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Making love to larger/overweight man?

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Nevergoingtolearn · 24/07/2015 12:46

Sorry if this soundsilly, I have always been with skinny men and have never had sex with someone who is overweight, I have just come out of a long marriage and I have started online dating, I have been chatting to a couple men, both want to meet up with me but I am slightly worried as they are both overweight. I am average size ( size 10-12 ) and reasonably fit, I enjoy very active sex, lots of positions and I like it to last several hours if not all day. I am worried that being with someone who is overweight will limit things in the bedroom, I can only finish when the man is on top, would this be a bit tricky with a larger man? Will we be limited to what we can do in bed? Is he likely to get tired easily?

Hope I don't offend anyone but just curious to wether larger men are as good in bed Grin

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depositdonut · 24/07/2015 13:34

You like sex to last all day? Surely cystitus is more of an issue?

Everyone is different. You'll work it out.

Toohotcats · 24/07/2015 14:50

In answer to your question yes it does sound silly.. (Sorry)

All day?? Do you not have a job..?

sigh

RainbowFlutterby · 24/07/2015 14:53

DP is overweight- and shit hot in bed Grin

Why would on top be a problem? He's got elbows GrinGrin

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Nevergoingtolearn · 24/07/2015 16:47

Sorry, I didn't mean all day every day Grin, when I get a child free day I would happily spend most of the day in bed, is that not normal? Grin, I was worried about the weight on top of me, I like to be fairly close when Dtd ( chest to chest ). I didn't mean to offend anyone, just wanted to know if was harder work whilst carrying a bit of extra weight Sad

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elQuintoConyo · 24/07/2015 16:53

DH is a porker. I just slap the fat and ride the ripples.

TBH I have found no difference between fat and skinny. Age yes, a smoker yes, pissed yes. Fat/thin no.

mrssmith79 · 24/07/2015 17:09

You know what they say...it's not the size of the nail, it's the hammer you knock it in with Shock.
Some of the best sex I've had has been with big men.

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Nevergoingtolearn · 24/07/2015 17:12

Thank you for answering Smile, hopefully I will soon find out for myself ( if things go well ).

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badRoly · 24/07/2015 17:15

ElQuinto Grin

TheJiminyConjecture · 24/07/2015 17:23

DH is a porker. I just slap the fat and ride the ripples

Snort

bangbangprettypretty · 24/07/2015 17:31

My first relationship as a teenager was with a guy who was a bit of a chunker, he was absolutely cracking in bed and I loved the feeling of a larger frame Smile

I have dtd with skinny men since and it felt a bit 'flimsy' in comparison (I'm a size 10). If you fancy them it'll be fine!

bangbangprettypretty · 24/07/2015 17:32

Arf at riding the ripples!

Twodogsandahooch · 24/07/2015 17:47

Just snorted on the train home!

ALaughAMinute · 24/07/2015 18:51

I wouldn't have thought that being overweight would limit anyone too much in the bedroom, unless they are very overweight of course and then you could have a problem.

Hope it goes well for you. Enjoy! Smile

WallyBantersJunkBox · 24/07/2015 19:53

Different experiences really, I've enjoyed both.

Bigger guy wrapped round you is all encompassing. That can be very nice.

Lithe skinny types climbing all over you like the monkey bars also nice.

But a lot of big guys can be flexible too...

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 24/07/2015 20:34

I fucked a man with a big belly recently. I'll be honest and say that him on top was suffocating and I felt squashed. I didn't like it. He also sweated like he was running a marathon. I am a fatty myself and not that fit so I'm not being a body fascist but I didn't want to have sex with him again. That wasn't the only reason mind.

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Nevergoingtolearn · 24/07/2015 21:32

Thanks for your honest opinions, I am worried about feeling suffocated Smile, I'm not worried about sweating as I don't mind it, just worried as I can only climax when the mans on top ( all though I enjoy other positions ) so it's quite important that he can go on top without causing me any discomfort.

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 24/07/2015 21:53

Hang a minute, you haven't even met these men yetConfused you're leaping ahead a bit, start off with a date first and take it from there.

paintedfences · 25/07/2015 00:42

I will say I am a fancier of the tubbier man. Grin I am also loving the fashion for beards

I think you are making an assumption that overweight = unfit/not strong, which isn't necessarily so, as lots of guys with extra padding also have a fair amount of muscle and pretty good fitness. But it's all individual!

Position wise, unless he's quite large the belly shouldn't preclude anything in particular, but chest-tochest it may press down on you a bit - I like this though, as someone else said it feels all-encompassing and kind of cuddly and nice.

My suggestion is: suggest a wrestling match. Which you will lose. Grin

Eekaman · 25/07/2015 10:03

Yeah, I used to love fucking a porky girl, just slap the fat and ride in on her ripples........

:/

Seriously - MN gender bias again, can you imagine if a man had said this on here? Jeez, but it's ok for a female MN poster to say it, and even get giggles and reposts?

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 25/07/2015 10:22

If a man had said that tongue in cheek with affection about his wife I wouldn't not have taken offence to it

etKrusTe · 25/07/2015 10:26

Is there a large man in particular??? or is this just a general enquiry.

I wouldn't worry so much about how long it would last, as whether I would recoil a bit when the clothes came off.

I think it sounds like overweightness isn't something you can easily overlook. I'm the same I think. I'd have to really, really love an overweight man to have sex with him. Obviously you should love whoever you're having sex with, blah blah blah, but if you're just seeing who's out there, then don't have sex with fat men unless you have to!

etKrusTe · 25/07/2015 10:31

I agree with damediazapem this is such an odd question if there's nobody in particular in mind!?

Is there a particular man you do like, who happens to be fat, and you're trying to convince yourself you could feel sexually attracted to him? Confused That would make more sense.

GinAndSonic · 25/07/2015 10:36

Eekaman my very skinny ex is welcome to say that about me, i know he loves my body and thinks im sexy as fuck.

Koalafications · 25/07/2015 10:40

Eekaman

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Nevergoingtolearn · 25/07/2015 10:47

There is a large man in particular, we have been chatting online for a while, due to us both having commitments ( kids) we have been unable to meet, but hopefully we are meeting next weekend when I get back from holiday. I'm not sure if we will DTD but just wanted to know a few facts just in case Smile

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