Making love to larger/overweight man?

[Nevergoingtolearn]

Sorry if this soundsilly, I have always been with skinny men and have never had sex with someone who is overweight, I have just come out of a long marriage and I have started online dating, I have been chatting to a couple men, both want to meet up with me but I am slightly worried as they are both overweight. I am average size ( size 10-12 ) and reasonably fit, I enjoy very active sex, lots of positions and I like it to last several hours if not all day. I am worried that being with someone who is overweight will limit things in the bedroom, I can only finish when the man is on top, would this be a bit tricky with a larger man? Will we be limited to what we can do in bed? Is he likely to get tired easily?

Hope I don't offend anyone but just curious to wether larger men are as good in bed

Do you fancy him OP? Although I suppose you need to meet him first to find out whether you do or not. If you fancy him, all will be well.

Well, if you meet him, you'll know if you feel you want to or not. If you don't want to, don't convince yourself you want to.

I have an overweight partner and a very good sex life. Different to sex I've had with anyone else and some positions work better than others but this isn't a bad thing.

We have exchanged quite a few photos, I do find him attractive, weight doesn't really bother me when it comes to looks. He seems like a lovely person, we have a lot in common so I find his personality attractive too but I know this maybe different when we meet. He is worried I will be put off by his weight ( which is why he sent me a photo as soon as we started chatting ).

Sounds like you are getting on quite well and are getting excited about the prospect, or fantasising about the possibilities then Op?

There is such a scale of weight though, I mean how big is he that he's worried? Is he able to move freely generally or does his weight look life limiting?

Because it will be more than just the sexual side to consider if you are an active person that likes for example to share in other active pursuits?

I'm a size 16/18 but was 30 pounds heavier last year and unwell. It meant that I couldn't join in with hikes, lake swims etc and I felt really bad that I was not able to be as active with a DP and would hold them back.

In that case I think you don't need to worry. You fancy him so far, you'll likely fancy him when you meet him. Hope you have fun!

Gay men seem to have a much less narrow view of what an attractive man looks like - there are so many terms for different body types, and among them is the 'bear' or larger very masculine looking man.

He's not what I would consider huge though is quite overweight and probably eats too many take aways , maybe I can help him burn some of it of?

I do worry a bit about the health side of thing, I'm a active person, not overly active but I enjoy the odd bike ride and I walk a lot, I have recently lost weight ( gone from a size 14 to a 10 ), if I'm around someone who enjoys food I could easily put it back on.

I am looking forward to meeting him, he's not really my usual type but for some reason I find him very attractive.

I usually find bigger men more attractive and DP is chunky and fantastic in bed. It depends on the man not his size

I am under five feet tall. My husband has well over 120 lbs on me. We have sweaty hot sex. I can't abide skinny men, so the bigger the better in my estimation.

Eekaman - men would get praised and patted on the back. Women on the other hand has to use secret forums to discuss sex. See the contrast.

Bumblebee,

I said, imagine if a man said that on here...

You seem to think he'd have been praised and patted on the back. I'm not so sure :) More likely he'd have been flamed, the post would have been deleted and he'd have probably got banned too.

I think you missed my point.

well, to be fair, my STBXH is morbidly obese & yes, it wasn't great - I felt suffocated, my hips hurt like hell being forced that far apart if he was on top, much of his willy disappeared in pads of flab, he sweated a LOT & he didn't smell particularly nice once he got going - yeasty...

I'm fairly substantial myself, & not fat-shaming STBXH, he was a big chap when I met him & fell for him. But the sex did get less & less appealing - one of the reasons we're now going our separate ways.

Having said that, STBXH was & is HUGE. Merely larger/overweight shouldn't be a problem, I wouldn't have thought...

Update, DTD and rode the ripples , I was pleasantly surprised ( I won't go into detail ).

Great update

Ha ha I was wondering how you got on!

But won't ask the details either!

Hope it's going well for you op!

I'm overweight and shit hot in bed apparently

Eekaman - the thing about slapping a porker and riding the ripples was a historically misogynistic "locker room chat" phrase that men have often said about larger women. The poster here has inverted it as being about men which I see as being funny and empowering on a mainly female forum such as this. HTH