Shouted at daughters bully

[Jenwilks82]

So I think I may have messed up.
My almost 13 year old daughter has been getting targeted by some horrible girls, one in particular being the ringleader. The rumors about her, isolation, inviting her to places just to be the butt of a joke.
We were driving home and the main girl was on the path, I stopped and shouted at her to leave my daughter alone, and it's not big or clever to bully. They ran after the car shouting abuse, so again I shouted at this girl saying it's wrong, how would she like it if someone said things to her or called her a mess and a fat cow etc (things my slim little daughter gets called and now won't eat!).
Long story short they recorded me and the parents of this girl are rough! They said they are going to the police, school etc and I'm pretty sure this video will make things worse.
I know I should have kept my emotions in check and I'm in the wrong for shouting at a minor, but how much trouble could I be in?

I would have reversed my car into them. Yes, I know I do have a few screws loose.

As some have said I'm far from thinking about myself! I am beside myself that this has potentially made it worse for my child. I am well aware that in the age of phones I should have kept my emotions in check. I was trying to protect my daughter but inadvertently made it so much worse.
I didn't threaten or swear at the child but it's still potentially a public order offence.

how did your daughter's day go today OP?

Nobody has said anything to her. The main bully started with some other kids and has ended up in more trouble with the school as she was violent to them. She's banned from sharing any video of me and from going near my daughter. So I'm praying it stays like that. The bully is a trouble maker and by the sound of it alot of kids and their parents have had enough of her.

I wouldn't worry about the police taking it seriously, you didn't commit any actual crime @Jenwilks82 .

Have you been up to the school and asked them to sort it? Every single time my DS12 now has issues with bullying boys (sane group of arseholes) I record it on email and get the school to sort it. My DS is a bit of a target as he's ADHD and likely autistic and bullies can sniff these children out from miles away. Good luck

Maybe not your best move, but it's done now, do rather than recoil and shrink, take ownership, be proud, and say yes I did that, so? Moving forward, be proactive, have you asked for another appointment with HoY, to let everyone know you are following up on it all?

I have worked for decades in secondary education and bullying occurs in all schools and can be very hard to deal with. I once sat in on a meeting when the headteacher told a ringleader like the girl in this school in the OPs posts if she spoke to or went near the victim again he would permanently exclude her. Could not have been clearer. The girl ignored him and carried on. Her parents removed her because the head was in the process of carrying out his promise.
I always advise children who are being victimised to do everything they can to stay in safe places with other children, if they have friends stay with them.
Also and I know when parents are angry this is unwelcome advice, please email or phone for an appointment, please don't go to the school and expect to be seen. We just don't have a lot of staff available. And I don't think waiting for up to an hour is going to make you feel better.

I hope things stay peaceful for her op. If there is one main ringleader and the school are able to deal with her hopefully that will knock it on the head.

I don't think a video of you telling them to leave your kid alone and pointing out the things they say to her will make them look great tbh so they'd be thick as mince to do anything with it. Though they may spread it around for clout.

Op, I would email the school asap saying the bullying has escalated.

Acknowledge you shouldn’t have shouted at the girl but you were at the end of your tether and need their help to stop the bullying. The fat comments are particularly alarming as you don’t want dd to become anorexic.

Good luck and hope you get it sorted.

This. I’d definitely go for finding the kid when they are on their own though, even if you have to lie in wait somewhere. And threatening them in a low voice, no need for shouting, and no witnesses to overhear.

Yup. I don't even know if you're being sarcy but it's exactly what I'd do. In fact, if I had contact with the school, I'd tell them what will happen if they allow the kid to hurt mine (again). They can try and reprimand me for saying it, but they'd have to admit they have allowed my child to be harmed by their bullies in order to report me.