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Candidates flying from overseas to sit super-selective grammar 11+

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PopcornPoppingInAPan · 16/03/2025 22:29

A friend told me for one of the super super selectives in London that some candidates who live overseas had flown in to sit the 11+ exam. If successful the whole family was relocating here. (This is foreign nationals, rather than “ex-pat” British families living overseas.) The school has no priority area.

I wondered if anyone had heard this and whether it was credible or if it’s one of those internet rumours?

I was also wondering if it’s even possible to do this. Obviously families do relocate to the UK and assuming they and the kids have a right to reside then the kids will be entitled to a school place. But can you do it before you’ve moved here?

I guess if you can put down a relative’s address as your address for the purpose of sitting the exam and then submitting the CAF maybe that’s all you need. I wasn’t sure if LAs did any more checks on candidates who aren’t already on their books at state primary, IYSWIM.

I have heard of a family moving from Yorkshire when their DC got a place at the same super selective school so perhaps this is just an extension of that.

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Moglet4 · 19/03/2025 08:52

Dtnews · 19/03/2025 07:53

The inflated CAT scores are the result of years of tutoring. It is nearly impossible to find the raw CAT scores of these students because they begin tutoring from a very early stage.

Most of them aren’t inflated. I taught these kids. It’s really mean to suggest they don’t deserve their places. They’re very, very bright kids and they do.

Dtnews · 19/03/2025 08:56

Moglet4 · 19/03/2025 08:52

Most of them aren’t inflated. I taught these kids. It’s really mean to suggest they don’t deserve their places. They’re very, very bright kids and they do.

I never suggested they don’t deserve their place. I simply pointed out that there are many other bright children who don’t take these spots or don’t join these schools in the first place.

Moreover, their CAT scores are inflated, making it extremely difficult to extract raw ability quantities. Most of them are heavily tutored to gain admission.

Araminta1003 · 19/03/2025 09:11

@Dtnews - I really do not understand what your problem is.
Of course there are many many other equally bright kids in state comprehensives all over the country. London is a big City though with millions of children so people who know their DCs are bright and can access these schools will go for it. Sometimes even if they themselves do not really like the concept of it.

I explained to you why - boys like this tend to thrive with other boys socially who have similar interests. And I do understand why other people who do not get access to these types of schools for free may get jealous. Because they also know that their own DCs would have enjoyed that and thrived there.

Nobody gets offended when some kids go to an Academy football club and the parents discover their kids innate running and dribbling skills at an early age. However, dare to do it with academics, then somehow it is a problem.

carcassonne1 · 19/03/2025 09:35

Sudoku, chess, gruelling daily and costly piano/violin lessons since toddler years... all these are not natural child activities that a child would naturally choose to do at a young age. It takes at least one stay at home/working part time and very engaged and determined adult with a lot of spare time to enforce all of these. I think it's fair to say this would not be possible with 2 parents working full time and a child at nursery/after school club till late hours, so typical setup in Europe. You would need a SAHP or a prep school. So again we are talking about people who are privileged in some way and/or child-oriented perfectionism (which probably is not good for kids in a long run).

There are a few very clever, independent and quite mature boys in my son's class. If given equal opportunities at state school (VR classes, reasonable standard of maths) they perhaps would have a chance to crack on the grammar school exams. Alas, they live at a council estate with parents who have no clue and would never ever manage to solve the 11+ math questions themselves. They spend whole days doing what most of the kids their age would are doing here - play football and Xbox and spend long hours on TikTok. I'm genuinely sorry for them. Kids should not lose out because of their parents. Everybody should have equal chances. The system is flawed.

Ubertomusic · 19/03/2025 09:39

carcassonne1 · 19/03/2025 09:35

Sudoku, chess, gruelling daily and costly piano/violin lessons since toddler years... all these are not natural child activities that a child would naturally choose to do at a young age. It takes at least one stay at home/working part time and very engaged and determined adult with a lot of spare time to enforce all of these. I think it's fair to say this would not be possible with 2 parents working full time and a child at nursery/after school club till late hours, so typical setup in Europe. You would need a SAHP or a prep school. So again we are talking about people who are privileged in some way and/or child-oriented perfectionism (which probably is not good for kids in a long run).

