Rimming

[CrumpetHead]

What's your opinion on this controversial topic? Personally I love eating DP's ass out (and maybe slipping a sneaky finger in ) and he loves receiving it but I get that a lot of people find it disgusting. Have you tried it and did you enjoy it?

Yes and yes. Glad it's not just me! We both find it a massive turn on

Why on earth are you embarrassed about the finger bit when you find the mouth-to-ass contact fine?

He's not as comfortable with the finger but I enjoy doing it cos it turns me on like mad, he never says anything when I do it and I can tell he enjoys it but afterwards he says "I'm not sure about fingers" he somehow thinks it makes him gay if he enjoys it so won't admit that he likes it

Nope. I don't think there is anything in the bedroom I would rather do less to be honest. Not for me.

If he says each time that he's not sure about fingers then why on earth are you still doing it?

I'm not going near anyone's bumhole with fingers or mouth though.

If he says each time that he's not sure about fingers then why on earth are you still doing it?

Yy to this.

Definitely not for me.

He doesn't say it every time afterwards he's only said it once or twice, I wouldn't do it if I thought he didn't enjoy it but I can tell he clearly does. Plus he never stops me when I'm in the middle of it

Gross

If he has said it more than once then it clearly bothers him. Sounds like you are ignoring him and just keep doing it anyway

I would only do it if I could wear gloves and even then it would repulse me.

He doesn't say it every time afterwards he's only said it once or twice, I wouldn't do it if I thought he didn't enjoy it but I can tell he clearly does. Plus he never stops me when I'm in the middle of it

This makes me feel a bit weird. Flip it and imagine this were a man talking about his wife/gf/partner.

I'd be too worried about arse germs in my mouth. And fingernails. But bum holes have never really turned me on! Each to their own though. It's common enough practice that it has a name that everyone recognises, and if you are both consenting and enjoying it then what's the problem?

There isn't a problem, just wanted to hear other people's thoughts on it

Oh the germs!

One of my gay friends told me it's out of fashion in the circles he moves in due to the number of upset tummies it caused. I think that's very practical

I wouldn't do it if I thought he didn't enjoy it but I can tell he clearly does

That's a rapists mantra right there (not calling you a rapist, btw)...he isn't sure about doing it. STOP doing it until he asks you to.

Imagine him doing something to you that you didn't like/wasn't sure about..would you settle for him saying that?

Mouths actually carry a lot of germs themselves so as long as the recipient has thoroughly washed their butt hole before engaging (a thorough wash around the outside and a soapy finger up the bumhole should do the trick) there is very little risk of infection - and you would hope if the recipient had an upset stomach they would say so!

The phrase "eating him/her out", however, makes me want to projectile vomit, for some reason.

If you enjoy it and your dh does too then why not.
For those who are saying the OP is continuing when her dh doesn't like it, how do you know? Are you there?
It's pretty damned hard to do something like this when the other person clearly isn't up for it.
I'm sure her dh would say no at the time if he didn't want her to progress.

ALaughAMinute, when you said "I would only do it if I could wear gloves," do you mean like this?

No, don't think I could ever do that sex act. Don't people use those dental dam things when they do it? Seems very unhygienic not to.

He is saying afterwards - is that not a sign he is not happy about it?

What I don't understand is how he thinks enjoying having something up his bum is in any way 'gay' when the person doing it with him is female
But also, only ever do things you're both happy with. Don't do it and assume he's fine with it. That's unpleasant.