@ByMerryKoala I'd much rather that my children attend stricter schools with stricter teachers than schools with poor discipline and at the mercy of bullying children who thrive within them
Please, please, pretty please, can you kindly explain to me the thought process whereby you seem to imply that
- the only alternatives are such Victorian schools with needlessly cruel policies, crushing the kids' spirit into compliance, and unruly schools where anarchy and chaos reign, as if there could be nothing in between?
- these petty, capricious rules are actually necessary to maintain discipline?
- these petty capricious rules either do not have an effect on the students' mental health, or, if they do, you couldn't give a flying fig?
And I say this as a parent who is often considered the strictest in my child's circle of friends, who strongly supports schools banning phones, who has absolutely stood by the school when the school told off my child for misbehaving.
Is it necessary to shout at children for misplacing a bag (Mossbourne)?
Is it necessary to give them detention for cycling to school (Ashcroft)?
Is it necessary to give detentions to a girl for wearing the 99% identical but cheaper Asda skirt (somewhere near Manchester)?
Is it necessary to punish children for taking one second too long to get a pen out (Micaela) or to teach them to talk while standing up with their arms crossed (also Micaela), a stupid habit they will have to unlearn as it signals distance?
Is it necessary to force children to wear blazers in a heatwave (many schools all over the country)?
Please, please, pretty please, can you explain what these policies achieve?
Are they conducive to the development of critical thinking and analytical skills? Or do they crush kids' spirits into submission? Or do they risk teaching kids that rules are petty and capricious? Please, can you answer?
@NINP the thing is, my dc are well behaved. So it’s very unlikely that any of them would be screamed at, isolated for three hours and told they’re disgusting. Unless this is a routine procedure for all new starters in Y7, in which case I think it’d be more widely reported. I’ve had a look at the discipline policies for those schools and they look fine to me.
@NINP I ask you the same questions: even if your kids are well-behaved and can stick to the rules, what do these kind of rules teach them? How will your kids grow and develop as individuals?
Do you think they will have learnt to think with their own minds and ask: "wait a second, this doesn't sound right, why are we doing it this way?"
If they are ever in toxic work environments as adults, do you think they will be able to recognise that and act against it? Or will they have internalised that you must keep your head down and passively accept whatever is thrown at you?