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My child was hit by a pen, thrown by a teacher

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Tiredallthetimelaura · 23/05/2025 20:29

So my daughter who is in year 8 was in a lesson when her teacher 'cold called' her a question. My daughter responded she didn't know the answer and the teacher then threw a highlighter pen at her, hitting her on the arm. The teacher then did it again to another student, also hitting them on the arm. We have reached level 2 of a complaint, but it's always investigated by management within the academy. The school keep down playing what happened and not investigating what we ask. This teacher is still teaching, although my daughter isn't going in on the day of that lesson, which is greatly affecting her attendance. The school said they would move my daughter so she could do a different lesson (double Maths or double English), but we said no! This feels like a punishment to our daughter. She wants to do that lesson, just not with that teacher... and we agree.
Any advice on what/how the school legally should be handling this? Happy to answer any further questions Xx

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Blueskiesandrainbows · 24/05/2025 21:54

Almost a full thread and the OP is still determined to be vindictive towards the teacher.

If it’s now a crime to throw a highlighter pen and hit someone on their blazer sleeve, then heaven help this country and heaven help the teaching profession.

The world has gone completely mad.

Sunnysideup32 · 24/05/2025 22:01

Tiredallthetimelaura · 24/05/2025 21:40

It actually is classed as a crime. Type it in your search bar, then come back

It should be a crime to make vindictive complaints about a teacher who wasn't chucking the pen maliciously I'm sure, yet you still want her to be dismissed and lose her livelihood. Pathetic.

Wooky073 · 24/05/2025 22:01

It was throwing of blackboard wipers (the wooden things) in my day and it is agression and violence. I personally would not let it go and would threaten to report it to OFSTED and go ahead and report it. Also to the board of govenors. The teacher needs disciplining. Thats unacceptable

MereNoelle · 24/05/2025 22:02

Wooky073 · 24/05/2025 22:01

It was throwing of blackboard wipers (the wooden things) in my day and it is agression and violence. I personally would not let it go and would threaten to report it to OFSTED and go ahead and report it. Also to the board of govenors. The teacher needs disciplining. Thats unacceptable

The teacher probably has been disciplined. Details of that will not be shared with the OP or her daughter.

pollyglot · 24/05/2025 22:05

@Sunnysideup32

It should be a crime to make vindictive complaints about a teacher who wasn't chucking the pen maliciously I'm sure, yet you still want her to be dismissed and lose her livelihood. Pathetic.

Not only making vindictive comments on here, but what was she saying to the parents and pupils that she canvassed for information? What impression did she create to the parents? Please assure us that you neither said nor implied anything that could be construed as defamatory, OP, or you yourself could be in a great deal of trouble.

Mumof2wifeof1crazytimes · 24/05/2025 22:07

time to let it go…

Tiredallthetimelaura · 24/05/2025 22:10

Sunnysideup32 · 24/05/2025 22:01

It should be a crime to make vindictive complaints about a teacher who wasn't chucking the pen maliciously I'm sure, yet you still want her to be dismissed and lose her livelihood. Pathetic.

How are you sure it wasn't vindictive? Why do you think she threw a pen directly at the child?After the child had responded they didn't know the answer?
The child not in a million years expecting to have anything thrown at them. And a classroom full of other students sat there with their jaws on the floor that, that had just happened.
Why do you think she did it?

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Sunnysideup32 · 24/05/2025 22:12

Tiredallthetimelaura · 24/05/2025 22:10

How are you sure it wasn't vindictive? Why do you think she threw a pen directly at the child?After the child had responded they didn't know the answer?
The child not in a million years expecting to have anything thrown at them. And a classroom full of other students sat there with their jaws on the floor that, that had just happened.
Why do you think she did it?

How do you know it WAS vindictive?

Tiredallthetimelaura · 24/05/2025 22:12

Fingernailbiter · 24/05/2025 21:54

It was a silly thing for the teacher to do. But no-one was hurt. OP's daughter wasn’t the only one it happened to so she has no reason to think the teacher is picking on her. OP complained so the teacher will know she mustn’t do it again.

That is all that’s needed. To treat it as if it’s a huge incident that would cause OP's daughter to feel unsafe is just ridiculous.

The other child in question is quite similar to my daughter. Maybe ask, why was it only those 2 children she did this do. Why no other kids?

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HateLongCovid · 24/05/2025 22:12

Let’s all start throwing things at each other at home at work and at school because it’s apparently not a problem and will make us all so resilient 😂😂🙄

ColdWaterDipper · 24/05/2025 22:12

Meh, I couldn’t get excited about a highlighter being frisbee-ed. If it was a chair thrown in anger at my child, then yes, but a pen frisbee-ed at their covered arm? My sons wouldn’t even mention this to me I suspect, as it would be such a non-event to them. They certainly wouldn't be ‘shook up’ over something so trivial, in fact they’d probably find it funny if Sir lobbed a pen at them for not knowing the answer to a question. My youngest’s teacher called him a Plonker the other day in front of the class for getting a simple arithmetic question wrong in a test (for context he is very good at maths and just made a silly mistake). He was neither embarrassed or shook up, he found it funny and the next time they had a maths test he made sure to say to her that he wasn’t going to be a plonker this time round. I have brought my children up to be resilient and not to crumble at small set backs or difficulties. They understand that it’s ok to get embarrassed or to feel nervous, that’s a normal part of life but we deal with it and go forwards, we don’t wallow in it or make a big fuss.

