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Considering a move from SEN school to mainstream secondary

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Mattters291 · 16/05/2026 13:46

Have you ever done this ?
daughter is autistic and has dyspraxia. Academically able but behind due to missed primary school education due to bad health. She is well behaved, stickler for the rules. Works hard and has caught up really well.
the LA maintained Sen schools for children with disabilities / health wouldn’t take her because they couldn’t meet her academic needs as only offered functional skills.
we ended up in a well known sort of well regarded London Indeoendent Sen schools for SPld. At the time it seemed the perfect choice as their admission requirements seemed to highlight they don’t take those with ASD where behaviour was a primary need. This is not me saying that schools shouldn’t but in terms of diff schools with diff needs that’s why we chose it. It’s been pretty much a disaster since starting nearly a year ago.
it’s chaos, lack of routine, lack of discipline too many asd children including mine with very little training of asd. She is struggling in class because she can’t do her work. Struggling with the lack of organisation of classes / teachers and lessons. Some days their subjects have no teachers. Other days their lessons are cut by half due to teachers arriving late.
lots of bad behavior/ bullying with no discipline.
There is some positives like the therapy teams and English department.
there is a lack of updating parents on behaviours / academic progress.
i have come to the conclusion there is just to many different needs in the school which may work if they could accommodate them but they can’t so it’s becoming too chaotic for her.
the issue I don’t think I will get her in to another Sen school.
so looking at smaller mainstream secondary schools but has anyone done this switch and found it okay ? She is good with rules so maybe thinking a mainstream may have more structure for her if I could find one with a good Sen department.
she was in mainstream up until year 6 - very minimal issues. I know there will be bad behaviour but I’m wondering if because mainstreams have more students even if she didn’t belong with one group of kids etc she would find her “ people “
that they will be more structured and routined.
in really lost as I never thought I would consider a mainstream secondary school ! X
we live in the areas of secondary schools like hurlingham academy, Chelsea academy, lady Margerets, Fulham girls
if anyone has any recommendations?

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Mattters291 · 16/05/2026 16:10

scoopofmintchocchipicecream · 16/05/2026 16:07

The current school sounds like the wrong school. However, from what you post, I doubt DD would cope in a state mainstream. If the LA named the current independent SS, particularly without a fight and without consulting MS, there must be strong evidence that MS won’t work. Also, how behind is behind? For those subjects which are settled, if DD would be in lower sets, behaviour is generally more challenging.

I don’t know what level lower sets are in mainstream. She would probably be in the bottom half at least but with very strong potential to move up due the reasons why there is some gaps. She has done amazing considering her attendance at primary school. I would say right now her target grades are 4/5 in English and maths.

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MrsKateColumbo · 16/05/2026 16:12

My child went to Blossom for pre-school and I thought it was very poor academically (although he didnt really speak before and they got him speaking well so they were good at SPLD).

are you close to a Cullum centre? They are in a couple of MS schools and seem amazing. I

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