teachers swearing at class!

[jetcat32]

hi, i am looking for opinions please, as not sure if i over-reacting due to my own values.

A couple of days ago DD1 came home from school quite upset that teacher had swore at tthem (she is mild SEN as has very strong ffeelings about swearing). Apparantly nnearly the whole cclass had been misbehaving, and they had all been put on detention (another thing which upsets DD, as she cant understand why has to be punished - ddespite me trying to explain to her!) and the teacher shouted at them that they were p*ing her off! I dont agree with swearing aat all, but i also understand that teachers hhave a stressful job, esp is class are playing up, so thought i would ask for opinions.

same thing yesterday. different teacher, "bloody hell" etc and things along those lines - not even sure if that is swearing these days - i am just harking back to my very strict church upbringing lol!

its not that they are bad - dont be so silly! Just kids need to learn to use the correct register for certain situations
like you wouldny say wank to your Granny - or hey you prbbaly would

skidoodle - 'bloody hell' may not be swearing to you - but it is to my 12 yr old (and she wasnt the only one to have parents complaining). But, on its own i probably would have left it, but to tell a class full of 11 and 12 year olds that they are pissing her (the teacher) off - are you telling me that you find that acceptable?

It is neither here nor there whether i or DD think she is a good teacher - because the moment she says something like that our previous feelings about her are instantly reconsidered.

I did write a letter to school, a very informal one - though other parents did put in formal complaints. Headteacher rang, assured me that this language was unacceptable, as it shows she had lost control of the class - something which you state teachers are not paid to do. How can they teach if they dont have control? In my opinion, good teachers are those who can control the class without the class realising they are being controlled, and definitely those who dont feel the need to swear at them.

Hear hear Jetcat. I find the whole episode quite mind boggling and am glad you complained

jetcat- Just out of interest, if you ask your dd why people swear, what does she say? I really feel that it may make her feel a lot more secure if she knows why it happens (anger, pain, want to upset people etc) ; and this may help with the job of 'policing' peoples' language, which she feels she has to do.

At the moment, telling people off is the only way she knows how to react to swearing; quite obviously, this will not be the best way to handle the situation through school and later in life. Maybe the school could do some work with her about this? Perhaps she could write it down when she hears someone swear, and then discuss it with you or the teacher later- exploring why that person was swearing.

For what it's worth, I too have a foul mouth when not teaching; In the classroom, I am a paragon of virtue. I have only ever once slipped up, when a student showed me and the class his painting: my response? "That's fucking brilliant!" . It really was. I, of course, apologised profusely. It just slipped out...

Ha Ha tethersend - that really made me laugh!!

It really was though!