Perhaps just reassure your daughter that she’s fine and uninjured, and then you can all move on from this. I don’t know what other outcome you’re wanting, but it feels like a mountain being made out of a molehill.

MereNoelle · 24/05/2025 22:13

Tiredallthetimelaura · 24/05/2025 22:12

The other child in question is quite similar to my daughter. Maybe ask, why was it only those 2 children she did this do. Why no other kids?

Why do you think it was those 2 in particular? Do you think the teacher hates sporty kids? Hates asthmatics? Hates people with selective mutism?

Petitchat · 24/05/2025 22:13

BakewellGin1 · 24/05/2025 08:03

I would think the reason everyone is still talking about it is it has been made into a huge event which is being discussed as you are collecting statements.

It could easily have just moved on naturally without a fuss.

It was a highlighter not a brick.

Your child has not been traumatised or emotionally damaged. If they have maybe you need to work on your own and their resilience to help you have a much calmer existence. It can't be good for you to be so stressed and carrying on these small incidents.

It could easily have just moved on naturally without a fuss.

In other words brush it under the carpet.

Keep it hidden that a teacher is throwing things at pupils in the classroom.

pollyglot · 24/05/2025 22:14

ColdWaterDipper · Today 22:12

Meh, I couldn’t get excited about a highlighter being frisbee-ed. If it was a chair thrown in anger at my child, then yes, but a pen frisbee-ed at their covered arm? My sons wouldn’t even mention this to me I suspect, as it would be such a non-event to them. They certainly wouldn't be ‘shook up’ over something so trivial, in fact they’d probably find it funny if Sir lobbed a pen at them for not knowing the answer to a question. My youngest’s teacher called him a Plonker the other day in front of the class for getting a simple arithmetic question wrong in a test (for context he is very good at maths and just made a silly mistake). He was neither embarrassed or shook up, he found it funny and the next time they had a maths test he made sure to say to her that he wasn’t going to be a plonker this time round. I have brought my children up to be resilient and not to crumble at small set backs or difficulties. They understand that it’s ok to get embarrassed or to feel nervous, that’s a normal part of life but we deal with it and go forwards, we don’t wallow in it or make a big fuss.
Perhaps just reassure your daughter that she’s fine and uninjured, and then you can all move on from this. I don’t know what other outcome you’re wanting, but it feels like a mountain being made out of a molehill.

Thanks, Cold. Common sense at last.

Tiredallthetimelaura · 24/05/2025 22:14

pollyglot · 24/05/2025 22:05

@Sunnysideup32

It should be a crime to make vindictive complaints about a teacher who wasn't chucking the pen maliciously I'm sure, yet you still want her to be dismissed and lose her livelihood. Pathetic.

Not only making vindictive comments on here, but what was she saying to the parents and pupils that she canvassed for information? What impression did she create to the parents? Please assure us that you neither said nor implied anything that could be construed as defamatory, OP, or you yourself could be in a great deal of trouble.

I said - Hi there, our children go to school together, I was wondering if you could possibly ask 'child' if they remember an incident with 'my daughters name' in music? Many thanks

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Blueskiesandrainbows · 24/05/2025 22:14

The teacher threw a pen and the whole classroom ‘sat with their jaws on the floor’ you’re living in cloud cuckoo land OP.
You couldn't make it up.
ooops sorry you just did!

I feel so sorry for that teacher.

Digdongdoo · 24/05/2025 22:15

Petitchat · 24/05/2025 22:13

It could easily have just moved on naturally without a fuss.

In other words brush it under the carpet.

Keep it hidden that a teacher is throwing things at pupils in the classroom.

It's not hidden though is it? Apparently the whole school is talking about and OP is conducting surveys. So secret. Wow.

Tiredallthetimelaura · 24/05/2025 22:15

pollyglot · 24/05/2025 22:05

@Sunnysideup32

It should be a crime to make vindictive complaints about a teacher who wasn't chucking the pen maliciously I'm sure, yet you still want her to be dismissed and lose her livelihood. Pathetic.

Not only making vindictive comments on here, but what was she saying to the parents and pupils that she canvassed for information? What impression did she create to the parents? Please assure us that you neither said nor implied anything that could be construed as defamatory, OP, or you yourself could be in a great deal of trouble.

The school have admitted it happened!!!! What are you on about!!!!

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Nominative · 24/05/2025 22:16

You say that the school isn't investigating what you ask; how do you know? They cannot give you any personal information about their staff. For all you know, this person has already been disciplined.

