Social Isolation

[Anjay1]

My daughter has been friends with 3 other children before they started year 7 in September.

When It was my daughters birthday in August, I invited all three children to Ninja Warriors and the parents to join them for dinner at TGI'S, which I paid for.

One of the kids parents put on the WhatsApp group that the kids are invited to her child birthday on the 25th October.
Two weeks before, she then put on the WhatsApp group that her daughter has decided to go ice skating with her cousins instead.
I sent the mum a private message saying that I have presents that are quite big and heavy for my daughter to carry and therefore
could we sort something out nearer the time to get the presents from me. Everything was all good.
On Monday just gone, I travelled 40 minutes to give the mum the presents. Two days later, I messaged the kum to wish her daughter a happy birthday and she responded and said thank you for the presents.
The day after, the 26th October, one of the girls put on her WhatsApp status of the 3 girls (including the birthday girl) a video of them celebrating the girls birthday. My daughter saw it on the girls status and was really annoyed and sad. I told her not to worry and things happen. 20 minutes later, the video was removed.
Yesterday the mum, who's child's birthday it was, blocked me on WhatsApp and Facebook with nothing mentioned.

Do you think I am right in being annoyed by the whole thing?
I even spent approximately £70 and this is what she does.
I've just checked my daughters phone and her daughter hasn't blocked mine which I sm relieved about but I really don't get it?!

@TulipOH
Yeap pretty normal to block people when one feels uncomfortable with generosity. Standard in Britain . Yeap
£22 gift is so expensive that it is offensive 😂

You only met this child in July. You are invited her to your child's birthday after only meeting her once. Now you buy a huge present, . The girls are probably not even that close esp since the birthday plans changed. You are also checking to see if a child has blocked you on whatapp . I certainly hope the mother encourages her child to block you, that sounds very stalker ISH.

No I was checking if that girl has blocked my daughter!

It seems like most of you think its my fault and it's normal behaviour!

Sorry! My fault for being generous!

I don't think it's good behaviour to block someone for making them feel awkward, it's just that it may be an explanation. Some people don't handle awkward situations very well.

I understand some ppl don't understand how to deal with awkward situations but she was happy to bring herself and her daughter to mine and then invite to unidirectional my daughter to the block me?!
I don't think this is excusable. Not even a little bit of guilt?!

Seems like most ppl here are justifying her behaviour...

Coming up with explanations isn't justifying. Ideally she would have told you directly that such an expensive gift made her uncomfortable or that your daughter's weren't that close. It's anyone's guess as to why she didn't it whether it has made her feel guilty and it's probably not helpful to speculate.

Her behaviour was unacceptable and you came on too strong. Both of these things can be true, OP. The only behaviour that you have any control over is your own and that is why pp are focusing on it in an attempt to help you.

You have been overgenerous and a bit try-hard but I think you know that, the other woman sounds ungracious and rough around the edges. Her income compared to yours is irrelevant, she lacks manners so reverted to type. Even if you hadn't bought a gift, inviting a child then faking a change of plans in order to ostracise that child is shitty behaviour, and doubly shitty as she's setting this example to her own child of how to treat people. I've experienced similar not with my own DC but realising another child was being treated in this way, and trust me it says more about this woman than it does about you or your DD.

Eventually others will cotton on if they haven't already, leave her for the universe to sort out and be glad this person isn't going to be in your life for the next 5 to 7 years. Ignore, move on and learn from this never to spend more than a tenner on other people's DC.