There are a few very clever, independent and quite mature boys in my son's class. If given equal opportunities at state school (VR classes, reasonable standard of maths) they perhaps would have a chance to crack on the grammar school exams. Alas, they live at a council estate with parents who have no clue and would never ever manage to solve the 11+ math questions themselves. They spend whole days doing what most of the kids their age would are doing here - play football and Xbox and spend long hours on TikTok. I'm genuinely sorry for them. Kids should not lose out because of their parents. Everybody should have equal chances. The system is flawed.

Reading is not a natural activity a child would choose to do either. Many parents don't force their children into such unnatural pursuits.

Dtnews · 19/03/2025 09:41

Araminta1003 · 19/03/2025 09:11

@Dtnews - I really do not understand what your problem is.
Of course there are many many other equally bright kids in state comprehensives all over the country. London is a big City though with millions of children so people who know their DCs are bright and can access these schools will go for it. Sometimes even if they themselves do not really like the concept of it.

I explained to you why - boys like this tend to thrive with other boys socially who have similar interests. And I do understand why other people who do not get access to these types of schools for free may get jealous. Because they also know that their own DCs would have enjoyed that and thrived there.

Nobody gets offended when some kids go to an Academy football club and the parents discover their kids innate running and dribbling skills at an early age. However, dare to do it with academics, then somehow it is a problem.

Of course there are many many other equally bright kids in state comprehensives all over the country. London is a big City though with millions of children so people who know their DCs are bright and can access these schools will go for it. Sometimes even if they themselves do not really like the concept of it.

That reinforces the earlier point: many students in grammar schools are not in the top 5-10% of the population in terms of raw ability, even though you seem inclined to believe they are. Many other bright children, and particularly their parents, dislike the concept of 11+ tutoring or the idea of grammar schools themselves, so they choose not to participate. Many of these children thrive in whichever schools they attend.

London is a large city, but as some have pointed out earlier, grammar schools in London often show a concentration of specific ethnic groups. This choice appears to be influenced more by selfselect cultural factors than by a purely widespread natural intellectual basis.

The criticism here is more about principles and beliefs, rather than your simplistic thinking along the lines of, "Oh, they do not participate, so they must be jealous."

Nobody is offended by the idea of academic success, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that the path to achieving is the 11+ exams or grammar schools. These methods are likely not as effective or beneficial as you might believe.

carcassonne1 · 19/03/2025 09:52

Ubertomusic · 19/03/2025 09:39

Reading is not a natural activity a child would choose to do either. Many parents don't force their children into such unnatural pursuits.

They don't teach reading at a state school?
My post was about equal opportunities and what it takes to shape a child who would have a chance to crack on grammar school exams.

Araminta1003 · 19/03/2025 09:52

@carcassonne1 - Football and Xbox are fine, but I would never allow my children to have unlimited access to the internet, it is dangerous. Pretty much all my friends are waking up to the harms of the internet now. I think during Covid we all just got too lax with children in that regard, because we had to work and it seemed to be a necessity.

We all grew up with piano lessons and singing in church and chess and books and crosswords and our parents reading to us. My DC still have some of my own childhood books and those of their grandparents.
But there is and never was some gruelling sort of regime. We are a musical family and all played scrabble and chess and even some bridge with our own parents. In fact, their grandparent introduced my kids to Suduko, as fun.

Is it any different in other countries? France, Germany, Spain etc.? How do you engage the parents educationally who don’t really want to? I think controlling the screen exposure of children is probably more important than grammar school access. Would you agree?

Ubertomusic · 19/03/2025 09:59

carcassonne1 · 19/03/2025 09:52

They don't teach reading at a state school?
My post was about equal opportunities and what it takes to shape a child who would have a chance to crack on grammar school exams.

Apparently they don't 🤷‍♀️ Have you heard that 30-40% cannot pass GCSE English?

But I was just pointing out to the simple fact that human beings have to do lots of "unnatural" things. You seem to have a problem with chess and music - well, reading and writing is in the same category for not being natural and bloody hard to learn, why are they OK for you?

Araminta1003 · 19/03/2025 10:00

“These methods are likely not as effective or beneficial as you might believe.”

