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Rimming

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CrumpetHead · 19/07/2015 10:03

What's your opinion on this controversial topic? Personally I love eating DP's ass out (and maybe slipping a sneaky finger in Blush) and he loves receiving it but I get that a lot of people find it disgusting. Have you tried it and did you enjoy it?

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SylvanianCaliphate · 19/07/2015 12:43

Second the pp saying wait for him to ask instead of ignoring his explicit ' I'm not sure about singer's and carrying on because you enjoy it. Hmm

MissDemelzaCarne · 19/07/2015 12:48

What's your opinion on this controversial topic?
I'd rather die.

ALaughAMinute · 19/07/2015 12:50

Yes Imperial, those would do nicely! Grin

I'd also want to wear a face mask just in case he hadn't washed his bum properly.

I guess rimming isn't for me!

RinkRashDerbyKisses · 19/07/2015 12:51

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RepeatAdNauseum · 19/07/2015 12:52

ALaugh if the mask matched the gloves it would be a bit like being rimmed by the Michelin Man.

ALaughAMinute · 19/07/2015 12:57

ALaugh if the mask matched the gloves it would be a bit like being rimmed by the Michelin Man.

Grin
morethanpotatoprints · 19/07/2015 13:10

Rink

Exactly my point.
I have done this and had this done enough times to know when it is wanted.
Wouldn't you clench or if somebody did it and you weren't wanting it the other person would know because the anus wouldn't be relaxed enough.
It's not rocket science but of course you shouldn't do it ifsomebody doesn't want you to.
The OP suggests her dh is relaxed enough and enjoys it when it is happening, but has second thoughts afterwards.

TheStoic · 19/07/2015 13:19

The OP suggests her dh is relaxed enough and enjoys it when it is happening, but has second thoughts afterwards.

The absence of a No does not mean Yes. Surely everyone knows that by now.

OP, if you know your partner has doubts about it, ASK before you do it. It seems to me like he might be going along with it because he knows you love it so much.

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 19/07/2015 13:21

I can't think of anything I would like less.

differentnameforthis · 19/07/2015 13:23

It's pretty damned hard to do something like this when the other person clearly isn't up for it.

Hmm, so rape never happens then?

He's not as comfortable with the finger but I enjoy doing it cos it turns me on like mad -- that indicates he doesn't like it.

How about "I like rimming my girlfriend, she isn't keen when I sneakily slip my penis in there, but I still do it cos it turns me on"

People would be shouting RAPIST from the roof tops. But somehow, when it's a man, he is obviously enjoying it, he could stop op, he should say he doesn't like it (even though he already has & op knows it). Op is subjecting her bf to something he doesn't like (and the reason don't actually matter, if he doesn't like it, he doesn't like it - who the hell would ask a woman why she doesn't like it?) and people seem to think that's OK!!

NEWSFLASH men are allowed to refuse sexual acts being done to them too & they deserved to be heard, with absolutely NO question!!!

morethanpotatoprints · 19/07/2015 13:26

Bloody hell, for want of a better expression if you are having to force it in the person is clearly not up for it. This is my point, you could say yes and be in total agreement but come to do it and you aren't relaxed enough.
I was talking purely from the physical pov not arguing that rape didn't occur, how absurd.

differentnameforthis · 19/07/2015 13:32

Wouldn't you clench or if somebody did it and you weren't wanting it the other person would know because the anus wouldn't be relaxed enough.

I don't think many rape victims are "relaxed enough", yet they get still penetrated. It's called force.

Or perhaps, more in line with the op & her bf, he isn't expecting it. He will be relaxed to a certain extent if he is being pleasured & it won't be too hard to slip the tip of finger in. But essentially IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW RELAXED HE IS, HE DOESN'T WANT OP TO DO IT.

It seems to me like he might be going along with it because he knows you love it so much. YY, and again, role reversed, man would be called all sorts for forcing something on his gf that she wasn't sure of.

Lots of women don't stop their rapists while they are being raped as they feel powerless, many women don't stop their husbands/bf from performing a sex act on them as they know their husbands/bf like it & "want them to be happy" doesn't matter...if the receiver is not getting any pleasure from it, they aren't doing it for the right reasons.

The ONLY way to handle something like this, when met with "I am not sure I like/d that" is to say "sorry, I won't do it again unless you ASK me to" and then IF they ask you to, ask them if they are sure!!

Theoldcauliflower · 19/07/2015 13:38

Erm no way would I be putting my mouth near dp hairy arse!!

Not a chanceHmm

MrsEmmaPeel · 19/07/2015 13:58

I nearly fainted when an ex did this to me. I was 18, he was 30.
I had never heard of rimming at that point, and when it was talked about with friends years later it was assumed to be something gay men did. I have a lot of gay friends who have experienced this erm, phenomenon.

As for me doing this to my DP, no way. The only flake I want in my mouth is made by Cadbury's. My mouth will never go near anybody's chocolate launch pad.

There are a lot of heterosexual men as well as gay men who like being fingered, obviously because of prostate stimulation which gives them an anal orgasm. As there are just as many gay and straight men who don't like it.

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CrumpetHead · 19/07/2015 13:59

Let's just say he clearly likes it because if I'm giving him a blow job he will grab my hand and put it on his bum indicating for me to do it, and sometimes says "play with my bum" or "touch my bum" ... I am certainly not a bloody rapist, I know he likes it for sure there is no way I would do it otherwise Hmm
He really enjoys it but thinks afterwards "what if she thinks I'm gay or tells someone and they think I'm gay because I enjoy something up my bum"

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LongLankyLegs · 19/07/2015 14:06

It's definitely not for me. Turd comes out of your bum and it stinks! I think it's a bit disgusting if I'm honest but if you and dp are happy OP, that's all that matters Smile

differentnameforthis · 19/07/2015 14:17

Drip feeding op...perhaps that info would have been better coming at the beginning of the thread where you stated "and I can tell he enjoys it"

And no, you are not a rapist, no one said you were. However your previous threads led people to believe it was something you were doing against his will.

differentnameforthis · 19/07/2015 14:21

previous posts, not threads

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CrumpetHead · 19/07/2015 14:21

But my original post was asking about rimming which was why I didn't put much info about fingering, I just wanted people's opinions on that

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differentnameforthis · 19/07/2015 14:23

Yes, but where you elaborated & told us that he doesn't always say it..would have been a good time to inform us that he does, indeed, ask you to do it!

CatMilkMan · 19/07/2015 14:24

I wish a could have just one conversation about rimming without it turning in to a conversation about rape./s

helenahandbag · 19/07/2015 14:34

I'd rather stick pins in my eyes. Even the thought of doing it makes me feel ill.

MrsEmmaPeel · 19/07/2015 14:34

OP. I knew what you meant.

Look, some straight men who enjoy being given the kit-kat knuckle shuffle are ashamed afterwards because they have been submissive and feel that being passive affects their masculinity and confuse it with sexual orientation, which is bollocks.

And yes, consent should always be asked for and not assumed. You know your partner though we don't.

SylvanianCaliphate · 19/07/2015 14:48

What Confused all of your rimming conversations turn into rape conversations?

To be blunt, you must be doing it wrong.

Either the rimming, conversations or both.

CatMilkMan · 19/07/2015 14:58

I probably am doing it wrong, I have stopped doing them all at once now so that's progress.

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