Do you use sex toys? I'm too embarrassed

[Whitechocolatetoblerone]

As title.

Sex life is good with DP but I struggle with low libido because, tbh, I find sex a bit of a chore sometimes by that I mean I have to make w real effort to focus and relax and 'turn myself on'mentally in order to come. We tend to stick to the same positions that allow us both to come at the same time, however sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't.

I want to spice/ mix things up a little. I have a small bullet that we've used a couple of times but really I need it used on me whilst he's inside me to guarantee satisfaction we tried this one time and he said it was too sensitive for him, that he could feel vibrations

Has anyone got any suggestions? I am so shy, I HATE talking about sex. Not sure how to introduce a new toy in a non embarrassing way!

Anyway, any suggestions gratefully received

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Wrap it up in a gift box. That way it is pretty obvious....unless he is very dense.

we tried this one time and he said it was too sensitive for him, that he could feel vibrations

Different position?

We tend to stick to the same positions that allow us both to come at the same time, however sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't.

Are you focussing too much on the whole "let's do it together" thing? I don't think this is realistic for most couples. I usually expect to come through foreplay (mainly oral), then perhaps have some PIV, then tell him to finish off across my face/boobs/fanjo/arse while I use a vibrator.

I know it's difficult to talk about sex sometimes... But if you don't say what you want, you won't get it. You owe it to yourself (and your partner) to be open and honest.

Some of those small bullets are horrible, they're all hard and plasticky (obviously don't know what sort you have though OP!).

Sex toys don't have to just be bullets and phallic vibrators. You can get some lovely soft silicone toys in different shapes - some rounder, better designed to fit the curvature of your body. Sadly they're often quite expensive, but there is a reason for that.

I would have a look on Lovehoney's website at a different type of toy. There's also a website called Oh Joy Sex Toy that might help you.

You can buy a cockring for him which would help with his sensitivity that you can slide your bullet through..

www.annsummers.com/sex-toys/sex-toys-shop-by-category/sex-toys-cock-rings/the-bull-vibrating-cock-ring/67111.html#start=11

it is gummy. but I bought one as it was relatively cheap and my dh loved it.

Also, when it comes to getting it on there is no talk, there is just do lol