@Dtnews - what do you mean by that? I just want my kid to be happy and have friends he can bond with. Like most parents. These types of boys love to discuss things at break time which are not typical for the standard child.

Ubertomusic · 19/03/2025 10:05

carcassonne1 · 19/03/2025 09:52

They don't teach reading at a state school?
My post was about equal opportunities and what it takes to shape a child who would have a chance to crack on grammar school exams.

Of course British education has been designed to segregate classes and it will remain the same as our state system is not changing. Of course it is purposefully unfair. Those from lower classes who want to escape are forced to jump through the hoops taking blows from right, left and centre, that's how the great British elite selects the most fit for taking managerial roles. It's ruthless but you're a foreigner, you can escape it via a different route.

Dtnews · 19/03/2025 10:05

Araminta1003 · 19/03/2025 10:00

“These methods are likely not as effective or beneficial as you might believe.”

@Dtnews - what do you mean by that? I just want my kid to be happy and have friends he can bond with. Like most parents. These types of boys love to discuss things at break time which are not typical for the standard child.

What I meant is that there is little evidence to suggest that grammar schools or the 11+ exam significantly improve a child's development, all else being equal.

You seem to want to believe that your boys are not typical, standard children. Fine, yours are special.

Araminta1003 · 19/03/2025 10:08

@carcassonne1 - my DS would not want to spend hours on TikTok or Xbox or playing football. He would want to do his music practice first and foremost and he would want to read books and newspapers and discuss political and current issues. He will play some football at school and do some Xbox but given a choice, it would not be his go to. It bores him. He is thirsty for learning facts and finding out how the world works and perfecting his music and watching performers he admires. It is what interests him more. I do not think it is what I shaped. As one of my DDs is quite different in her interests.

Dtnews · 19/03/2025 10:08

British education has been designed to segregate classes and it will remain the same as our state system is not changing

The landscape has changed significantly. Most grammar schools were abolished 30 years ago, and more closures are likely to follow. With the introduction of private school VAT and other changes, it’s clear the educational system is evolving. Just look at how the world is shifting

JeanPaulGagtier · 19/03/2025 10:09

I can see both sides here - in a grammar area which means the surrounding schools are full of kids who believe they failed academically by 11. As a teacher it is very hard to re-engage these kids, who see others who had the money to be tutored but were not as intrinsically bright in primary, getting a leg-up. It's worse in many ways than the private cohort because at least the parents are not forcing kids to take places from actually bright children then struggle and pay for tutoring to keep up. Creating sink schools and a wave of kids disenchanted with learning from 11 is a terrible way to educate kids in certain parts of the country. Pretending the kids who can afford years of tutoring are different to private school kids is champagne socialism at it's worst. We all know this is a huge issue with these schools yet parents push to keep them so their kids don't have to mix with others or they would have to pay for private.

JeanPaulGagtier · 19/03/2025 10:12

Dtnews · 19/03/2025 10:08

British education has been designed to segregate classes and it will remain the same as our state system is not changing

The landscape has changed significantly. Most grammar schools were abolished 30 years ago, and more closures are likely to follow. With the introduction of private school VAT and other changes, it’s clear the educational system is evolving. Just look at how the world is shifting

Yes it is "evolving" but the worry is that it is taking out the highest achieving without catching up from the bottom.

Recent SEN talks have understood smaller class sizes in schools are important - just as private schools have been saying all along. You can't have private school facilities and teaching without more investment in education. Why won't the gov pay what they should to educate all kids equally to the same high standard as private schools, rather that pulling apart what works and leaving the rubble?

carcassonne1 · 19/03/2025 10:13

@Araminta1003 My post was not about screen time but equal opportunities for all of the children regardless of their parents' attitude. This is not possible at the age of 10. A child aged 10 has no maturity yet to decide for himself/herself what opportunities are there or what it even means to choose that school or this school.
In my home country we were 14 when we took the exams. Still, my parents preferred for me to go to a local school (they didn't know how to play chess, just a typical family from a small town/village). But at 14 I had this ambition and enough maturity to decide for myself at that age to try exams in a neighbouring city and I got in. So no, an average European family would not play chess or Sudoku. My sister's kids spend whole days glued to Xbox (they got 1 device each). They play football on the weekends. My grandparents spend time working in their garden or in a church. Nobody ever spent any time with me playing mind games, doing crosswords, etc. and I don't know anybody who did that. Because nobody had time. They worked hard full time whole day in the office and when they came home they had to work in the garden to grow the vegetables and put the food on the table. Likewise, my sister works full time and is knackered when she gets back home. My BIL is in the army and is rarely at home. When he gets home, he goes to his farm and works hard there. Kids go to both grandparents' houses when parents work. They don't play board games. So I'm surprised you think this would be normal in Europe. Perhaps in cities, upper middle class folk. Maybe 10% of the society.

