My Mum bought her 16 yr old grandson (My nephew) an XBOX 10 for Xmas when he was casually playing truant from school. Yesterday headteacher turned up because he was at home gaming

[Carlj1988]

My nephew is an October kid so he wont finish till he's nearly 17.

Listen I'm all for nanna's spoiling their grandkids but this is pretty damn irresponsible in my view.

In Mid December my mum found out my nephew was casually bunking off because "He didn't like science."

Now I was completely against the Xbox till next summer But my Mum only gave the ultimatum that he had to attend school for the last week in december to get the console.

I directly asked her today if my nephew was on the console when the headteacher arrived and she completely brushed my concerns off.

I would love to print out some of your thoughts on the matter considering she doesn't give a damn what I think.

Also My sister was home too when the headteacher arrived.

I can't believe the message the two closest women in his life are sending to him

He's loving it as you can imagine. He's got it made

Would you buy an xbox 10 with the latest games for a lad bunking off in his last year?

this is an odd thread

i suspect this boy has a very chequered history at school before being gifted the xbox. This xbox will just be fanning the flames of an already piss poor schooling situation

Yes it's irresponsible, but nothing to do with you - presumably his mum is ok with it and any repercussions are hers.

they didn’t buy it for bunking off

They bought it as a “carrot”. It has failed.

And there you are, with your cats bum expression in the corner

Surely it’s his mothers fault for not making him go to school not his Grandmothers for buying a nice Christmas present?

How is this your business? Are you paying for his school? Does he live with you?

I don’t understand why this is any of your business?

I would love to print out some of your thoughts on the matter considering she doesn't give a damn what I think.
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She could have bought him a football and he could bunk off to kick that around if footy was his thing.
This is for his parents and school to sort out.
Not you.

Oh yeah, wth?

In Mid December my mum found out my nephew was casually bunking off because "He didn't like science.

before he had the xbox there were serious problems

and your suggestion to show your mum a mumsnet thread

OP, i suspect in RL, your view on, well anything, isn’t exactly held in high regard. So back off

I think the Xbox is a red herring. Loads of kids, including mine, have a console and don't bunk off.

You are sticking your nose in where it's clearly not wanted, and now want a bunch of strangers to back up your opinion so you can print them out in an "I told you so" moment, stay out of it.

This is a problem for his mum, dad and the grandmother to solve.

I think what you're saying is that your sister doesn't mind that her son is not attending school, in Year 11, is that right? I am quite sure the school and the EWO will soon be on their case about his lack of attendance.

Absolutely not. He’d have a bedroom with a bed in it and little else. But unfortunately if this is his behaviour at 16 it doesn’t bode well. I’d be spending time and effort helping him plan his next steps post school to give him a focus and a bit of ambition to encourage him to go to school. If you want to do X you’re going to need Y (GCSE maths, English etc)
Why are they letting him bunk off anyway? Mad!

Surely this is your sister's issue, not yours?

Not your circus, not your monkeys!

How's the view from your high horse OP?

I don't really see how this is any of your business, leave other people's relationships, parenting and education to them.

For one, it's nothing to do with you. He's not your kid. And two, wtf is an Xbox 10 🤣

He was skiving anyway so don't think the Xbox is the main problem. Nothing to do with you though.

It's a sad situation but I'm not sure what you can do about it.
Buying the x-box was a misguided attempt to encourage your nephew but it has backfired.

Yes, you're right to be concerned as he is your family but , ultimately, if his mother isn't bothered then all you can do is hope that the school takes further action via the appropriate authorities.

To those saying that it's got nothing to do with the OP, this is exactly why we should all be working together to make sure children don't slip through the net.

He’s 16 not 6, surely it’s up to him to sort out?

Xbox X not Xbox 10

Good grief

Why did the head teacher go round?

https://www.gov.uk/know-when-you-can-leave-school

You've made your views clear to your mother and sister, and they don't give a "damn what" you think.

If they are not going to listen to you, why would they care about opinions, strangers from MN think?