So, in answer to your question about what the school should do, the answer would appear to be - they should do exactly what they have been doing; i.e. conducting their now investigation and making a decision based on the outcome of that process.

The one thing I wonder about in relation to their reaction is why they are not taking more action with regard to your daughter's repeated absences from school.

pollyglot · 24/05/2025 22:16

I said - Hi there, our children go to school together, I was wondering if you could possibly ask 'child' if they remember an incident with 'my daughters name' in music? Many thanks

And no further response, OP? Why such a theatrical gesture?

And OP, "the school admitted that it happened" is not to say that you didn't add fuel to the fire. In a manner that could be construed as defamatory.

Sunnysideup32 · 24/05/2025 22:16

Tiredallthetimelaura · 24/05/2025 22:14

I said - Hi there, our children go to school together, I was wondering if you could possibly ask 'child' if they remember an incident with 'my daughters name' in music? Many thanks

You should've re phrased it to 'non incident' to be fair

clary · 24/05/2025 22:17

HateLongCovid · 24/05/2025 22:12

Let’s all start throwing things at each other at home at work and at school because it’s apparently not a problem and will make us all so resilient 😂😂🙄

I don’t think anyone is saying that.

I think people who are talking about resilience, are saying that your child may come upon setbacks in their life and sometimes they may need to deal with them in the best way.

As I said upthread, I agree FWIW with @Ionacat @noblegiraffe @Matronic6 and others – it’s time to have a meeting with the teacher and maybe SLT, let the teacher apologise to your DD and assure her she will not do this again and she will also respect her wishes around questions; and you can all move on.

I am not a classroom teacher any longer but I was for a number of years, if that helps @Tiredallthetimelaura.

Tiredallthetimelaura · 24/05/2025 22:17

Digdongdoo · 24/05/2025 22:15

It's not hidden though is it? Apparently the whole school is talking about and OP is conducting surveys. So secret. Wow.

I messaged the parents of kids that were in the class and had already written statements for the school! The very fact the kids were all talking about it, should tell you everything you need to know!

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Petitchat · 24/05/2025 22:20

pollyglot · 24/05/2025 21:28

Tiredallthetimelaura · Today 21:10

pollyglot · Today 21:00
Oh dear, , not the sharpest highlighter in the box, are we? What a very silly bunch of comments. I have said on numerous occasions that I was a teacher for 47 years. An extremely successful one, in fact...the number of "failures" (a word I hate to use, as it simply means passing through the draughting gates of public exams), at Common Entrance and Scholarship, GCSEs, A Levels, including the Cambridge International A and A2 exams, I can count on one hand. Mostly As and As. One student in the Cambridge International A2 exam was top in the WORLD in Classical Studies. Not only an outstanding pass rate, but happy and fulfilled students. At Prep School, we played games. Running games, dancing, marching, battle re-enactments. Roman legions v. Barbarians in the woods after dark...resulting in occasional sprained ankles, scratches...you know, actual injuries. No-one cared. It's part of being a kid.*
When I first came to the UK, I was shocked at how "pulpy" British kids were. Flabby, pale, over-protected, precious. Now I know why. They are not allowed to take risks. I notice though that private school parents are a great deal more accepting, and never make a fuss...Broken finger? Oh dear, well, he won't do THAT again.
Of course teachers can make mistakes - I just don't think the gross exaggeration helps. My son's yr 7 PE teacher refused to believe that his asthma was too bad to do cross-country, and forced him to run. He almost died. Now that is an issue to make a fuss about, and I did. Lessons were learned.

Your just nasty! Oh and just for reference , my daughter also has chronic asthma and does cross country for her school and she's never complained once! That's called RESILIENCE!
As you can tell she's very sporty, she enjoys games, competitions and thrives at being competitive... on the field!
Not in a music lesson where her only crime was not knowing the answer to a question!

"Your(sic) just nasty", OP? For stating the truth?

I am prepared to bet that your daughter has not had eleven near-death experiences with her asthma. Unconscious, blue, not breathing, voided bowels and bladder, blue-lighted to hospital for a week on oxygen and massive doses of prednisone. Has she?
Has she ever staggered in from the garden, blue-lipped, tears gushing, gasping
"Mummy, don't let me die", and then passing out and ceasing to breathe?
Well, has she?

Don't tell me about asthmatic children. I have lived through the nightmare.

And yet my son continued to live an active life, and I had to believe that all would be well. "Keep the faith", my oncologist brother told me. He went hunting deer overnight in the remote bush, surfing, swimming champ. And very, very empathetic to others' pain as a result of his experience.

Oh, and the paediatrician warned me that his growth and fertility would be affected by the 80-mg doses of prednisone. He's 6'4, 100 kg, has 6 children.

Is this a competition?

Tiredallthetimelaura · 24/05/2025 22:20

MereNoelle · 24/05/2025 22:13

Why do you think it was those 2 in particular? Do you think the teacher hates sporty kids? Hates asthmatics? Hates people with selective mutism?

There we go again... nasty! Picking on kids! Shameful! Did my daughter ask for this? Did she deserve it?

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