Araminta1003 · 19/03/2025 10:18

“The landscape has changed significantly. Most grammar schools were abolished 30 years ago, and more closures are likely to follow. With the introduction of private school VAT and other changes, it’s clear the educational system is evolving. Just look at how the world is shifting”

Closures of grammar schools? That would be illegal. All they could do is abolish selection in the future for future year groups and make it catchment based.

The private school VAT is about to fail in court as well. It will probably get watered down massively.

Araminta1003 · 19/03/2025 10:19

@carcassonne1 - I do not know. We spent a lot of time with our grandparents doing these activities. As did my own DCs. Music and singing, in particular, being read to by grandparents and they are the ones doing the board games and gardening as well.

Ubertomusic · 19/03/2025 10:22

Dtnews · 19/03/2025 10:08

British education has been designed to segregate classes and it will remain the same as our state system is not changing

The landscape has changed significantly. Most grammar schools were abolished 30 years ago, and more closures are likely to follow. With the introduction of private school VAT and other changes, it’s clear the educational system is evolving. Just look at how the world is shifting

Closing grammar schools and introducing VAT to wipe out middle class plebs from private schools is exactly what I'm talking about - restricting access to education and social lifts for lower classes.

The landscape is changing indeed, we don't need so many "managers" anymore to control the plebs for the elites, the plebs have been happy to sit in lockdowns obediently as they were told even without proper enforcement, that shows the elites they don't really need much resources to control the population now, this is exactly why the elites are closing the pathways and why the competition for the scarce remaining places is becoming cut throat.

There is no money for state schools from VAT y'know.

Araminta1003 · 19/03/2025 10:24

I agree that class sizes in primary schools in England are far too big. They should take the demographic changes and make them 25 and fund it accordingly. If you get the primary years right, then the rest is more likely to follow. Most of the research shows that those failing SATS at KS2 find it very difficult to catch up later.

Araminta1003 · 19/03/2025 10:25

The VAT was always a trick on the die hard Labour lefties anyway @Ubertomusic - especially coming from someone who actually knows the HR Act pretty well. More fool them.

Dtnews · 19/03/2025 10:37

Ubertomusic · 19/03/2025 10:22

Closing grammar schools and introducing VAT to wipe out middle class plebs from private schools is exactly what I'm talking about - restricting access to education and social lifts for lower classes.

The landscape is changing indeed, we don't need so many "managers" anymore to control the plebs for the elites, the plebs have been happy to sit in lockdowns obediently as they were told even without proper enforcement, that shows the elites they don't really need much resources to control the population now, this is exactly why the elites are closing the pathways and why the competition for the scarce remaining places is becoming cut throat.

There is no money for state schools from VAT y'know.

"The government will likely find a way to impose fees or levies on grammar schools, if not close them altogether, in order to generate more revenue.

The absence of grammar schools or academies does not equate to restricting access to education. In fact, more students from comprehensive schools are now attending universities, including many prestigious ones, and they are the generation driving this change forward. I’m not sure what definition of 'elite' you are using, though. I hope the elite mentioned is not a single mum from proverty but send DD to prep school or expert in 11 plus tutoring or nuroscentist specialist.

Araminta1003 · 19/03/2025 10:38

The most urgent social mobility issue is most definitely screen time and internet access. The rich elite are very protective of their children in that regard.

Araminta1003 · 19/03/2025 10:42

@Dtnews - you are clearly very passionate about your cause and idea of a comprehensive education for all and we can respect that.
However, no Government is going to be shutting down all the best performing state schools. It is never going to happen. They do not care about Education enough, it is never going to be top of their agenda nor are they willing to spend to do anything like that.

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