asked for advice and was given lots of opinions with only a little bit of advice. I thought I would add my advice :)

Agree you need to take it slowly, don't do any extra 'prep' than you would do for vaginal sex & if you don't like it stop.

I know DH is very keen to do this, he had a little go the other night but with no lube!
DD is out tonight so fancy getting up to something but started with heavy AF today so I think will try tonight with lots of lube and .

Thick question, but shouldn't they wear a condom to stop any bacteria getting into their urethra?

don't do any extra 'prep' than you would do for vaginal sex
I completely disagree with that. Preparation always helps.
Lubed fingers or toy.

Loveshak for the best protection, yes a condom is a good idea. Definitely if you are not in a long-term relationship. However, if the man wees after sex, then the chances of any infection are drastically reduced so it's not always a concern. It's not a problem we have ever had.

An anal douche a few hours beforehand is a good idea too.

oddly I meant cleaning wise, lube is quite obvious really

Bolshier
Cleaning wise is down to personal preference. Lots of people prefer to douche beforehand.
And even assuming lube is obvious, I still recommend more preparation than you would for vaginal. Using fingers or a toy. It helps spread the lube inside and relax the muscles.

Chocolatecakes, have you tried it now then? (sorry didn't read whole thread)

Lube is an absolute must and I would only do when very turned on and relaxed. You have to be in the right mood in order for your muscles to be relaxed enough. And yes, rub some of the lube around the ring with your (or his) fingers first, as it helps to relax the muscles.

I always either was my rear in the shower (slip fingers in to clean it) or else you can put a non fragranced baby wipe on your middle finger (so your middle finger is completely covered and looks like a "ghost") and slide the finger inside to give yourself a clean beforehand. Not 100% effective but gets rid of most of the traces of any poo, so you feel nice and clean

Sorry for not replying sooner, I didn't do it when I originally planned. However, I have done it and it was actually spontaneous so I didn't do I pre purposeful washing or anything that I maybe would have planned.

I used lube and just took it easy and I actually managed to do it properly first time which suprised myself as he's defo on the larger size! It's a strange but enjoyable sensation anyway.

It that time of month this week so I might just have to do it again!

Just realised I've name changed again! I'm the OP