My Mum bought her 16 yr old grandson (My nephew) an XBOX 10 for Xmas when he was casually playing truant from school. Yesterday headteacher turned up because he was at home gaming

[Carlj1988]

My nephew is an October kid so he wont finish till he's nearly 17.

Listen I'm all for nanna's spoiling their grandkids but this is pretty damn irresponsible in my view.

In Mid December my mum found out my nephew was casually bunking off because "He didn't like science."

Now I was completely against the Xbox till next summer But my Mum only gave the ultimatum that he had to attend school for the last week in december to get the console.

I directly asked her today if my nephew was on the console when the headteacher arrived and she completely brushed my concerns off.

I would love to print out some of your thoughts on the matter considering she doesn't give a damn what I think.

Also My sister was home too when the headteacher arrived.

I can't believe the message the two closest women in his life are sending to him

He's loving it as you can imagine. He's got it made

Would you buy an xbox 10 with the latest games for a lad bunking off in his last year?

Why the hell would they care what we think?!

Gaming is an addiction to many young people. (And older).

Bunking off school, staying up all night, not getting round to homework, job applications because they are glued to the console, ducking out of family and social life in favour of gaming. We see so many posts about this on MN.

Would I buy a new console as a reward for such basic and short lived attendance? No chance. Would I be at home on a school day and watch my Yr 11 Dc spending his day glued to his X Box? Not a chance in hell.

But that’s my family. Gif knows what goes on in this particular family. But say, whatever it is, the outcome won’t be a teenager giving himself his best chances. Or any chances.

When did secondary school head teachers start doing house calls?

possibly a desperate head trying to introduce new measures to get persistent truants to school

Yes this is a thing...teachers coming over if a pupil is persistently absent

This. And it's really none of your business so no need to butt in!!

I would love to print out some of your thoughts on the matter considering she doesn't give a damn what I think.

My thoughts are that it's none of your fucking business. And based on how judgemental you seem maybe there's more to his "bunking off" than not liking science and they've not told you.

Of course it's also entirely possible he's just bunking off. But it's still none of your business.

I think you probably have a massive lack of insight into the situation. I hope the head didnt just turn up!

It's not as easy as it sounds when a 16 year old refuses to go to school. I was in that position as a lone parent. My son was 6ft and strong, I am 5ft 2 and weak. Apart from endless talking, threatening, crying, pleading etc what can you actually do? Even if my husband had still been around, what could he have really done?

@Comedycook

Headteachers?

I don't know but it wouldnt surprise me

Starting a thread to slag off your mum for doing something that's none of your business is very odd.

I wish someone had done that when my son was refusing to go to school. He was happy to speak to the teachers but was too anxious to be on the school premises. They said they didn't do that.

I went outside one day and saw our headteacher going into a house up the road where one of DC's friends lives.
I scuttled back inside and hid in case he came to us as well as the place was a bit of a tip.
I found out later that he had called with the permission of the parents to try to get their DC into school.
So yes, this is definitely a thing.

Mind Your Own Business.
It absolutely nothing to do with you ffs.

@Comedycook

I'd have thought headteachers would be busy running the school. Very surprised they are out doing home visits.

Not a thing in Scotland.

Not a sausage to do with you. Beak firmly out!

This.

He didn't chose to stay at home gaming. He have been at home anyway. Because the responsible adult - his mother - let him.

All these posts about “mind your own business” “nothing to do with you” you are the rudest most arrogant individuals ever…. find a hobby!

It is her nephew!!!

Normal healthy family members often have an opinion, especially on younger family members who they may have a hand in raising, If something is happening in their life that doesn’t benefit them, it’s called caring.

If her nephews mother was an alcoholic or worse should she not step in? 🙈 or should she “mind her own business”

Maybe the authors of the rude comments haven’t experienced such care within their family. if something happened to your child at school, or when they’re out and about and there were people around, would you like them to help your child or mind their own business?

Good for you for looking out for a nephew.

it takes a village….

Or maybe we've experienced interfering relatives telling us what we should be doing whilst not actually having a fucking clue what's going on.

She brought him the xbox as a reward for going into school every day in the run up to Christmas. She probably thought it might break the cycle.

Mind your own business. He's old to get his first Xbox too.

He s nearly an adult
He has to find the motivation
You can encourage him take him on a day out show him.the value of work and education
But otherwise leave to headteacher to bollock him

honestly

utterly daft

at least you’ve given me a chuckle over my coffee

I don't have a clue why this young man isn't going to school. Clearly, the OP doesn't either. Her "caring" is about attacking everyone else for whatever they have or haven't done.

In the end, this is the parents issue to resolve, but if she's so very concerned, then she can rock up at the house every morning and drag her nephew to school. Instead of posting judgemental crap about her family when she has nothing to offer.