My child was hit by a pen, thrown by a teacher

[Tiredallthetimelaura]

So my daughter who is in year 8 was in a lesson when her teacher 'cold called' her a question. My daughter responded she didn't know the answer and the teacher then threw a highlighter pen at her, hitting her on the arm. The teacher then did it again to another student, also hitting them on the arm. We have reached level 2 of a complaint, but it's always investigated by management within the academy. The school keep down playing what happened and not investigating what we ask. This teacher is still teaching, although my daughter isn't going in on the day of that lesson, which is greatly affecting her attendance. The school said they would move my daughter so she could do a different lesson (double Maths or double English), but we said no! This feels like a punishment to our daughter. She wants to do that lesson, just not with that teacher... and we agree.
Any advice on what/how the school legally should be handling this? Happy to answer any further questions Xx

Yes the teacher said it was a game, but when 20 something children all state it wasn't...its hard to argue! Because it involved a child getting hit the first ivestigator contacted LADO.

Maybe they were supposed to? The OP won't tell us.

Were you there? How do you know it was thrown jokingly? I didn’t get that from the OP at all so I’d say it’s you who has issues with comprehension.

You’re setting a terribile example to your teenage daughter, grow up. You want to instil the victim mentality into her during these formative years? How will she be equipped to handle life’s challenges and complexities if this is the mindset you’re modelling?

Honestly, YABVU.

And what was the game? Surely you asked?

What outcome would satisfy you OP? You seem to be reluctant to answer that.

What do you think should happen? What does a reasonable resolution look like now?

"THE TEACHER WAS WRONG, THE SCHOOL IS WRONG, THE KIDS WERE WRONG AND MUMSNET IS WRONG!!!"

Okay....

The OP hasn't described it in any detail and the OP wasn't there. If she'd tell us what the school say happened, it might help.

What outcome are you looking for?

The OP wasn't there either.

I think you probably need to home school @Tiredallthetimelaura because your expectations of what is and isn't acceptable in school are way beyond anything even private ed offers.

There will be one music teacher. She either does it with her or drops music. Her choice. IF I were you (I wouldn't be, because this is a total non-event) I would pull her out of music and get a private music tutor instead.

I was replying to YOUR post for a start, sorry you missed that

I know what the OP is writing, she is being completely ridiculous, and making her child the joke of everyone, by being know as the girl who was left shaking, humiliated and traumatised by a highlighter.

You know kids talk, don't you? And they don't have much of a filter 😂

She has I think you should read the OP’s posts again.

A frisbee? So with enough force to throw a featherweight disk? In a game?

now she’s “shook up”. Come on now 😂

She’s having a whole day off school a week so she doesn’t have to do this one lesson?!!
Time to build some resilience.
In the 90s teachers regularly threw chalk and blackboard erasers at kids who weren’t paying attention - agreed it’s not really acceptable but there are many worse things in life.

Tiredallthetimelaura · Today 20:51

Just for clarification, it's not the 80s anymore and you can't go throwing things at kids.
She was asked a question, she said she didn't know the answer and THEN the pen was thrown at her.
No I don't work in the school, I reached out to the parents of the kids in that class and asked them if they could ask their child if they remember an incident regarding my daughter in music. The parents all replied back.

So, under the guise of doing a survey about the teacher's behaviour, you have created a scenario of gossip and Chinese Whispers. Neatly done, OP.
I really wonder about the "She said she didn't know the answer". Parents never believe that their little darlings would ever be capable of an answer that is far from neutral or friendly in tone. That their Wee Precious could actually be rude or surly or disrespectful. "She just said she didn't know the answer". OK then. That would never generate such a response from the teacher had it been polite. There's a backstory here and evidently the OP is encouraging the other parents to gang up on the teacher....presumably to get her sacked. Who would be a teacher these days, eh? Do you not realise that good teachers are being driven from the profession by this type of bullying? Good luck with your kids getting a first-class education, then.

Honestly op. Take this reaction as a snap pole of what the school will think. Quite frankly you and your daughter are making yourselves an absolute laughing stock in the school. Trust me let it go.

She's said they say it was a game. She doesn't seem to have asked what game, what circumstances, what was supposed to happen - or if she has, she won't tell us.

Why are you discounting the school's opinion that it was a game without having any more information?

You do understand we all react differently? So what if OP’s daughter felt the way she did it doesn’t mean she should be mocked to have these feelings. You’re coming across as deeply unpleasant

The soundtrack to the thread.

I seem to have said this 50 times today but telling someone that something is likely to happen doesn't mean you think it ought to happen.

You go to higher than the head teacher . Look
up the head of the education board for that area.

If you get no Luck or even if you decide to to the police .
This is not acceptable .

pretty sure if you throw something in anger at someone, "like a frisbee" is not the way anyone would do it 😂

Waiting for the OP to backtrack now, and saying it wasn't like a frisbee after all, but like an axe - like you would in an axe throwing venue

That’s probably because the school don’t know either! They’ve just accepted this teachers version of events and covered their arses.

Why are discounting the OP’s DD’s version of events?